The Corn Posted July 14, 2010 Share Posted July 14, 2010 (edited) Yeah, so I kinda feel like, the world has 101 people, 50 females, 51 men, and I'm the one who won't be paired up with anyone, because of those 50 men, more have more in common with the 50 women.. so via time and dating/social evolution, it will eventually work out to where each of those 50 women are with one of the 50 guys, and I'll be the remainder. Hehe. I mean, I "may" at least get to date some of em for a while, but I'm saying, in the end, I realize maybe I'd just rather be the remaining single person. Edited July 14, 2010 by The Corn Link to post Share on other sites
griffinchicken53 Posted July 14, 2010 Share Posted July 14, 2010 not sure what to tell you but i can sympathize. used to be i was only one of my friends without a girlfriend, then it became only one without a wife, now only one without a family and kids. it sucks but maybe i'm looking at it wrong. i think it is in ireland but something i read about the population being double number for guys, so 50 girls to 100 guys Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted July 14, 2010 Share Posted July 14, 2010 Right...... ...and.....? Link to post Share on other sites
SassyKitten Posted July 24, 2010 Share Posted July 24, 2010 i think it is in ireland but something i read about the population being double number for guys, so 50 girls to 100 guys Really???? And I'm making serious plans to go to Ireland next year on a working holiday visa, so this is music to my eyes!! I can sympathize with what you're feeling by the way, it feels often too like I'm the only one of my friends without a partner. I have standards, and unfortunately have had a lot of bad luck meeting anyone who fits these standards who hasn't been snatched up already. Link to post Share on other sites
Enchanted Girl Posted July 24, 2010 Share Posted July 24, 2010 Are you upset about this feeling at all? Because you seem to enjoy being single. That's how you ended your post and there's nothing wrong with that. Honestly, I don't think it's impossible for anyone to find a partner and I think those older people without partners are usually people who didn't want to get married at all. Also, if you don't actually enjoy being single . . . . well, I believe women out populate the men (at least in the U.S.) So your chances are better. Link to post Share on other sites
Axel Moses Posted August 9, 2010 Share Posted August 9, 2010 (edited) I have the same issue, but I've given up on the situation. I used to think I was just incredibly undesirable (and that's very likely true), I've just also accepted the fact that I'm not out for some quick fling. I'm not driven by urges created from south of my belt. So persuing a meaningless relationship with somebody I am not completely interested in feels like a waste of time. Some call it being too picky, but I look out at the world where all the people I know have gotten married shortly out of college or high school, and -every- -single- -one- is in a marriage they are unhappy with, and stuck there because they have kids and a sense of responsibility towards providing a stable home for those kids to grow up in. (Not to say being responsible is bad. I would do the same thing if through some miracle I managed to get a woman pregnant within the next 60 years.) Seems the best you can do is ignore it. If you are attracted to somebody and they aren't attracted to you, then it wouldn't work out if you somehow made them like you because you would have to create a personality that isn't your own. If you pursue a relationship with somebody who is interested even though you really aren't interested in them you just doom yourself to things falling apart later when the appeal of a relationship is outweighed by the general stress of maintaining it with somebody you don't really like any more. Ultimately just keep doing your thing. Live your life. Don't focus on relationships. If you meet somebody who you would like that likes you, it'll happen on its own because neither one of you are trying to force the situation out of fear of being alone. The best you can do is seek out social events focusing on your interests. I don't drink. I hate bars. I can't stand druggies. I don't like blasting music. I don't smoke. I don't like Nascar. My options are limited around where I live. But once I have a stable job and some spare money, I plan to actually go to events that DO have something to do with the stuff I like so I can get into a social group I have something in common with. I can only assume the future Mrs. Moses may end up wandering to the same thing. Nature will just take its course, then. At least I like to think so. Edited August 9, 2010 by Axel Moses Link to post Share on other sites
Disillusioned Posted August 10, 2010 Share Posted August 10, 2010 I have a somewhat different approach to the same problem, but mine involves long-term vision. When I'm old and successful, and all the other men my age start dying off, I'll be in a position to tell all those lonely old widows "sorry, but you didn't show any interest in me then, and I'm not interested in you now." Let Father Time enforce karma, I say. Link to post Share on other sites
skydiveaddict Posted August 10, 2010 Share Posted August 10, 2010 maybe I'd just rather be the remaining single person. That's the way I feel right now Link to post Share on other sites
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