My Daughter Says our House is Haunted

[AVR1962]

My 13 year old has been saying some weird stuff lately. She says that a family from NM (ghosts) followed us to where we live now in Germany and that she talks to them with a home-made wiigi board she constructed from paper. She also tells me that we have a person who haunts my piano studio which attached to the house, and that he likes to hear my students play. My daughter used to also take lessons and has recently sarted playing again, claiming she does it for this ghost.

 

I kind of think this is an age issue and she is just trying to get a reaction from me. I do not feel the house is haunted. We have a family member who is a pastor who spend 3 days and nights with us just recently in the home and she also does not feel the house is haunted.

 

Any thoughts on this?

[TaraMaiden]

Is there any way you could suggest to her you contact a medium to come in and make contact with these 'ghosts'?

See how she reacts. if she readily agrees, it might be something she genuinely believes.

If she objects, then I think it's a sign she's worried she will get found out as a fraud...

In that case, just agree with her, tell her ok, and ignore any comments in future about ghosts, and tell her you're sure they're very nice, and that you're glad they are her friends...

Then try to organise different activities she might enjoy, and involve yourself with her activities as much as you can.

 

Is she a bit of a loner?

What about school friends?

How sociable is she?

[torranceshipman]

Oh man - get that ouija board away from her. Maybe I am being stupid but I have always thought those things can open the door to bad stuff (and I generally don't believe in anything superstitious!)

 

Also she is of the age where kids can pick up on stuff...who knows, she may be telling the truth. Or she might be bored and is engaging in a bit of harmless make believe? It made her take up piano so hey, sounds like quite a productive type of make believe to me

[harmony15]

hi im also 13 i dont believe your daughter is trying to get attention or anything. well Kids and teens have wilder and open imaginations this sometimes allows us to hear and think about things that may or may not be there.Maybe it is a ghost. If she is playing with a ouija board I suggest you get rid of it even if its homemade. They are very dangerous and if its not properly blessed it can create portals and strong enteties or forces can come through that portal and can be severe. my aunt to did have a oujia board and couldnt get rid of it every time she tried to get rid of it it would come back to her and it was always on top of her bed. The only way to ged rid of it is to burn after burning the board grab holy water and bless every corner of the house. Again all this may sound crazy but its true talk to your daughter about it.

[sally4sara]

Was your daughter happy about moving away or reluctant?

 

Is she a big fan of the supernatural themed stuff like "Twilight", "Medium", or other similar entertainment?

As for the ouija board.....

 

It is construction paper. It is no different than if she made paper dolls and acted out fantasy scenarios with them. It amuses her and likely will be discarded once she matures a bit and makes more friends in her new surroundings. Don't make a huge stink about it unless you see her becoming more and more involved in her fantasy imaginings otherwise you might make it more important to her than it really is currently. Watch to see if she begins to do self destructive things and claiming she was instructed to it because it might indicate she has become delusional. Many mental health issues present at adolescence.

 

I ask if she is a "Twilight" fan because of her age, how popular the stories are with people her age, and the fact that she, like the main character, just moved to a new place. The whole story is what is called "self insert fantasy". Poor misunderstood teen moves far away from her friends and in her period of loneliness and readjustment, becomes super important for no obvious reason to a supernatural individual that makes her the center of his world. What 13 year old girl wouldn't wish for the something similar to happen to her after she gets moved away from all her friends?

[TheLoneSock]

My 13 year old has been saying some weird stuff lately. She says that a family from NM (ghosts) followed us to where we live now in Germany and that she talks to them with a home-made wiigi board she constructed from paper. She also tells me that we have a person who haunts my piano studio which attached to the house, and that he likes to hear my students play. My daughter used to also take lessons and has recently started playing again, claiming she does it for this ghost.

 

I kind of think this is an age issue and she is just trying to get a reaction from me. I do not feel the house is haunted. We have a family member who is a pastor who spend 3 days and nights with us just recently in the home and she also does not feel the house is haunted.

 

Any thoughts on this?

 

I can tell you that the worst thing you could do is discount your daughter's claims. She will remember it forever if you don't believe her. I'm not saying you should hang on every word she states about this, but even if you think it's complete hogwash, you should take her seriously.

[sally4sara]

You don't have to feed a fantasy to avoid discounting it.

[Corporate]

My 13 year old has been saying some weird stuff lately. She says that a family from NM (ghosts) followed us to where we live now in Germany and that she talks to them with a home-made wiigi board she constructed from paper. She also tells me that we have a person who haunts my piano studio which attached to the house, and that he likes to hear my students play. My daughter used to also take lessons and has recently sarted playing again, claiming she does it for this ghost.

