Mom being verbally busive

[harmony15]

My mom and me have been fighting for almost 3 years now maybe more. im only thirteen and i have a very bad record (violence). ive already attempted to commit suicide.my parents got divorced when i was 7 and ever since then my life has been living hell. shes had 2 boyfriends whom i tried to be nice to. we have moved to mexico all because she wanted to be closer to her boyfriend. we moved back though because i couldnt and wouldnt accomadate. I am wealthy and that makes me believe im better than everyone which recently i learned im not. ever since i can remember shes been hitting me and im growing very tired. when we were at our restaraunt i remember that various times she would hit me and throw anything at me. i was only seven and she was throwing staplers and water bottles at me.shes beaten me with belt and i have marks over my body that are where she has pinches me smacked me etc... she is constantly calling me a beast and how im stupid and she compares me to everyonbe. when i was ten or eleven we lived in lawrenceville my grandma called the police on her because she had beaten my brother and i kinda lied about ho she didnt hit us and i thought her behavior was because of me. this morning she told me to clean the whole house and she smirked at my god knows why but i smirked back she threw books and yearbooks and my vera bradley watch at me. when she was leaving she yelled at me and started the name calling and i said i knew i was a dumbass and an idiot and a beast and it made me soooo mad that i concluded the sentence by saying i knew i was all those things just like her. she turned around and started yelling at me she cornered me and she grabbed my jaw and squeezed so bad i have an icepack on it.she said that when she was my age she beat up girls so bad they went to the hospital im terrefied of her she yelled at me and she always tells me about her past and how she was so smart and had good grades. but yet she beat up people. wierd huh? she told me i was going to boarding school and im sooooo happy because i wont be yelled at and i asked her why she didnt send me now and she said she doesnt need to waist money on a beast like me. im tired of her attitude. ive considered calling the police but everyone in town knows her and they think im her golden daughter that nothing could be better in her life and they dont know what shes really like.iv learned that no one deserves to be treated like this thats why im writing this if ou have any clue o what i should do please tell me:)

[LuckyCharm]

Get out of that house!!! and I don't mean by running away. does your mom home school you or do you go to a public/private school? if you go to school then tell the school counselor and ask to be removed from your home.

Do you have any marks on your jaw line or any kinds of marks from the beating? if so show them to the school counselor or who ever you tell.No one has the right to hurt you! they need to remove you from a home like that.

[SassyKitten]

I agree, tell a trusted adult, if you have any marks show them, and make sure you get out of there ASAP!! And the earlier the better, if you allow yourself to be in a situation where these wounds are being inflicted while you're still 13 and relatively young and continue to develop while having this abuse inflicted on you, it makes healing so much harder.

 

I have personal experience, so I know, and I wish I had gotten out of there sooner. And like yourself, people seemed to think the world of my parents and kept telling me how lucky I was to have them, but they only saw the outside of the situation. And please, please, if you tell one adult and they don't believe you, keep telling adults untill you find at least one who will have your back on this, it's so critical!

 

As for myself, I'm now 28, had a similar childhood to yourself, and I am now estranged from both of my parents. I have bad days often still, the aftermath was a lot uglier in my early 20s, but at the same time it wasn't untill my early 20s when I faced up to the fact that I was abused and didn't let peoples' favorable first impressions of my family sway me otherwise.

 

While your situation is dark, you are still young, you are only young once, so the earlier you nip this in the bud once and for all the easier life becomes as a result. Also, one thing that may be making it so hard to tell someone is that it's human instinct to want your parents' approval and love. That is the biggest thing that kept me from confronting this issue while I was still in my teens. Remember that actions make someone family, not genetics. And what I ended up having to tell myself when I cut myself off from my parents is this:

 

While I love my parents, I also love myself. And I love myself too much to allow myself to be subjected to any toxic people, blood-related to me or not.

 

Good luck, and please feel free to post again if you need anything.

 

Also, here's a few numbers of hotlines you can call that I Googled for you. I would try these as well, and I would think but am not for sure that they may be able to help you get some justice for your situation:

1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453)

1-800-621-HOPE (1-800-621-4673)

1-800-448-3000 - They said this one is 24/7, the other's probably are as well.

 

Again, good luck!!!!

[harmony15]

thank you so much this has really helped me and i will follow your advice because my mom wants me to go see a shrink and thinks im the promblem when really shes the problem and yes i do have markings on my arms and a couple on my legs so hopefully that should help.

[SassyKitten]

Good luck, and whatever you do, do not let your mother put you into the position of letting the therapist convince you that you are the problem. Also, if the therapist sees proof that you are in dangerI(which you have), they are required by law to inform the authorities. Good luck, and keep looking forward, life will get better, promise.

[AVR1962]

Seek help thru a school couselor, Social Services, or someone that can really help the situation. Chances are your mom is only doing what she was taught but she needs help. No more thoughts of taking your life, empower yourself, you can make a change here by first seeking help. If you are afraid, let the adult you have contacted know what you fear might happen. Maybe you can be placed in a safe envirnoment while everything is checked out and your mom gets the help she needs.

[billy10388]

My mom and me have been fighting for almost 3 years now maybe more. im only thirteen and i have a very bad record (violence). ive already attempted to commit suicide.my parents got divorced when i was 7 and ever since then my life has been living hell. shes had 2 boyfriends whom i tried to be nice to. we have moved to mexico all because she wanted to be closer to her boyfriend. we moved back though because i couldnt and wouldnt accomadate. I am wealthy and that makes me believe im better than everyone which recently i learned im not. ever since i can remember shes been hitting me and im growing very tired. when we were at our restaraunt i remember that various times she would hit me and throw anything at me. i was only seven and she was throwing staplers and water bottles at me.shes beaten me with belt and i have marks over my body that are where she has pinches me smacked me etc... she is constantly calling me a beast and how im stupid and she compares me to everyonbe. when i was ten or eleven we lived in lawrenceville my grandma called the police on her because she had beaten my brother and i kinda lied about ho she didnt hit us and i thought her behavior was because of me. this morning she told me to clean the whole house and she smirked at my god knows why but i smirked back she threw books and yearbooks and my vera bradley watch at me. when she was leaving she yelled at me and started the name calling and i said i knew i was a dumbass and an idiot and a beast and it made me soooo mad that i concluded the sentence by saying i knew i was all those things just like her. she turned around and started yelling at me she cornered me and she grabbed my jaw and squeezed so bad i have an icepack on it.she said that when she was my age she beat up girls so bad they went to the hospital im terrefied of her she yelled at me and she always tells me about her past and how she was so smart and had good grades. but yet she beat up people. wierd huh? she told me i was going to boarding school and im sooooo happy because i wont be yelled at and i asked her why she didnt send me now and she said she doesnt need to waist money on a beast like me. im tired of her attitude. ive considered calling the police but everyone in town knows her and they think im her golden daughter that nothing could be better in her life and they dont know what shes really like.iv learned that no one deserves to be treated like this thats why im writing this if ou have any clue o what i should do please tell me:)

 

Thanks you for the post.