airjordan Posted July 14, 2010 Share Posted July 14, 2010 I'm dating this other girl, but she doesn't ask me any questions about me.I know when I'm interested in someone, I always ask questions about them. I swear dating can really drain you. Link to post Share on other sites
USMCHokie Posted July 14, 2010 Share Posted July 14, 2010 1. She's not interested. 2. She has no personality or ability to carry on a conversation. Either way, it'd be an insta-LAUNCH for me. Link to post Share on other sites
maverick35 Posted July 14, 2010 Share Posted July 14, 2010 How long have you been dating?....I will have to agree with the marine here....either low-interest or a self-indulgent person, if she is yakking about herself all the time. Link to post Share on other sites
zengirl Posted July 17, 2010 Share Posted July 17, 2010 Now, do you mean she doesn't ever ask you anything? Or that her questions are less than personal? If they're just not personal, and it's early, that is just normal caution. If she never asks anything (what you think, what you did today, etc), then, yeah, she's either self-centered or not that interested in you. It's pretty natural to ask questions about other people. Link to post Share on other sites
Tayla Posted July 17, 2010 Share Posted July 17, 2010 In the realm of how one was raised its entirely possible the person was taught to not impose on personal matters. Lets face it, some folks are more open to being inquisitive and some are down right nosey. Its a social etiquette thing. How welcoming is the conversation , Meaning does it invite further responses. Is the person more introvert (better listening skills) .... It sounds to me that you are more an expressionist thru words and that is a good thing. Maybe she is just more in tune thru active listening or just being quiet.... Link to post Share on other sites
Gattica Posted July 17, 2010 Share Posted July 17, 2010 In my experience, when someone isn't asking you personal questions it is because they aren't really interested in getting to know you. Link to post Share on other sites
Enchanted Girl Posted July 17, 2010 Share Posted July 17, 2010 I agree with Tayla. Does she listen to you when you talk or only talk about herself? Because that's the more important thing, rather than whether or not she asks you questions. She's interested if she listens to you. Link to post Share on other sites
USMCHokie Posted July 17, 2010 Share Posted July 17, 2010 In the realm of how one was raised its entirely possible the person was taught to not impose on personal matters. Lets face it, some folks are more open to being inquisitive and some are down right nosey. Its a social etiquette thing. How welcoming is the conversation , Meaning does it invite further responses. Is the person more introvert (better listening skills) .... It sounds to me that you are more an expressionist thru words and that is a good thing. Maybe she is just more in tune thru active listening or just being quiet.... Active listening requires participation from the listener. If she was truly interested, albeit quiet, she'd steer the conversation towards what she wants to know about OP...just listening to the guy blab about any random thing is not active listening...and it's NOT fun talking to a woman who doesn't participate... Link to post Share on other sites
sloudrou Posted July 18, 2010 Share Posted July 18, 2010 Active listening requires participation from the listener. If she was truly interested, albeit quiet, she'd steer the conversation towards what she wants to know about OP...just listening to the guy blab about any random thing is not active listening...and it's NOT fun talking to a woman who doesn't participate... This is true, but on the other hand, I don't want a woman asking "personal questions" about every girl I ever had a crush on in the past. Firstly, it's not really any of her business, and secondly, there are far more interesting things to talk about. Let's face it, people who want to ask all those "relationship" questions on the first date are usually pretty desperate, and have the stink of death all over them. Link to post Share on other sites
sloudrou Posted July 18, 2010 Share Posted July 18, 2010 I'm dating this other girl, but she doesn't ask me any questions about me.I know when I'm interested in someone, I always ask questions about them. I swear dating can really drain you. Dating only drains you if you let it. It sounds to me like you're desperate and worried about the outcome instead of just going with the flow and letting it happen. Chill out a bit, dating is supposed to be FUN. Just enjoy what you have with a girl, and if it's not enough, find someone else. Link to post Share on other sites
bac Posted July 18, 2010 Share Posted July 18, 2010 If she does not ask you personal questions, what do you talk about? Is it like you ask her questions and she talks about herself all the time. Link to post Share on other sites
USMCHokie Posted July 18, 2010 Share Posted July 18, 2010 This is true, but on the other hand, I don't want a woman asking "personal questions" about every girl I ever had a crush on in the past. Firstly, it's not really any of her business, and secondly, there are far more interesting things to talk about. Let's face it, people who want to ask all those "relationship" questions on the first date are usually pretty desperate, and have the stink of death all over them. OP never mentioned "personal questions." Link to post Share on other sites
CLC2008 Posted July 18, 2010 Share Posted July 18, 2010 OP never mentioned "personal questions." It's the title of his thread silly. Link to post Share on other sites
hopesndreams Posted July 18, 2010 Share Posted July 18, 2010 I'm dating this other girl, but she doesn't ask me any questions about me.I know when I'm interested in someone, I always ask questions about them. I swear dating can really drain you. She's full of herself. Link to post Share on other sites
USMCHokie Posted July 18, 2010 Share Posted July 18, 2010 It's the title of his thread silly. Wow...fail... Link to post Share on other sites
HeldbyGravity Posted July 18, 2010 Share Posted July 18, 2010 Let me share a bit of person experience with you. Personally, I do not ask as many personal questions of people I date/ am interested in as much as just learning about them as we go. For example, I will go to my boyfriend’s special events, watching him, and talking with his friends. Maybe that isn’t the case though- after all, everyone asks a few questions of people they’re interested in, in the least how are you/ what did you do last weekend. Maybe she doesn’t know how to approach the situation, or she doesn’t know it’s a problem. Not knowing there’s a problem is very common in these situations, because no two people think alike, no matter how close they are. Bring it up casually- “How much do you think you know about me?”, and see where it goes from there. If that doesn’t work as a conversation starter, just be blunt about it. If you don’t mention it after putting into consideration everything the rest of these folks are saying, then the problem will never be solved. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted July 18, 2010 Share Posted July 18, 2010 (edited) Oh, I could write a book on this....suffice to say, when I get a whiff of this I apply the stink test of sharing a funny anecdote or really interesting experience from a recent trip and gauge the interest and response level. One, I love to explore, and a woman who doesn't is toast anyway. Two, if she has no curiosity about me or my world, bing boom bang, she's outta there. Like Hokie said, insta-launch Edited July 18, 2010 by carhill Link to post Share on other sites
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