crfsti Posted July 11, 2010 Share Posted July 11, 2010 Just wondering, because I have been told this many times by friends, family members, co-workers, etc. Cause I'm almost 27 and have had zero luck with the ladies so far And I hate to think all these folks have just been lying to my face this whole time.... What's your input? Link to post Share on other sites
Gero Posted July 11, 2010 Share Posted July 11, 2010 Just wondering, because I have been told this many times by friends, family members, co-workers, etc. Cause I'm almost 27 and have had zero luck with the ladies so far And I hate to think all these folks have just been lying to my face this whole time.... What's your input? Ha. A girl just told me this recently along with a few other things. Link to post Share on other sites
threebyfate Posted July 11, 2010 Share Posted July 11, 2010 Being a great catch and not in a relationship with anyone could mean one of a few things or possibly a combination: While you have many positives, it's possible that there might be some negatives that are dealbreakers.Your family, friends and coworkers are being nice to you.People who know you will be fond of you and so you're natural and comfortable with them. When you're in a situation where it's time to try to connect with a girl, you might just tense up and not be the person you normally are.You preemptively reject due to fear of failure and/or commitment.You're impossibly picky or shooting too high. Link to post Share on other sites
Gero Posted July 11, 2010 Share Posted July 11, 2010 People who know you will be fond of you and so you're natural and comfortable with them. When you're in a situation where it's time to try to connect with a girl, you might just tense up and not be the person you normally are. That's definitely my main one. Link to post Share on other sites
gamma1 Posted July 11, 2010 Share Posted July 11, 2010 Being a great catch and not in a relationship with anyone could mean one of a few things or possibly a combination:While you have many positives, it's possible that there might be some negatives that are dealbreakers.Your family, friends and coworkers are being nice to you.People who know you will be fond of you and so you're natural and comfortable with them. When you're in a situation where it's time to try to connect with a girl, you might just tense up and not be the person you normally are.You preemptively reject due to fear of failure and/or commitment.You're impossibly picky or shooting too high. These reasons all make sense. Being called a "great catch" is a huge negative. Link to post Share on other sites
Norville_Rogers Posted July 11, 2010 Share Posted July 11, 2010 A guy being called a great catch is the equvilant of a girl being told that she has a great personality. But I've been told that I'm a great catch also and I hate it. If I'm such a great catch....then why am I all alone? I chalk it up as nice guys finish last. Link to post Share on other sites
Author crfsti Posted July 11, 2010 Author Share Posted July 11, 2010 Being a great catch and not in a relationship with anyone could mean one of a few things or possibly a combination: While you have many positives, it's possible that there might be some negatives that are dealbreakers.Your family, friends and coworkers are being nice to you.People who know you will be fond of you and so you're natural and comfortable with them. When you're in a situation where it's time to try to connect with a girl, you might just tense up and not be the person you normally are.You preemptively reject due to fear of failure and/or commitment.You're impossibly picky or shooting too high. Hmm, interesting. Reading that made me see that I have big problems:sick: Link to post Share on other sites
Author crfsti Posted July 11, 2010 Author Share Posted July 11, 2010 These reasons all make sense. Being called a "great catch" is a huge negative. Yeah, I'm starting to see that now and it suck's! Wish I would of known this info ten years ago.... It's amazing how something like that sounds so good and makes you feel awesome about yourself, can mean the total opposite and be hurting your chances this whole time. It doesn't make any sense:confused: Link to post Share on other sites
USMCHokie Posted July 11, 2010 Share Posted July 11, 2010 Being labeled a "great catch" generally means that you have traits and characteristics that would make you a suitable partner and/or provider. In my experience, great catches tend to be those who are good "on paper" but are otherwise lacking something that hinders their relationships, whether it be real or mentally induced. Link to post Share on other sites
USMCHokie Posted July 11, 2010 Share Posted July 11, 2010 These reasons all make sense. Being called a "great catch" is a huge negative. A guy being called a great catch is the equvilant of a girl being told that she has a great personality. But I've been told that I'm a great catch also and I hate it. If I'm such a great catch....then why am I all alone? I chalk it up as nice guys finish last. You seem to think that just because you have some good qualities that a woman would love to have in a guy, you are automatically entited to a relationship...but since women aren't flocking to you in droves, you have essentially given up and fallen prey to the nice guy syndrome... My best friend always said that I was a great catch (a male, by the way, no homo). I didn't believe him for the longest time and played the same game you are playing...about nice guys finishing last and women not really being interested in me...but at some point, I decided I'd had enough of that and used the great catch nonsense as motivation to make whatever changes I needed to make and actually go out and show women how great of a catch I really was... The only thing you can really do is pull your head from out of your ass and stop blaming the world or the female gender for something you have complete control over. Link to post Share on other sites
