Life is getting lame.

[MrNate]

Hello guys, it's the charming Mr. Nate once again. In my 21 years of life, I feel like I'm finally at a point where I'm wondering what I need to do in order to live a richer life. I currently reside in Baton Rouge, La. Home of the LSU fighting tigers. I graduated there in may, where I've met some of my best friends. Unfortunately, however, they live in a different city. It feels like meeting new people, and finding things to do aside from playing video games, going to the movies, and powerlifting (while it has increased my sexy factor) is a huge challenge.

 

I'm not a boring guy at all, and I'm fairly outgoing. I get a kick out of meeting new people, but it seems the very things I enjoyed in college have become non existent. I often find myself envying those who live in rather robust cities like houston, panama city, orlando, los angeles, etc. It seems like there's always something new and exciting going on, while the opportunities seem limitless.

 

I had a discussion about this with one of my best friends while at LSU. Of course he understood exactly where I was coming from, but he also brought up the idea that maybe it's because in part of the absence of an SO. I really entertained that idea, and rather I agreed in part. For the first time in my life growing up, I'm actually open to meeting a (cool, nerdy, preppy, etc) woman to date, but I know in my gut that while it would help, that it won't solve my problem. There has to be more to this than just obtaining a SO.

 

This has led me to really entertain the idea of moving. It has absolutely nothing to do with loathing my family, or the city I reside in. I just feel like as I begin to step into adulthood, that I'm meant to experience things that encourage internal growth and fuel excitement. Something that will ignite passions in me, that I feel so void of.

 

I just feel like I would love the chance to see and experience new things, and observe different lifestyles. I would be lying to myself If I said I was content.

 

In this case, is entertaining the idea of moving necessarily a bad thing?

If so, what are some things I could do to improve my current situation?

Or am I just being silly in this kind of thinking?

 

I'm open to any and every suggestion.

 

Thanks for the help, guys.

Edited July 18, 2010 by MrNate

[alphamale]

there must be some chicks in baton rouge

[MrNate]

there must be some chicks in baton rouge

 

Definitely bud. Of course I keep an eye out for certain women, but I'm really more worried about life as it is right now while I'm single.

 

I'm sure an SO would increase my quality of life, but as a single man right now, I feel like should be great even without a SO. That's the problem for me, I feel like even if I were to meet a woman. Eventually, even after sex, deep talks, dates, etc I would still find myself in this same rut.

 

While I was working out friday, I mentioned this to a friend of mine, and he said, "there's a reason the teen pregnancy rate is high down here", and I think he is in part right. There's just not much to do.

[BohemianLikeYou]

I think maybe moving might be too drastic a step at this point in time. What I think you should do?

 

Travel!

 

A foreign country would be great if you can do it, but if not, even a road trip to see other parts of America could be good. You sound very into physical fitness, maybe exploring one of the national parks or planning some hiking adventure.

 

Or maybe just hit up a bunch of cities that interest you and spend a few days in each of them. I find that travel has a way of getting me out of a rut and lets me come back with all new experiences to talk about. Solo travel is something I recommend everyone do and you're at the perfect age and situation right now.

 

Just an idea! I think it could be a lot of fun and really exciting for you. Might help clear your head and help you focus on what you want.

[MrNate]

I think maybe moving might be too drastic a step at this point in time. What I think you should do?

 

Travel!

 

A foreign country would be great if you can do it, but if not, even a road trip to see other parts of America could be good. You sound very into physical fitness, maybe exploring one of the national parks or planning some hiking adventure.

 

Or maybe just hit up a bunch of cities that interest you and spend a few days in each of them. I find that travel has a way of getting me out of a rut and lets me come back with all new experiences to talk about. Solo travel is something I recommend everyone do and you're at the perfect age and situation right now.

 

Just an idea! I think it could be a lot of fun and really exciting for you. Might help clear your head and help you focus on what you want.

 

This is an idea ive been entertaining. But would that really solve my dilemma?

 

That's not to say that I would absolutely love to travel and get out there more! There's a ton of things that I want to see and do. If possible I would like to spend most of my years doing this. I'm just wondering that even if I were to do that quite often, I would eventually find myself back at square one. Just being bored, and growing weary of a slow, uneventful life.

[BohemianLikeYou]

Look, to be completely blunt with you, I really don't think you're going to have a eureka moment just THINKING about your dilemma and trying to figure out the one perfect solution in your head or on a message board.

 

Traveling can change the way you view the world, it can give you experiences that can change what you want to do with the rest of your time, it can change the way you view yourself.

 

Really, you can move and change your location but if you don't start with yourself, you're in line to be just as bored wherever you go. I'd say start DOING a lot of new things. Start volunteering for a cause you care about, start trying new sports or take up a new hobby, start checking out social groups you might not usually check out and meet some new types of people.

