vicky1412 Posted April 3, 2004 Share Posted April 3, 2004 hi, if you are so stressed and down because of this girl, then you need to figure out what it is that you want. It is obvious that you still have feelings for her and if it is that you want her back in your life then go see her, let her know how much you care. If you keep all this emotional stuff inside you, you will only be torturing yourself every day that passes. Make up your mind and act on it. Who knows, the reason she hasn't replied to you is because she is waiting for you to make the move. Give it a try, you really dont have anything to loose. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Durden Posted April 7, 2004 Author Share Posted April 7, 2004 Well, another update..... Got a text from my ex today saying that she went to see her friend at the cemetery who died in the accident. Didnt reply. Then on the way home from work i got a phone call, it was my ex, she rung and hung up. I couldnt answer as i was driving and it was in my pocket anyway. Then about another 2 hrs later, i got a text from her saying "take it you aint talkin to me. Well whatever bye." What was i meant to do, answer the phone or text her so she could tell me about another threesome she had??? I am sorry her friends been killed and i did say that to her, but im not talking to her after what she told me. I hate ignoring ppl when they text me, makes me feel bad. But even if i did reply i wouldnt know what to say. So, should i just carry on ignoring her?? well, she has done that to me in the past, see how she likes it. silence is a bitch! Link to post Share on other sites
fishman3226 Posted April 7, 2004 Share Posted April 7, 2004 Wanna swap Durden? Mine smsed me wanting to catch up and watch a movie that was 'our' movie - story of a white South African who travels from Jo'burg (where I orignate) to Cape Town (where she does.) Along the way he meets a colored girl (like my ex and they have a child that looks half caste (like our child would be.) I told her that i dont know how i feel about her and that i still love her. I said I want to hold her and and that i want more than a friendship (note: originally i ignored her message but after 24 hours she contacted me again) Even after that she still wants to meet up. I know she is getting counselling - I think her depression is the reason she broke it off - and in my mind i wonder if she has woken up to it all. I have not commited to anything but I am intrigued. I kind of think one trhing and then another. SHe is not well mentally, but can she ever be? But at the same token - nothing was wrong in the relationship. Maybe she is going "oh crap..... what did i do?" Alas... Link to post Share on other sites
calithin83 Posted April 8, 2004 Share Posted April 8, 2004 just keep ignoring her..why the hell does she have to say whos she had sex with? she obviously is purposely telling u this to hurt u..just forget her..she needs to be ignored.. and like u said Silence is a bitch....silence i think speaks a million more things then words.. by ignoring her and not picking up youre saying " youre not worth talking to anymore, stop calling me, i dont need you, i dont want you, forget you, stop playing games cos ive HAD IT" so keep ignoring her!!!! u sound too cool for her anyways! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Durden Posted April 8, 2004 Author Share Posted April 8, 2004 Thanks for that calithin83 Been feeling down about it today. Having a cold doesnt help matters either!! I can see why ppl say write a letter but dont post it. Wish i didnt post the one i wrote now. Got a clearer head about the whole thing now. SO ANYONE PLANNING ON WRITING A LETTER AND POSTING IT >>> DON'T!!! Link to post Share on other sites
fishman3226 Posted April 8, 2004 Share Posted April 8, 2004 My situation is getting worse. All of sudden now she has got a job in my workplace and guess who will more than likely be involved in training her...me!!! Man, it is starting to screw my mind. I told her on Thursday how I felt and that I want more than a friendship - then she makes it harder by working in my workplace. Man, I know I miss her and the relationship, but I dont want her crap in my life. Tell me people if I am thinking the wrong thing here... I think that she is thinking hard about what she has lost and is trying to get back close to me. Am I wishing hopefully about this but I dont know..... man.... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Durden Posted April 10, 2004 Author Share Posted April 10, 2004 Oh dear that aint good fishman Anyway, my ex has been trying to piss me off again. Was texting me at 4 am. Anyway, she said she was shagging a few blokes, so i just replied "well, u need the practice :)" didnt like that and called me a "fick c.unt" So, i replied "If you are going to call me thick, then at least learn how to spell it :)" Havent heard anything since!! Link to post Share on other sites