Author crfsti Posted July 11, 2010 Author Share Posted July 11, 2010 A guy being called a great catch is the equvilant of a girl being told that she has a great personality. But I've been told that I'm a great catch also and I hate it. If I'm such a great catch....then why am I all alone? I chalk it up as nice guys finish last. Wouldn't a girl having a great personality be a huge plus? At least I think so. I hate all this read between the lines bs, bunch of red tape that drives you insane. I have so much to learn... Link to post Share on other sites
You'reasian Posted July 11, 2010 Share Posted July 11, 2010 Just wondering, because I have been told this many times by friends, family members, co-workers, etc. Cause I'm almost 27 and have had zero luck with the ladies so far And I hate to think all these folks have just been lying to my face this whole time.... What's your input? You probably have some great qualities, but haven't found the right person. People make the difference. Dating/relationship behavior is influenced by location and venue to an extent. Add to it that there's only one you and you can't be attractive to every woman. Link to post Share on other sites
USMCHokie Posted July 11, 2010 Share Posted July 11, 2010 Wouldn't a girl having a great personality be a huge plus? At least I think so. I hate all this read between the lines bs, bunch of red tape that drives you insane. I have so much to learn... Men tend to be very looks driven, so compliments are generally aimed at the physical attributes of a woman...so popular belief is that if a woman is said to have a "great personality," it's just man-code for saying that she's not that aesthetically pleasing... Link to post Share on other sites
Author crfsti Posted July 11, 2010 Author Share Posted July 11, 2010 You seem to think that just because you have some good qualities that a woman would love to have in a guy, you are automatically entited to a relationship...but since women aren't flocking to you in droves, you have essentially given up and fallen prey to the nice guy syndrome... My best friend always said that I was a great catch (a male, by the way, no homo). I didn't believe him for the longest time and played the same game you are playing...about nice guys finishing last and women not really being interested in me...but at some point, I decided I'd had enough of that and used the great catch nonsense as motivation to make whatever changes I needed to make and actually go out and show women how great of a catch I really was... The only thing you can really do is pull your head from out of your ass and stop blaming the world or the female gender for something you have complete control over. USMCHokie, reading that made me feel like someone just stuck their hand out of my computer screen and slapped me across the face:laugh: Link to post Share on other sites
USMCHokie Posted July 11, 2010 Share Posted July 11, 2010 USMCHokie, reading that made me feel like someone just stuck their hand out of my computer screen and slapped me across the face:laugh: Heh. I do that sometimes...but I prefer to use a boat paddle for the slapping... Link to post Share on other sites
You'reasian Posted July 11, 2010 Share Posted July 11, 2010 You seem to think that just because you have some good qualities that a woman would love to have in a guy, you are automatically entited to a relationship...but since women aren't flocking to you in droves, you have essentially given up and fallen prey to the nice guy syndrome... My best friend always said that I was a great catch (a male, by the way, no homo). I didn't believe him for the longest time and played the same game you are playing...about nice guys finishing last and women not really being interested in me...but at some point, I decided I'd had enough of that and used the great catch nonsense as motivation to make whatever changes I needed to make and actually go out and show women how great of a catch I really was... The only thing you can really do is pull your head from out of your ass and stop blaming the world or the female gender for something you have complete control over. All I gotta say about this is... oorah! Link to post Share on other sites
Ronni_W Posted July 11, 2010 Share Posted July 11, 2010 Yeah, I'm starting to see that now and it suck's! Wish I would of known this info ten years ago.... It's amazing how something like that sounds so good and makes you feel awesome about yourself, can mean the total opposite and be hurting your chances this whole time. What would you have done differently, in the last ten years, if you had been given this info ten years ago? Put another way. Given what you're starting to realize now, how, in your own mind, have you been "hurting your chances this whole time"? If you already know what you would have changed, then it would seem that you just need to start doing those specific things differently...changing/doing them like you would have been doing them the past decade (if that makes sense?) Link to post Share on other sites
