yari585 Posted July 13, 2010 Share Posted July 13, 2010 My boyfriend left on a cruise this weekend with his family with his mom and sisters and sisters boyfriend. it was fine that i did not go i didnt make it a big deal we have already been on a cruise and i love his family we hang out enough. I decided to do something nice and clean up his house while he was at work i ended up unpacking his luggage to put away his clothing. He packed a shirt that says "define girlfriend?" we have argued about this shirt before i feel its disrespectful towards me and it sends out the wrong message. should i be upset about this? Link to post Share on other sites
Shakz Posted July 13, 2010 Share Posted July 13, 2010 I cna't believe I'm actually asking for a longer post. Link to post Share on other sites
Author yari585 Posted July 14, 2010 Author Share Posted July 14, 2010 we have been together for 10 months now..and we both beleive we are in a committed relationship moving forward instead of backwards..it just bothered me. thank you for your comments. i just joined this site and i think its awesome1! lol Link to post Share on other sites
Thunderhorse Posted July 14, 2010 Share Posted July 14, 2010 Two options here. a.) Get over it. Sounds like it's just a shirt with a dumb phrase. Getting that worked up over it comes off as clingy. Clingy drives guys away. b.) Dump his ass. A dude that wears a shirt like that is most likely a d-bag anyway. If you like the guy, don't worry about it. Link to post Share on other sites
Dexter Morgan Posted July 14, 2010 Share Posted July 14, 2010 on one hand I'd want to say its silly to be mad at a shirt like that. But I see your point. question is, what decent girl would see a guy wearing a shirt like that and think he is worth 2 squirts of piss? obviously if he wears that shirt and a girl wants him, she has the brain of a rubber tree plant. (not saying you unless you hooked up with him while wearing this shirt) Link to post Share on other sites
Dexter Morgan Posted July 14, 2010 Share Posted July 14, 2010 Two options here. a.) Get over it. Sounds like it's just a shirt with a dumb phrase. Getting that worked up over it comes off as clingy. Clingy drives guys away. b.) Dump his ass. A dude that wears a shirt like that is most likely a d-bag anyway. well which is it to you? is it either just a shirt with a dumb phrase, meaning its no reflection on the guy, or is the guy a d-bag? Link to post Share on other sites
stace79 Posted July 15, 2010 Share Posted July 15, 2010 on one hand I'd want to say its silly to be mad at a shirt like that. But I see your point. question is, what decent girl would see a guy wearing a shirt like that and think he is worth 2 squirts of piss? obviously if he wears that shirt and a girl wants him, she has the brain of a rubber tree plant. (not saying you unless you hooked up with him while wearing this shirt) I agree with you (as usual). On one hand, it IS just a shirt. But to me I think it would reflect his deeper attitude toward relationships that I'd be worried about. Sure, it's sort of funny. But I wouldn't give a guy wearing it my phone number. Link to post Share on other sites
ComputerJock Posted July 15, 2010 Share Posted July 15, 2010 Go to a speciality store that makes up t-shirts and have one printed 'DEFINE BOYFRIEND" and when he gets back wear it the next time you see him. TIT FOR TAT. Link to post Share on other sites
Woman In Blue Posted July 17, 2010 Share Posted July 17, 2010 Go to a speciality store that makes up t-shirts and have one printed 'DEFINE BOYFRIEND" and when he gets back wear it the next time you see him. TIT FOR TAT. ROFL!! That tshirt sounds excellent! I want to get one for my boyfriend. I just told him about it after I read this post and we're both cracking up. Yari - seriously, you need to pick your battles wisely. A silly tshirt with a joke about girlfriends isn't even in the realm of important in the big picture. Link to post Share on other sites
Ilovehim Posted July 17, 2010 Share Posted July 17, 2010 I would be offended. Yes. Link to post Share on other sites
ratingsguy Posted July 18, 2010 Share Posted July 18, 2010 Harmless, IMHO. If anything it's a conversation starter, where's he's essentially declaring to the world that he's attached... albeit not in the way that you prefer. The guy has a sense of humor. That being said, keep an eye on the bloke just in case. Link to post Share on other sites
Dexter Morgan Posted July 19, 2010 Share Posted July 19, 2010 Harmless, IMHO. If anything it's a conversation starter, where's he's essentially declaring to the world that he's attached no, its declaring to the world that he isn't commitment quality and a player. Link to post Share on other sites
phineas Posted July 19, 2010 Share Posted July 19, 2010 I really don't get it. The shirt that is. What is the phrase "define girlfriend" supposed to mean? what am I missing? Link to post Share on other sites
sweetjasmine Posted July 19, 2010 Share Posted July 19, 2010 I really don't get it. The shirt that is. What is the phrase "define girlfriend" supposed to mean? what am I missing? It's taken out of context. It's something like: - So, do you have a girlfriend? - Well, define "girlfriend." or - But, wait, don't you have a girlfriend? - Ehh, define "girlfriend." It's basically a way of dismissing and downplaying your exclusivity and stating that you're free to make a move if you want. Link to post Share on other sites
phineas Posted July 19, 2010 Share Posted July 19, 2010 It's taken out of context. It's something like: - So, do you have a girlfriend? - Well, define "girlfriend." or - But, wait, don't you have a girlfriend? - Ehh, define "girlfriend." It's basically a way of dismissing and downplaying your exclusivity and stating that you're free to make a move if you want. Ah. I didn't get it because surpisingly enough it was too immature & unfunny for even me to get. Link to post Share on other sites
impz Posted July 20, 2010 Share Posted July 20, 2010 Ah. I didn't get it because surpisingly enough it was too immature & unfunny for even me to get. There I was thinking what it really meant, and why the TS is so offended by it. Well, I don't really see the need to get angry over a silly T-shirt, though it's really silly to have such a shirt in the first place. Why would anyone want to wear anything like that, especially when the girlfriend is quite easily pissy over it. Link to post Share on other sites
luvstarved Posted July 20, 2010 Share Posted July 20, 2010 IMO the shirt is stupid but that you argue about it is stupider. I don't mean from your side, I would not wanting my partner wearing it either. To me, it seems simple that he should ditch the shirt just because it bothers you. End of story. The fact that he isn't willing to forego an idiotic shirt to make you feel better is a red flag that he will not respect and validate your feelings down the road, and eventually over more important things...not a big deal by itself, this shirt, but...his defense of it knowing your feelings about it would give me pause... Link to post Share on other sites
ratingsguy Posted July 25, 2010 Share Posted July 25, 2010 no, its declaring to the world that he isn't commitment quality and a player. It also declares that he has a girlfriend. Again, harmless. Link to post Share on other sites
Dexter Morgan Posted July 26, 2010 Share Posted July 26, 2010 It also declares that he has a girlfriend. Again, harmless. ya, a girlfriend that he doesn't respect and conveys the message, "its nothing serious.....so I'm really available" I know what you are saying though, its just a shirt. but to me it smacks of "jackass" if he wears it, and any woman in their right mind wouldn't think it was cute. he might as well wear a shirt that says, "I don't commit" Link to post Share on other sites
Mimolicious Posted July 27, 2010 Share Posted July 27, 2010 Hey, it could be worse. He can be wearing one that says "Remember my name because you will be screaming it later" or "The Man (up arrow)- The Legend (down arrow). It is silly but it is also immature and douche bag move. He is trying to be goofy yet trying to get the attention. If he gets it, he'll go for it. (IMO) I think your lilttle BF has a lot of growing up to do. If you want to stick around till he does, get ready for the ride. If you dont want to deal with such nonsense, bounce. Link to post Share on other sites
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