 

I kind of think this is an age issue and she is just trying to get a reaction from me. I do not feel the house is haunted. We have a family member who is a pastor who spend 3 days and nights with us just recently in the home and she also does not feel the house is haunted.

 

Any thoughts on this?

 

Based on the above information, it's either

 

1) Your house is indeed haunted, OR

 

2) Your daugher is mental.

 

No other explaination.

[SakenPT]

Hey there.

Ghosts do not exist...

 

Also, she's 13! when i was 13 i used to make up stuff all the time to get attention

[Jilly Bean]

OK, I am a practicing pagan, natural empath, am pretty psychic, and have an appreciation for all things metaphysical.

 

That all being said, anything metaphysical, or related to the occult and spirituality , comes down to believers, and non-believers. So, I can't sit here, and wouldn't try, to convince you that something spiritual was happening in your home. Generally, you would be aware, as entities eventually make themselves known. But, I will give you my opinion of some options to consider, either way:

 

1 - for those who believe, ouiji magick is black. It is not white, and it does not open doors to the pretty other world where positive spirits reside. It's a great portal for inviting negative energies and entities. So, even if she constructed something on her own, it doesn't diminish the power of the act or intent. Does your daughter say she ever feels threatened by these entities? Does she say they speak to her, and instruct her to do things? Or, does she feel they are positive forces? Thing to note, is that negative spirits often manifest initially in a very positive light, in order to garner access to this plane, and gain the trust of the practitioner. It's not uncommon for them to then begin to wreak some havoc after they've established a connection.

 

2 - Here's the rub on all of this, however, that's pretty telling as far as the veracity of her story. Spirits tend to not follow people. They attach to places, rather than people. For your daughter to have been able to have a family follow her, is extremely unusual, and would portend more of a possession, which wouldn't happen by an entire family anyhow. So, IMO, I think the likelihood of your home being haunted by a family from that moved from another country, is highly remote.

 

3 - It's not uncommon for young teens to develop an interest in the occult. Has your daughter ever had any psychic visions or experiences?

 

Honestly, I wouldn't say she's doing this for attention, but perhaps more as a reaction to a dramatic move. It could be her way of retaining some contact with her previous life, which obviously she had no choice in leaving.

 

What I would suggest is this. I would tell her you don't mind her learning about metaphysics and spirituality, but that the ouiji board has to go, because it can yield some dangerous results for the whole family. I would then ask her if this is something that interests her in learning more about, and if so, then I would go to the library and get her some books on white magick for teens. There are many books for young witches/wiccans/pagans, and if this is something she wants to explore, I would make sure she's at least practicing and learning about white magic. Botching a white spell isn't going to harm anyone - it's just not going to work. lol. I suspect it would be a good way for her to feel some control over her new life in a new place, and would help ground her.

[LuckyCharm]

I agree with TaraMaiden! Suggest you bring someone over who can tell for sure if the house is haunted and how to get rid of these ghost, see what your Daughters reaction is.

 

I also agree with another poster who said not to discount your daughters claims, she WILL remember it forever.

Some 13y/o like the attention and some are trying to grow up so it's hard to say if it's real or not but what I can tell you is that when I was 14 y/o I really got into mysticism and I made a homemade Ouija board that my Brother and I both used twice...I got ride of it but a year later some thing scary happened to me (I believe it was even satanic), I got the courage to tell my mom (whom I have ever been close to) and she thought I was crazy and sent me to a therapist. That's why I say she will remember it if you don't believe her and won't consult in you with (real?) further issues. hope this helped

[Corporate]

I got ride of it but a year later some thing scary happened to me (I believe it was even satanic), I got the courage to tell my mom (whom I have ever been close to) and she thought I was crazy and sent me to a therapist. That's why I say she will remember it if you don't believe her and won't consult in you with (real?) further issues. hope this helped

 

What happened?

[LuckyCharm]

What happened?

 

I was working really hard on this one thing (nothing bad just don't want to say what it was) and after I finished I heard a voice telling me to destroy it and if not a family member will die. it was more of an inner voice but not really and it was only for a split second and I didn't want to destroy what I was working on so hard so I just ignored the voice. The next day I was in my room and I decided to write my middle name on a piece of paper along with this other family members who I'm sort of named after. a moment later my Mom calls me out to tell me the family member that I wrote her name has died.

I was freaked out for a while.