Enchanted Girl Posted July 11, 2010 Share Posted July 11, 2010 Men usually aren't a good judge of what women want, so I wouldn't believe them about this and women sometimes lie to try to make someone feel better, so I don't blame you for worrying about it. You seem to think that just because you have some good qualities that a woman would love to have in a guy, you are automatically entited to a relationship...but since women aren't flocking to you in droves, you have essentially given up and fallen prey to the nice guy syndrome... My best friend always said that I was a great catch (a male, by the way, no homo). I didn't believe him for the longest time and played the same game you are playing...about nice guys finishing last and women not really being interested in me...but at some point, I decided I'd had enough of that and used the great catch nonsense as motivation to make whatever changes I needed to make and actually go out and show women how great of a catch I really was... The only thing you can really do is pull your head from out of your ass and stop blaming the world or the female gender for something you have complete control over. I agree with this post though. And some advice for you, girls really like guys who 1. Make them laugh and 2. Are confident (but not narcassists.) They don't want cheesy pick-up lines, but they want a man who will take the initiative and ask them out and also a man who can flirt with them and make them giggle. Or just make them laugh in general. When girls laugh with someone, they connect with them. They feel comfortable with them and excited about being with them. That's why we like to goof around (especially as teenagers) and laugh with our friends. It's a lot of fun. While, on the other hand, a girl who talks to you about her feelings a lot may develop an attraction to you, but sometimes that behavior just makes them want to be your friend and nothing else. Even if the two of you are close. I don't know if that helps. It's just some general advice. Link to post Share on other sites
Disillusioned Posted July 11, 2010 Share Posted July 11, 2010 That whole "great catch" thing sounds like something which was made up by the kinds of people who just want to hit someone else over the head with it, to make them jealous. BTW my idea of a "great catch" would be a very beautiful woman, but no movie studio or modeling agency would want her... OTOH she'd never consider working for one anyways. So no, my ideal woman would only be a "great catch" in my eyes, but to most other men, she'd be a total waste of X chromosomes. Link to post Share on other sites
Tayla Posted July 12, 2010 Share Posted July 12, 2010 To each their own. I have often preferred to state the obvious to folks. IF they are a great catch they carry that suave, ease of interest and overall good disposition. No need to change that. Its the foundation to build upon. Trying to grasp how its negative...its not. May I ask though where this whole concept of nice guy syndrome comes from?? Sorry but I do not have experience with this so called *nice* guy. I do know various True Gents and they are rare and well deserving to be called nice in an etiquette sort of way. Link to post Share on other sites
Gero Posted July 12, 2010 Share Posted July 12, 2010 To each their own. I have often preferred to state the obvious to folks. IF they are a great catch they carry that suave, ease of interest and overall good disposition. No need to change that. Its the foundation to build upon. Trying to grasp how its negative...its not. Well, it seems like it's negative if someone that is breaking it off with you tells you that you are a great catch. I've been called a great catch by a few different people. The most recent was a girl telling me that she wasn't really interested in dating me, but I was a great catch and all of this other stuff that she said was good about me. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted July 14, 2010 Share Posted July 14, 2010 A "great catch" means nothing if there is no sexual attraction. Link to post Share on other sites
Author crfsti Posted July 20, 2010 Author Share Posted July 20, 2010 Ok, got it. Thanks for the reply's everyone! Link to post Share on other sites
SincereOnlineGuy Posted July 22, 2010 Share Posted July 22, 2010 Does being called a "great catch" mean anything these days? Yes, it's like "having everything going for you". The only people who ever get that label are suicidal. Link to post Share on other sites
SassyKitten Posted July 24, 2010 Share Posted July 24, 2010 From the other side of the fence, yeah, I get told I'm a "great catch" a lot. At the same time though, I am having so much trouble finding men who are worthy of me. It hurts, and I wonder sometimes if men get so disillusioned when at first they see a great outside but then realize quickly that I am still human like anyone else. I still have bad days, bad times, and I get PMS just like any other woman. Link to post Share on other sites
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