confused??

[Kat]

I have been seeing a guy for about a month that I have actually known for a year but we were both in relationships and hung out together. When we got out of those we ended up hanging out together and the significant others from previous went there own ways. Well we had been together 24/7 for the last couple weeks and one night I came to see him but he was on the way out of town b/c he got a horrible call that his father had been in a car wreck and might not live until he could make it home (3hrs away). He gave our friend the key to his house to watch his dogs and asked me to help. I talked to him in his car phone on the way there and he said I promise I will call or email tomorrow and let you know what is going on. Well he called my friends who were watching his dogs mon, tues and wed and talked less than 5 mins just to let them know what was going on. They of course relayed info to me. His father did die wednesday and the funeral was sat and he told them wed. that he would be back sat. Well saturday they went out of town and I was stuck with the dogs saturday and sunday. It is now monday and I still don't think he is back and also it is strange that he hasn't called me since he left. I know that he has so much going on right now and I am very worried about him driving around in that traumatic state of shock. Do you think it is weird that he did not call at all or maybe he just wants to be left alone to deal with all of this. I really want to be there for him but I can't if I don't have anyway of reaching him. My friend wrote him a ltr and I wrote a card and brought a plant, also sent something to the hospital before the father past away. I think that will let him know he has friends who care about him. But in the meantime I really miss him and am concerned as to why I havent' heard from him at all. What do you think?

[Tony T]

I don't think what he has been going through is any excuse for not giving you a quick call as he promised. After all, you have known him over a year and have been seeing him for a month.

 

He has time to check up on his animals and his house but not enough time to call his lady. See how things go after he returns. He will be in mourning for a bit of time. But once things get a bit back to normal, let him know you were affected by the absence of even a short call during this time and see what he says.

 

I don't think we ought to judge this quite yet...I have a hunch there's a pretty good reason why you didn't hear from him. You wil find out soon. Meantime, don't worry about it.

 

Once he gets back, if things don't get back to being pretty nice between the two of you, have a good talk with him.

[Kat]

Thanks Tony,

 

I had the same hunch, it is just driving me crazy not knowing what is going on but I should find out something today or tomorrow so I'm sure I will be back. Thanks again.

 

Kat

I don't think what he has been going through is any excuse for not giving you a quick call as he promised. After all, you have known him over a year and have been seeing him for a month.

 

He has time to check up on his animals and his house but not enough time to call his lady. See how things go after he returns. He will be in mourning for a bit of time. But once things get a bit back to normal, let him know you were affected by the absence of even a short call during this time and see what he says. I don't think we ought to judge this quite yet...I have a hunch there's a pretty good reason why you didn't hear from him. You wil find out soon. Meantime, don't worry about it. Once he gets back, if things don't get back to being pretty nice between the two of you, have a good talk with him.

[billy the kid]

Kat, I have had close friends, a girlfriend and father die.. It kinda sets you back. I'm sure every thing will be fine in time. Just be understanding and patient..I wish the best for both of you..

Thanks Tony, I had the same hunch, it is just driving me crazy not knowing what is going on but I should find out something today or tomorrow so I'm sure I will be back. Thanks again. Kat

[Kat]

He came back last night and we talked. He didn't call b/c he was so broken up, he wanted to wait until he got back to talk about it. I was over there last night and though he is going to take a while to get over it, everything between us is pretty much the same. I am glad that I know how he is doing b/c it drove me crazy not knowing if he was okay. I had a close friend die a month ago and he was there for me, I just want to be there for him. Everything is much better now. Thank you for your comments and sorry about your losses, Billy.

Kat, I have had close friends, a girlfriend and father die.. It kinda sets you back. I'm sure every thing will be fine in time. Just be understanding and patient..I wish the best for both of you..