Sending a card or not !?!

[Cpunch75]

"Wouldn't you have anger & hurt & feel you needed answers. "

 

You will never find the answers. Some people just go out like that, leaving you high and dry, shrug it off. Refocus on something more important like your career or something good for YOU.

 

I just want to be adult & i know i couldn't have lyed to anyone like she did, but for some reason, i love her,

 

Love yourself first. Stop putting your life in her hands. You love her because you're afraid of getting back out there and meeting other people. Right now youre so set on this girl that you can't see the other possibilites someone else can offer. Ok so you fell for one girl, she broke your heart, it's gonna happen again and again until you finally meet the right one. Get used to it.

 

 

I just hope the push & pull thing i've constantly been told, will work!

 

Bro, It won't work. Youre being Naive and pathetic. Move on.

 

I JUST DO WHAT SHE ASKED ME. she tells mw i'm a good guy & wants to see me, just not now. People should think before they say things!

 

she's gonna tell you what you wanna hear to get you off her back. Why is she worth all this sweating over? Do you have any boundaries as to how people treat you? Do you stand up for yourself and say "hey this is enough, I won't tolerate this" ?

[monkey]

Amish, i do listen to evereything being said & i do take the advice, i not saying that she lyed to me saying she loved me then & not now, the lye is everything she wrote to me, saying that we would meet in the future, after i've sorted my health issues out, which i'm doing & that i am welcome to visit her anytime, that i will have my chance to show her. If she doesn't go along with this, then she didn't tell the truth, which means a lye.

These things in a letter she wrote me, to give me this focus & strength for my journey, because i was very insecure.

When i returned she told me in emails she wants to see me, just not now, she didn't have to say this, she could have just cut all contact & said she never wants to see me again, but she hasn't

Why you say i eliminated any chance, you don't know about our contacts!, & you've only ever posted a reply to me once!

 

Cpunch, it's human nature that if i push her & show her i haven't change my ways, she will pull away, but if i show her i changed my ways of contact with her & by not pushing, it will give me more of a chance of seeing her again! This is what most on here have told me!

I knowwhat you mean about boundaries & how i'm treated, but my health issue made her feel bad & i just want her to know it won't always be the case, surely i deserve this oppertunity one day!, she tells me she cares & wants to see me, this she doesn't need to say!

[Cpunch75]

"Cpunch, it's human nature that if i push her & show her i haven't change my ways, she will pull away, but if i show her i changed my ways of contact with her & by not pushing, it will give me more of a chance of seeing her again! This is what most on here have told me! "

 

You can never make another 1st impression. Once A woman see's that side of you, forget it. Women are very unforgiving and the man is always being tested.

You may have health problems yeah, but she's concerned about your health on a friendship level, don't think that because youre sick that she will feel bad for you and come back to you. She probally won't. Don't count on it.

 

"I knowwhat you mean about boundaries & how i'm treated, but my health issue made her feel bad & i just want her to know it won't always be the case, surely i deserve this oppertunity one day!, she tells me she cares & wants to see me, this she doesn't need to say"!

 

"I knowwhat you mean about boundaries & how i'm treated, but my health issue made her feel bad"

 

If you know about Boundaries.....why aren't you clear on what they are? it sounds like you will tolerate just about anything from her without making an asssessment about what her words and actions mean. Any correspondence from her translates to you as her "indicating that she wants to get together again" but

in reality you fail to see what it really means. Tough break I know but smell the coffee man.

 

"but my health issue made her feel bad " It makes anyone feel bad, her feeling bad for you is not special, but necessary.

[caretoo]

Monkey,

 

If you must write to her then do it, BUT DON'T hit send!!!

Write 20 letters a day, if you must, but DON'T SEND THEM. Write all kinds of letters...angry ones, loving ones, begging ones, etc. etc. etc. BUT DON'T SEND ANY OF THEM. Save them.

 

Save your letters - someday you will look back at them and learn from this experience.

 

You have a lot of people who care for you on this forum. They have spent sooooo much time trying to help and support you. You are very fortunate. Run with it.

c

[monkey]

Caretoo

I care for all those too, & i try to give advice, how i can with what i've done with my dogs dinner of a relationship, but i care about them.

 

Cpunch, i know i may be grasping at some straws & not all relationships are the same, but there are alcoholic husbands that get back with their wives when they are dry, i suppose even wife beaters that get back also!, the thing that splits them, is normally a fault or disagreement, but reconciliations do happen

I'm not saying i want to jump straight back into bed with her, i just want to make a new impression, as a friend & i've said this & she's said this to me, just friends, but hey chemistry on the day may work it's magic!, no going back, seeing me in time will be like meeting a new guy, with the added benefits of the good points she knows in me!

 

I can go about doing other stuff, & mabe other female company, but i'd feel uncomfortable knowing my s/o is in my mind. Knowing my luck, i'd see someone else & then i'd get a message, **** happens.

Hey thanks man, life goes on, but, while we breath, there's hope!