Problems with my mother. (sorry for my bad grammar)

[rocklobzsta]

Anyone care to help me? Now this is a real, personal problem I have. I want real honest opinions please and keep in mind this isn't the only site i posted this at. My mother and I are fighting alot, I'm 22 years old. Recently my father was in the hospital for about 8 months(my mother and father have been divorced since I was 2) and he just got out about one month ago. one month prier to my father getting out my mother got kicked out of her parents house (my mother is 53 years old) in san diego and had no where to go because no one wants her. She is an Ex drug addict (meth) and ex drunk. the problem is that she has a split personality and just freaks out and can get real emotional at the drop of a hat. my father cannot take care of himself and my mother wont do it, so (having no job) me and my dad made an agreement that I would be his care taker if he paid me 300 bucks a month and gave me room and board (my wife lives with me here as well) So the deal is that my mother wants to argue and fight with me untill it turns into screaming. No one wants her around because she is like this and she hasn't kept a job for more then a year since she was old enough to work. Every day we end up yelling at each other for stupid stuff like takin out the garbage. I argue in my defence that she need to help out because she does literally nothing around the house and has no job. which she starts calling me names (*******, faggot, ect...) and me being myself, I have to say somethings that she did to me when I grew up like she abandoned me and would leave me and my older sister by ourselfs while she left the state for months on end ( no lie) getting high, and I'll yell at her untill she crys or untill my father gets mad enough to tell us to stop. Another problem with the situation is that me and my wife drink and I let my wife snort pills. (hydrocodine) well my mom caught my wife and told my father... Now my father is an older guy, about 60 years old and talked to me saying that he knows how it is and has done stuff like this before and he didn't mind, but he wish we wouldnt do this type of stuff. So my mother started telling everyone in our family and friends that my wife is a "crack head" and explains what happend and how she found this out. Its hard to live like this and really need advise, because honestly my mother (being mentally unstable) can and will instigate things, Please give me some advise I can use, I don't care if you say I'm wrong I just need help :S

[Corporate]

Your divorced mom is living with your dad?

 

Is your dad dating anyone at the moment?

[rocklobzsta]

No, he cant really do anything because he is kind of a quadriplegic so he hasn't dated in almost 10 years.

[AVR1962]

Somehow, someway, I would be getting myself free of your mother and then place safe boundaries for yourself to not be in a position to be close as it seems there's alot of issues here that only counseling would help and with her hostile nature I doubt that she sees her own problem.