Some minor problems =/

[General LoveFist]

Hello there everyone

 

I am your average 18 year old although I have always had a few problems which have not really been a big deal until recently, the first one being I am quiet shy when it comes to meeting new people and the second one being I have very low confidence and always doubt myself etc. At a young age I got bullied a lot and this pretty much destroyed my personality + confidence as the years went by and it has now made me what + who I am like today.

 

Lately it seems as if I am quiet short on friends due to them all being busy with life, their boyfriends + girlfriends etc and it has been quiet boring being stuck inside most of the time if I am truly honest. Even some friends I know who had hardly any friends now have a lot more friends than me and it feels like i am getting left behind in a cloud of dust, and I don't want to end up with having no mates or social life. Even my mum has noticed this and has spoken to me about getting out more although I usually just shrug it off because there is nothing she could do about it anyway. Most of my friends are also usually busy with their own tight group of friends which means it's quiet rare i get asked to go out or do anything, and also meet new people which is the main thing at the moment

 

I think this has all boiled down to me wanting a lot more friends and also getting a nice girlfriend in the process although the big problem seems to be getting the confidence and regaining the personality I had when I was a lot younger. I just feel like a completely different person inside who just wants to be that cheeky guy who makes all the girls laugh and smile while in reality I just wouldn't attempt it because I am worried of how people would react or think about me.

 

I guess any advice from someone who has also been in this position and managed to gain their confidence and personality back after feeling like they can not express it would be greatly appreciated and would hopefully help me get back in the right direction to being the person I know I am inside

[Spectral]

Hey,

 

When I was your age I sounded pretty much the same.

 

I know what it feels like to feel as though you're lacking in the friend department.

 

I hung out with a "crew" in college. But I felt like I only had a couple of actual friends.

 

Truth is, I only have two friends that I met from college.

 

But they're authentic.

 

During the college years, most people are putting on a front- and a lot of us feel far more lonely and isolated than we let on.

 

You might just be a genuine person who is able to admit to their true feelings of loneliness.

 

Truth is, in life, we have few TRUE friends. At your age you may want many friends- but really you only NEED one or two real friends in life.

 

One real friend equals 25 acquaintances, believe me.

 

I wish you the best.

 

If you feel there are genuine people, like yourself, in your life- stick with them. As you grow older, you will feel lucky to have formed those relationships.

 

I promise.

[LuckyLady13]

General, I was in a similar situation one time for different reasons but I'll tell you how it worked out:

 

I started getting out there and talking to people, meeting all sorts of new acquaintances without any confidence in myself. I really couldn't wait to get my confidence back first so I just went, feeling pretty low about myself. After a while, after talking to all the new people and starting to see how their response to me was so positive...THAT is what rebuilt my confidence again!

 

It was almost as if I forgot who I really was and talking to these people even before I felt ready to started to remind me that I had plenty of great qualities.

[General LoveFist]

Thanks for the replys, has given me some urge to try and meet new people now and just be myself, didn't think many people would have been in the same / similar situation as i am but it seems as if there is a light at the end of the long dark tunnel after all.