peaches1211 Posted July 20, 2010 Share Posted July 20, 2010 I have been with my boufriend for bout ten years he wont commit what am I doing wrong. I dont understand he is always yelling it makes me nervous, he always takes my money. Shouldnt he spend money on me? I dont get it everybody says Im pretty and what am I doin with him. I feel sorry for him. I can I get over feeling sorry for him and move on! He has beat me up be 4 and just recently choked me! But I still feel sorry for him. Help Please I dont know why I cant leave and why I feel sorry for him! He treats me bad and puts me down? Have I gone Crazy! SOB SOB SOB Link to post Share on other sites
skydiveaddict Posted July 20, 2010 Share Posted July 20, 2010 you dont pick bad men' you've just never met me Link to post Share on other sites
Hot Carl Posted July 20, 2010 Share Posted July 20, 2010 Bad men need love, too. Link to post Share on other sites
Lovelybird Posted July 20, 2010 Share Posted July 20, 2010 If you can afford a therapist, then go to one. It seems like you are toxined. I remember a therapist described a scene to a woman who is in a situation like yours, and she couldn't give up on him. The woman has many plates of good food, and a man is standing besides her, hungered, and bony. This woman feel sorry for him, and handed him a plate of delicious food, then the man threw the plate onto the woman's face, then the woman handed him another plate of food, then again he threw back onto the woman's face......the woman totally unnoticed that her face was bruised, cut and full of blood, because she feel sorry for him, and she could not leave him for her own loneliness. I feel like you probably have an isolate live as well, don't have some friends really support you. Do you? Link to post Share on other sites
sugarmomma Posted July 20, 2010 Share Posted July 20, 2010 Please get some counseling as soon as possible. You keep trying to get something from someone who is just as wounded or more than you are. I hope you get the help you need since he is abusive and you are dependent. Find out if there is a local codependents anonymous group near you. They can also help. Link to post Share on other sites
xpaperxcutx Posted July 29, 2010 Share Posted July 29, 2010 Because you're a straight woman, and straight women are deranged. :lmao: I'm highly offended by this. He's not a bad man, he's an abusive man. You need to run girl, RUN! And slap a restraining order on his ass if he gets near you. Don't feel sorry for him, hate his guts! Link to post Share on other sites
D-Lish Posted July 29, 2010 Share Posted July 29, 2010 I don't know, why do you pick bad men? Your choices belong to you, and you are the only one that should be held accountable for them. If this guy isn't treating you well, you have the choice to move on and make better dating choices, so do so. Link to post Share on other sites
samsungxoxo Posted July 29, 2010 Share Posted July 29, 2010 I don't know.. only you can answer your question. Maybe it's because you don't want to end up alone and thinking you have no other option, you go for whatever crap is out there. You need counseling if you're constantly choosing bad men. Link to post Share on other sites
GordonDarkfoot Posted August 1, 2010 Share Posted August 1, 2010 We're all bad. You just haven't met us all yet. Link to post Share on other sites
xpaperxcutx Posted August 1, 2010 Share Posted August 1, 2010 We're all bad. You just haven't met us all yet. Really, how nice... more guys for me to screw over then... Link to post Share on other sites
Sophia8 Posted August 1, 2010 Share Posted August 1, 2010 Because you're a straight woman, and straight women are deranged. This has no relevance whatsoever, I have female and male friends who are homosexual or heterosexual and abuse can still happen regardless of sexual orientation or gender. I'm not going to tell you to leave him as I know that it is never as straightforward as that to people in these situations. What I will say though is for you to post a message on here you have realised that your relationship is not right at the moment and that you are unhappy, realisation is the first big step and what you chose to do after that is what really matters. You can chose to leave things as they are in an abusive relationship or you can leave him or you can see a therapist by yourself or as a couple or you may even be able to convince him to see a therapist by himself (only you can make that judgement call as to whether mentioning a therapist to him may be volatile or not)... it doesn't even have to be a matter of either/or there are many choices available, granted that some of these may depend on whether or not you can afford it. Try not to feel sorry for him though, whatever his reasons are behind behaving like that does not justify his behaviour as he too has choices and can either get the help or chose to change his own behaviour. Chances are that he does have reasons behind his behaviour, which is why if you do decide to stay with him therapy may help or even talking things through with you. Just bare in mind though that there are people out there that may have gone through similar things or even worse things than your partner but they do not resort to violence or psychological abuse. I really hope that you manage to sort things out. Link to post Share on other sites
Brady_to_Moss Posted August 1, 2010 Share Posted August 1, 2010 Really, how nice... more guys for me to screw over then... You got it. Link to post Share on other sites
Mary3 Posted August 2, 2010 Share Posted August 2, 2010 I have been with my boufriend for bout ten years he wont commit what am I doing wrong. I dont understand he is always yelling it makes me nervous, he always takes my money. Shouldnt he spend money on me? I dont get it everybody says Im pretty and what am I doin with him. I feel sorry for him. I can I get over feeling sorry for him and move on! He has beat me up be 4 and just recently choked me! But I still feel sorry for him. Help Please I dont know why I cant leave and why I feel sorry for him! He treats me bad and puts me down? Have I gone Crazy! SOB SOB SOB This smells like a Troll....to me.. Link to post Share on other sites
solo_flyer Posted August 9, 2010 Share Posted August 9, 2010 If you only attract dogs, then it's about time you check on the scent you're putting out! Link to post Share on other sites
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