AngelBunny19 Posted February 9, 2004 Share Posted February 9, 2004 Well I'm alittle bit confused here. I have been dating this guy for about 8 months now, everything seems pretty fine when we are together but ever since he's began working nightshift (10-6am!Ack!) things have been REAAALLLLLY different.we only see eachother twice a week and we live in the same city only like 15 min. from eachother,this is pretty understandable mind you,cuz workin nights u gotta sleep during the day of course. anyway, when we are together 90% of the time he is great, but alot of times he will just be tired the whole time we're together, regardless of how much sleep he had, and when we talk on the phone at night we talk for like 15 minutes and most of it is spent with me doing all the talk, and him either being way to sleepy to say nething or he is intently trying to balance talking to me and watching the TV out,which doesnt work and TV usually wins, yet when i finally got so fed up with his bad moods being taken out on me and all of the above, he said he does care about me, he wants to be with me,he wants this to last yea u get the picture and he is affectionate when we r together yet on the phone he is a dick big time? What the heck??? Anyone know why he is so confusing???? ARG! Link to post Share on other sites
monkey00 Posted February 9, 2004 Share Posted February 9, 2004 stress from work, not in the mood Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted February 9, 2004 Share Posted February 9, 2004 Give the poor guy a break. His system is all screwed up by his new schedule. If that happened to me, I probably couldn't handle it. If you expect the relationship to return to its former self, you'll have to find him a job with better hours or wait until he is returned to the day shift. A dramatic change in sleep patterns or schedules can affect people in very dramatic ways. My vote is he should go find a job with decent day hours. Link to post Share on other sites
Author AngelBunny19 Posted February 10, 2004 Author Share Posted February 10, 2004 im not saying i dont understand (and trust me i give him a BIG break, i dunno alotta girls in my age range who end up staying with a guy thru this kinda thing but..) i mean he has the option to switch to an afternoon shift netime he wants to, but he doesnt BUT he still complains about being tired and his life is all messed up etc. so....why wouldnt he take an afternoon shift and only have to work till 10 pm instead of 6am? should i maybe mention sumthing to him about maybe he should switch to afternoons cuz it would be better for him all around i think? but im just really becoming impatient with his bad moods(which r taken out on me) and him sleeping while we have the little time we do get together, i'd never tell him this and he doesnt even know i feel this way cause i dont want him to feel stressed about us on top of work either,thats just not good for anyone,but i cant talk to him about ANYTHING period cause he's either to tired all the time, doesnt have time to talk or all of his buds are over when we're together(dont mind it but theres no way im sayin personal stuff in front of them!) i dunno, is this relationship doomed? or is there a chance it could still hopefully work? very confused Link to post Share on other sites
Arabess Posted February 10, 2004 Share Posted February 10, 2004 I think if the relationship is on shakey ground because of a new work schedule....you may want to really take a look to see if it's even worth maintaining. I work LONG hours sometimes.....I'm barely in the mood to talk to anyone. I'll post sometimes....but not even consider answering the phone. He's probably just feeling tired and cranky. As far as why he is choosing this night shift.....only he can answer that. Generally, night shifts are better for any variety of reasons. One of which, it's more relaxed cause the boss isn't there! LOL! If you can work thru this....everything might turn out fine. If you are unhappy and feel his choices aren't working for you....then you really DO need to decide if you want to leave the relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
reasontosigh Posted February 10, 2004 Share Posted February 10, 2004 Most people I know work late shifts for the "night differential" - slightly higher pay than other shifts. Link to post Share on other sites
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