jumpxthenxfall Posted July 15, 2010 Share Posted July 15, 2010 First off: I'm new here! So hello everyone! Second off, I apologize if this is long... I'm just plain confused at the moment... My boyfriend and I have been together for going on 7 months. I know it isn't super long, but its awhile. Anyway, his friend moved away for school and while everyone told him that driving 2 hours to go up and visit his friend for 12 really wasn't worth it and he should wait until he can go for a day or two, he went anyway. This is his second time doing this. [And in a lot of ways, I understand... it is his best friend and especially this time, he was going up there to visit his best friend for his birthday. I totally get that]. Well, I don't really care so much that he goes up there every now and then. Sure, we don't see each other much because of his crazy work schedule (nights) and I work days/evenings. Well, what kind of upset me was the fact that in the time we've been together, this is his second time going up to visit his friend and I JUST found out that his best friend lives in a house that he shares with two girls. Now, I trust my boyfriend, but having been burned before... and just out of respect, I feel like he should have told me this LONG ago. I always tell him who I'll be with (especially when its with other guys) so he has no reason to worry/be concerned and I don't stay the night at my friend's house with other guys around (unless of course it is a thing where none of us can drive or something if we've been drinking) out of respect for him. I do trust him, but I also don't like that he didn't tell me this. He says he didn't think about it and he assumed that I knew, but with his friend living far away and I've only met him a few times, I don't know much about him at all. At least not about his living arrangements... Its always been kind of put in a way to me that made me think he was living by himself or with his other guy friend. Not once were 2 girls mentioned. Am I wrong for being upset about this? He was on his way there already when we talked about this... but it really didn't make me very comfortable with him staying there after I heard that and I'm scared now I'm not going to be as comfortable with him going in the future... Is that wrong of me? Am I being overly-sensitive? I guess I kind of want to know also, how many of you would be comfortable with your significant other staying in a house with a friend and two other members of the opposite sex (you may or may not know these people)? Sorry this was so long. Link to post Share on other sites
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