IfiKnewThen Posted July 16, 2010 Share Posted July 16, 2010 when it seemed hopeless and their partner seemed adament? please post any success stories Link to post Share on other sites
Enchanted Girl Posted July 17, 2010 Share Posted July 17, 2010 What do you mean? You should elaborate. You don't have to ask other people for their stories. Just tell us yours. We want you to share it with us. Link to post Share on other sites
aerogurl87 Posted July 17, 2010 Share Posted July 17, 2010 I agree with Enchanted Girl. Now granted I got my ex back multiple times until we broke up for good and in hindsight I really wish we would've broken up that first time and stayed that way. Link to post Share on other sites
HeavenOrHell Posted July 17, 2010 Share Posted July 17, 2010 My ex left me twice, said he'd never leave again and then left again 10 years later, this time for good, we were together 18 years, that wasn't an LDR. Most couples don't get back together from what I can gather, some will though, that doesn't tell you whether you and your ex will though it may even be for the best if you don't. I can see that now with my ex, but I was devastated for 6-7 months after we split, we are good friends now but probably shouldn't have been a couple for the last 3 years we were together. Link to post Share on other sites
Spiritofnow Posted July 18, 2010 Share Posted July 18, 2010 You will probably hate my answer to your request, but I wonder if you should focus on healing and learning what caused your relationship to end rather than using your energies in getting someone back. I am not even sure that you can 'get someone back' unless they want to come back. Perhaps, you need to give this person time - let them know how you feel and then go away and process your own feelings. Sometimes wanting a relationship that has ended 'back' is just a way of trying to avoid dealing with the hurt and pain, and the necessary growth we have to go through in order to understand what our part in the relationship breaking down was. I am not trying to be mean to you I am just giving you my perception. I wish you well. Link to post Share on other sites
Author IfiKnewThen Posted July 18, 2010 Author Share Posted July 18, 2010 Thank you guys for writing/responding Yes, i want to know of any success stories. read an excellent book entitled "how to get your lover back". it was written by a psychiatrist who lost his wife, and then got her back. its all about LOVING someone unconditionally 100 % in order to attempt to get them back, but of course he mentions learning by your mistake and treating the person who returns with dignity and respect and addressing your issues. its excellent reading and to me makes perfect sense....but yes...the person you want back, has to be willing....eventually. but its not about "no contact". its about how to make contact and make it positive each time. till you create or re-establish a bond...love-bond. then work with that to get closer. anyway its not easy it is complicated. i am dealing with a mountain on my end and dont count on things one way or the other. BUT i know we have all had some fights or whatever and got back together for as time..... but i am speaking of what if.....you really changed and you got your loved one to see you have and things werent looking good but they sort of gave you one more change...and it all worked out. i guess we wouldnt be on LS if that were the case....but just in case...i am asking. hope to see a success story ................... Link to post Share on other sites
TheLoneSock Posted July 18, 2010 Share Posted July 18, 2010 Yes, girls have come back to me on a few different occasions. But only because I didn't give a sh*t and didn't want to be with them anymore after the break up. In fact, the harsher I was, the quicker they returned. If a girl dumps you because you did some ******* stuff, she'll almost always come back. If she dumps you because you're a nice guy, she's not coming back. Link to post Share on other sites
Finissima Posted July 19, 2010 Share Posted July 19, 2010 OP: I think it all depends on the reasons for the breakup and on the person you want back. I am a success story for getting your love back (so far!). Since you're in the LDR forum, it may be that the reason for the breakup was the long distance? This was it for me - we tried long distance for a month and he decided it would be easier not to do it anymore...thought he could start again fresh in his new place and he would be happier. But he wasn't...he missed me and felt like I still belonged in his life no matter the distance. So we got back together despite still being LDR after about 6 months. But this was only because it wasn't the relationship that was a problem, it was the distance. Even then...it was a surprise to me that we got back together when there was still the distance issue between us. We are now way better equipped to deal with it though and the importance of our relationship is known to both of us. Was it the distance that broke you guys up??? If so...I don't know what advice to give other than to continue contact (despite the whole NC thing...if it was only the distance that broke you up...I'd keep contact) and to hope you move back together and so things happen. I think we need more details on this to really help, you know? Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted July 19, 2010 Share Posted July 19, 2010 I have a true success story... The love of my life isn't an ex Link to post Share on other sites
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