baubles31 Posted February 6, 2004 Share Posted February 6, 2004 My boyfriend invited me to dinner tonight, knowing he would get called way for workprobably by the time we finished- that was okay... dinner going well...actually everything has been going very well for some time now...and he starts talking about sitnkin' janet jackson and how it was a topic at work- that americans are too uptight about nudity and so what that she bared her chest...i said people i know were offended not that janet was baring her chest it was the forum she chose to do it in...superbowl...family affair, kids watching, not a setting for a crass strip show. so he keeps going on how in europe more nudity is shown in shows and how we'd be better off here if more nudity was shown and accepted. i disagreed, but he kept on and on....saying i didn't understand his point. i said i did, and he had a right to it, i just disagreed, he kept on and on and then complained i was cutting him off as he tried to explain...so then he reaches for his wallet (we had only had an appetizer) and says i see where this is going...so i say yeh, i do too...you bring up issues you know i don't agree w/ you on, politics, etc and you just don't state your opinion you go on and on trying to convince me to agreee w/ you, when you know i don't, but you just cannot let it be. you do it a lot and i just don't say anything but i'm okay w/ the fact we don't agree on everything... so he lays down 40 dollars and says to pay the waitress when i'm done and walks off (he was going to have to leave soon...just not that soon and not in a huffy way like that)- so i leave 40 on the table (ugh..we probably owed 25 for food we ordered and didn't eat) and run out and catch up w/ him...and say how i cannot believe he walked out on me like that- he said when i act rude then that's the way I'll be treated back...so i made some comments how hurtful it was he'd just walk away like that...he complained how he had to go into work angry now...then i ran home. so....in hindsight, stupid stupid argument. My first thought when i got home was to break up w/ him for walking away from me like that. i mean how can i trust him w/ that kind of behavior not to run away when there is a more serious arguement. then part of me wonders, whether he wants to break up w/ me over it...we haven't called each other since (although he's working). I don't feel like apolozing...was I wrong? He kept on and on... Any ideas what I should do...kick him to the curb or is this a stupid relationship fight which came out of nowhere over nothing? things had been going well....do i owe him an apology or vice versa or we should kiss and make-up or give it up? Thanks... Link to post Share on other sites
Baubles Posted February 6, 2004 Share Posted February 6, 2004 last post was by me...couldn't remember log-in... i mean will our relationship end over a fight over Janet Jackson...I'm going to be disgusted! worse, I've made elaborate plans for valentine's bought new table settings, bought gifts, planned a whole romantic dinner...and then the week after we planned to go away to further celebrate. and then janet jackson...sigh... Link to post Share on other sites
dyermaker Posted February 6, 2004 Share Posted February 6, 2004 Janet Jackson has nothing to do with it. Your boy is volatile, and you know that you are settling for a lack of communication. Some relationships work without communication, I'm sure, but you know that you are giving up something you need. The argument at hand isn't really relevant to the bigger problems, this didn't come out of nowhere. This happens a lot, right? Link to post Share on other sites
yes Posted February 6, 2004 Share Posted February 6, 2004 i don't like the sound of him. walking out is unacceptable, in any situation. i'd break up with him. it's important to be able to "agree to disagree" - both of you should be able to express an opinion, to defend it, and not to let it ruin your lunch. if it does, i think it's a sign of further underlying problems. good luck, -yes PS plz don't tolerate bad treatment just b/c of your Vday plans ... change your plans - you'll feel better out with your friends than celebrating w/ a man with whom you can't even have a healthy conversation, nevermine who walks out of a restaurant on you! Link to post Share on other sites
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