Dumped and lied to.Don't know how to pick myself up

[Misty2004]

Hopefully somebody here will hear me.

 

I was in a relationship. It wasn't a very good relationship for the last few months ( probably nearly a year) for various reason, but every time I tried to end it, he cried and promised he wanted to fix it, he wanted to treat me better. I believed him.

 

And everytime it turned bad.

Ok, I realise how silly I sound, I should have given up long ago, but that's what love does to you.

and the relationship hasn't done much for my self-esteem anyway.

 

so this continued.

3 weeks ago it blow up again.

I said I wanted out. He said that he'd fix it.

I said no. no.

He cried, I cried

 

He said he's head was in a spin, he didn't knowwhat he wanted. He needed space.

Last monday, i said to him. you're doign exactly what you always do, sitting back, doing nothing. Y? I believed you.

He claimed that he believed him too. He did want to fix it.

 

On tuesday it was left that

all he had to do to have me in his life was treat me like a normal person. Nto keep me secret. Date me properly.

I said, if you can't do that then it just means that you don't care for me enough and we'll leave it at that.

He still claimed that he wanted it, but he didn't know why he couldn't do it?

 

so for last few days, I was healing myself. Accepting that he wasn't gonna change. Accepting that it was over.

 

Then this evening I find out that he has bn dating someone else for the last few weeks????

How could he say all those things last monday then. how could he say that he was sorting he's head out , for us, for the weeks before.

It was all lies!!!

 

Now, all my reasoning to myself and moving on has being thrown in disarray.

 

I had accepted that he didn't love me enough.

I figured he did love me, and that he was sad too.

 

But he was dating someone else.

He never missed me, becuase i was replaed before it was even gone fully.

 

I'm so hurt,and don't know where to start healing my heart.

I know that I am better off out of this relationship, but how do I fix myheart when someone that I truely believe cared for me could hurt me so much?

 

I work with him. He's my boss.

It was hard enough dealing with that before I found out that he's dating?

All the time he told me that he didn't want to get into a commited relationship and now this.

How could he date someone else, when he couldn't date me.

 

I just feel so used, so hurt, so empty.

 

How do I get through work tomorrow? Having to see him is just gonna make this so much harder.

 

Can anyone make sense of this please? My head is spinning

[carla]

Ditch the loser. Your to good for him anyway. I know your heart is hurting and nothing I say is going to make your heart less broken. But wipe away your tears hold your chin up. Your just one more step closer to finding MR. Right. Besides you aren't the only one he was cheating on. I bet if the other even knew about you he told her that you weren't see each other. Everything we do in life I believe that there is a lesson to be learned. Try to figure what lesson you took from this relationship. Now be care don't obsess about it. Just because he lied to and was seeing someone else doesn't mean that if the next guy lies to you he's cheating. Not to many people find Mr. Right without getting their heart broken a few times. Trust me it will mend. As for work tommorrow, I would only speak to him as you would need to in the line of work. Don't act mad or upset, don't let know your hurting. Good Luck

[Chris76J]

This guy needs a friggen clue. But he'll get one because the girl hes been "dating" will probably break his confused heart in a little while anyways. Don't worry hun. Get yourself a Real man. You deserve one. I can tell your a great girl. And there are plenty of guys out there who need a girl like you and that would give you everything you need/deserve. I know because I'm one of them. heh. So instead of being sad about all of this. Smile when you see him and think about it because it sounds to me like hes making a BIG mistake. Besides a great girl like yourself has got things to do and a good love to find. No need to waste your time on confused men.

Life is long. Waste no time. Be happy. =)

[Chris76J]

P.S.

I'm sure theres better jobs out there. Tell him to shove his. =)

[Cpunch75]

Any guy who cries b/c his girlfriend wants out, is not respecting you by using desperate plea's b/c he can't be alone. Stand to your belief that he isn't appropriate for you.

 

This guy needs to grow up a little, you perhaps are blessed by this outcome, he's done your work for you practically and he looks like an idiot anyways.

[Misty2004]

A blessing in disguise.

That's how I feel today.

It opened my eyes.

 

Middle of the night I realised that I had being listening for the last year to him promising he'd fix it.

It go wrong, I'd want out, he'd promise he'd fix it, I'd give him another chance, in an endless circle.

Maybe this happened to open my eyes, and stop that vicious circle. I've let it go on a year, and I didn't even realise what I was doing to myself until last night.

He's still saying the same things now that he did a year ago.

 

It was time to give up a long time ago.

Well, better now that a year down the line.

He can't treat me properly. That's he's problem. I have to stop giving him chances.

 

Even today he was claiming that he still cared aout me. Wanted me as a friend.that he'd fix it.

 

He CAN'T!! He's still hiding things from me. He doesn't know that I know he's dating.

He's lied to me for the last 3 weeks about that.

 

So i didn't tell him. i didn't confront him with it.

It's my mental crutch.

When he's saying all this, before i believed him, now I know he can't.

He's already hiding someone from me. So what he's saying is impossible.

 

So i told him today, no more chances.

[carla]

You Go Girl!!!