Dixiecron Posted April 10, 2004 Share Posted April 10, 2004 Ahahahah! That's hilarious Durden! Link to post Share on other sites
fishman3226 Posted April 19, 2004 Share Posted April 19, 2004 I wish mine was so simple. I have started seeing my ex gf again. She is showing all the traits of being keen - you can see it in her eyes and her actions - but she is asking me to wait for her. Hardest thing was the other night when I told her I still am in lovew with her she said (almost absent mindedly) "I love you too." I thpought nothing of it (she would often say it) but when she said three times during the night you gotta wonder... She is seeing a psychologist for which I am proud of her and she is trying to get help for her problems. I have in the past week spent two nights withher and I am respecting what she wants - it is limited to cuddling at the moment - but things I think (I hope?) are changing. I just have to be patient and hpe she sees in her mind what she is showing me in her heart. I got a call from her last night - all she wanted me to do was look out of my window at work so she could wave goodbye.... Man it is hard, but it needs to be done. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Durden Posted April 19, 2004 Author Share Posted April 19, 2004 Had a few texts and phone calls from my ex. Basiclly I just end up winding her up! Last time she phoned she threated to put the phone down and never speak to me again. I said go on then, and she didnt! ha ha! Went out on a date tonight, went really well, got alot in common. Never know what will happen, just taking it easy. The ex text today to give me her new number. Didnt reply. Was going to text back "Cheers! know what number to ignore now :)" that would have wound her up!! ha ha I'm in alot better mood nowadays, no matter what she says wont get to me anymore. Hope everything works out for you fishman. I'd like to thank everyone on here for your support over the past cple of months, it has been really helpfull. I'm still going to post on here as you are really nice people Link to post Share on other sites
fishman3226 Posted April 20, 2004 Share Posted April 20, 2004 Onya Durden! Good to see that you can move on! I have the problem though that I have to hold on a bit and hope. If I want her back (which I do and have told her as much) then I have to wait with no real definite answer of yes or no for sure anytime soon. Driving me mad cause I know she is keen - you can see it in her eyes. When will I know - dont know!!!!! Man, i know I have to be patient but I am impatient. She contacted me after no contact so I know she needs to miss me. If she really does want only friendship I wipe her. Why? Cause I am sick of feeling let down by her. I tell her how I feel no matter what! Problem is she is getting some help for some mental issues of anxiety and depression she has - i am proud of her doing it and I am DEEPLY in love with her. Alas... Anyone had a similar issue? Link to post Share on other sites
cookie monster Posted May 11, 2004 Share Posted May 11, 2004 My boyfriend and I broke up a few months ago after being together for 3 years. We got in a silly argument and he just packed up his stuff and left. That was in march and he still hasn't spoken to me. my heart hurts so much. I have emailed him a few times but no response. I haven't called him because I'm scared of the rejection. He is on my mind everyday and i wonder if he is ok and how he is doing and what he is doing, blah blah blah. I miss him like crazy. We left off on very bad terms. Bad things were said and tears were shead and this is a man who said he loved me. Its already been 3 months and everytime I think about that night we broke up, I can't help but cry. I have absolutly no closure and it sucks. He won't talk to me at all and I don't understand why. Everything was fine until that night. It wasn't like a progressing thing, it was just one stupid fight and it was over. Its so weird how one night can change everything. I remember that night before we nt out, while I was getting ready, he wrapped his arms around my waist and told me "you know how much I love you right ? I love you so much". He kissed me on the nose and I looked at him and smiled and told him I loved him too. Later that night, it was over. I have asked him to give me some answers since then but he just won't talk to me. Can anyone help me figure this out ? Link to post Share on other sites
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