 

I'm not trying to be harsh, I have a bad habit of THINKING too much instead of DOING myself. I'll get bored as hell and stuck in ruts, and everything starts looking like a lost cause. Seriously, you just have to pick something new and DO IT. You're not going to change things from inside your head and change isn't going to come knocking on your door.

 

There are pros and cons to every choice you can make, you can spend forever trying to decide. You can waste YEARS that way. Just GO and start DOING. No, not everything is gonna float your boat so you move on to the next thing. Just don't become paralyzed because you're too afraid of choosing the wrong thing, making a mistake, or failing. Just pick something and go.

 

Again, not trying to be a d-bag or anything. This is stuff I had to tell myself to change my boredom and dissatisfaction with my life. This is just my point of view. I think if you just start doing some new and different things, you'll start gaining momentum immediately and the 'brain sludge' of boredom will start wearing off. Just give it a shot.

[Crusoe]

Get out there Mr Nate. You're 21, go, see, travel, taste, party, rage, experience. Do it while you are young, get it out your system, learn life for yourself, learn what you want from life for and who you are. Work along the way, don't rack up debt and don't get tied down by a woman, not yet.

[SpanksTheMonkey]

Get out there Mr Nate. You're 21, go, see, travel, taste, party, rage, experience. Do it while you are young, get it out your system, learn life for yourself, learn what you want from life for and who you are. Work along the way, don't rack up debt and don't get tied down by a woman, not yet.

 

I sort of agree with this plus if your bored now in your home town even if you found a SO after the honey moon phase has worn off you will still be bored and to boot you will be tied down to a women who maybe wont want to explore new places.

 

I say if you have the ich and are some what financially stable enough pick a place and move I did and I can honestly say I don't regret it one bit now as im getting older..

[MrNate]

Look, to be completely blunt with you, I really don't think you're going to have a eureka moment just THINKING about your dilemma and trying to figure out the one perfect solution in your head or on a message board.

 

Traveling can change the way you view the world, it can give you experiences that can change what you want to do with the rest of your time, it can change the way you view yourself.

 

Really, you can move and change your location but if you don't start with yourself, you're in line to be just as bored wherever you go. I'd say start DOING a lot of new things. Start volunteering for a cause you care about, start trying new sports or take up a new hobby, start checking out social groups you might not usually check out and meet some new types of people.

 

I'm not trying to be harsh, I have a bad habit of THINKING too much instead of DOING myself. I'll get bored as hell and stuck in ruts, and everything starts looking like a lost cause. Seriously, you just have to pick something new and DO IT. You're not going to change things from inside your head and change isn't going to come knocking on your door.

 

There are pros and cons to every choice you can make, you can spend forever trying to decide. You can waste YEARS that way. Just GO and start DOING. No, not everything is gonna float your boat so you move on to the next thing. Just don't become paralyzed because you're too afraid of choosing the wrong thing, making a mistake, or failing. Just pick something and go.

 

Again, not trying to be a d-bag or anything. This is stuff I had to tell myself to change my boredom and dissatisfaction with my life. This is just my point of view. I think if you just start doing some new and different things, you'll start gaining momentum immediately and the 'brain sludge' of boredom will start wearing off. Just give it a shot.

 

Great points man. I guess this is what it will ultimately come down too, I guess I just needed some direction as to where to start. At this point, I'm willing to try and entertain any idea to make my situation better.

 

The thinking is done because I want to make sure I'm not being silly in contemplating moving. I still feel like I would have more chances to do fun things else where, but, as you say there are things I can do here to improve my situation, and I agree 100%. I plan on changing things immediately.

[MrNate]

Get out there Mr Nate. You're 21, go, see, travel, taste, party, rage, experience. Do it while you are young, get it out your system, learn life for yourself, learn what you want from life for and who you are. Work along the way, don't rack up debt and don't get tied down by a woman, not yet.

 

Yep. This is the sort of conclusion I've come to. My mentor/boss has been telling me the same thing. Not to let relationships hinder personal growth, and in this time while I'm young, I think it's better for me to finally learn about myself, before I entertain the idea of a SO. A minor worry is about the idea of feeling a bit lonely at time, but I feel that if I do what I need to do to make my life richer, then that part of life will naturally fall in place at the right time.

 

 

Thanks for simple, yet phenomenal advice.

[MrNate]

I sort of agree with this plus if your bored now in your home town even if you found a SO after the honey moon phase has worn off you will still be bored and to boot you will be tied down to a women who maybe wont want to explore new places.

 

I say if you have the ich and are some what financially stable enough pick a place and move I did and I can honestly say I don't regret it one bit now as im getting older..

 

That's a problem I don't want to have to realize, which is why I think it's best for me to grow and experience more as a person, and then let relationships follow. I think that would be healthiest in the longrun.

 

I also am still heavily contemplating moving, but if I do, it will definitely be at a point when finances are in order, and I'm very positive I'll be able to take care of myself.

[MrNate]

If anyone else has a suggestion, I would be more than happy to listen.