[princecarspian]

Some times small children are afraid while seeing some thing wrong in the house .And they believe small one is there in the house. So the parent want to hear their prblem and then solve their problem by saying that their is no ghost in the house or something else

[Corporate]

I was working really hard on this one thing (nothing bad just don't want to say what it was) and after I finished I heard a voice telling me to destroy it and if not a family member will die. it was more of an inner voice but not really and it was only for a split second and I didn't want to destroy what I was working on so hard so I just ignored the voice. The next day I was in my room and I decided to write my middle name on a piece of paper along with this other family members who I'm sort of named after. a moment later my Mom calls me out to tell me the family member that I wrote her name has died.

I was freaked out for a while.

 

So, you would have saved this family member if you destroyed this one thing? Why didn't you?

 

Did you blame yourself?

[jamesum]

I thought we are living in the year 2010 now.

[threebyfate]

My 13 year old has been saying some weird stuff lately. She says that a family from NM (ghosts) followed us to where we live now in Germany and that she talks to them with a home-made wiigi board she constructed from paper. She also tells me that we have a person who haunts my piano studio which attached to the house, and that he likes to hear my students play. My daughter used to also take lessons and has recently sarted playing again, claiming she does it for this ghost.

 

I kind of think this is an age issue and she is just trying to get a reaction from me. I do not feel the house is haunted. We have a family member who is a pastor who spend 3 days and nights with us just recently in the home and she also does not feel the house is haunted.

 

Any thoughts on this?

I'd be worried but not about ghosts, but with the loneliness factor for your 13 year old. Is there any way you can find her another hobby, to redirect all that imagination into something meaningful? Maybe there's some form of club she can join so she can interact with other normal 13 year olds.

[turnera]

That depends, did the top keep spinning?

lol, I get it! I'm finally in on an inside joke for a change!

 

PS/TJ: Did it?

[AVR1962]

1 - for those who believe, ouiji magick is black. It is not white, and it does not open doors to the pretty other world where positive spirits reside. It's a great portal for inviting negative energies and entities. So, even if she constructed something on her own, it doesn't diminish the power of the act or intent. Does your daughter say she ever feels threatened by these entities? Does she say they speak to her, and instruct her to do things? Or, does she feel they are positive forces? Thing to note, is that negative spirits often manifest initially in a very positive light, in order to garner access to this plane, and gain the trust of the practitioner. It's not uncommon for them to then begin to wreak some havoc after they've established a connection.

 

2 - Here's the rub on all of this, however, that's pretty telling as far as the veracity of her story. Spirits tend to not follow people. They attach to places, rather than people. For your daughter to have been able to have a family follow her, is extremely unusual, and would portend more of a possession, which wouldn't happen by an entire family anyhow. So, IMO, I think the likelihood of your home being haunted by a family from that moved from another country, is highly remote.

 

3 - It's not uncommon for young teens to develop an interest in the occult. Has your daughter ever had any psychic visions or experiences?

 

Honestly, I wouldn't say she's doing this for attention, but perhaps more as a reaction to a dramatic move. It could be her way of retaining some contact with her previous life, which obviously she had no choice in leaving.

 

What I would suggest is this. I would tell her you don't mind her learning about metaphysics and spirituality, but that the ouiji board has to go, because it can yield some dangerous results for the whole family. I would then ask her if this is something that interests her in learning more about, and if so, then I would go to the library and get her some books on white magick for teens. There are many books for young witches/wiccans/pagans, and if this is something she wants to explore, I would make sure she's at least practicing and learning about white magic. Botching a white spell isn't going to harm anyone - it's just not going to work. lol. I suspect it would be a good way for her to feel some control over her new life in a new place, and would help ground her.

 

Thank you JellyBean. Do you think a ouiji board made of paper can actually cause problems? She claims these ghosts are friendly and positive, she does not appear frightened in any way. We had a sitaution last week where one of our cats got out of the yard, she is a 9 year old house cat that doesn't stay outside so I was concerned. We looked, couldn't not find her. The night the cat left my daughter said she contacted the ghosts and they told her that the cat was gone and that she (the cat) was dead. The cat came back 2 days later so I think (without me saying a word) it pretty much put an end to all this stuff, I hope! She hasn't mentioned anything more.

[SpanksTheMonkey]

 

Thank you JellyBean. Do you think a ouiji board made of paper can actually cause problems? She claims these ghosts are friendly and positive, she does not appear frightened in any way. We had a sitaution last week where one of our cats got out of the yard, she is a 9 year old house cat that doesn't stay outside so I was concerned. We looked, couldn't not find her. The night the cat left my daughter said she contacted the ghosts and they told her that the cat was gone and that she (the cat) was dead. The cat came back 2 days later so I think (without me saying a word) it pretty much put an end to all this stuff, I hope! She hasn't mentioned anything more.

 

 

Sounds like you have a little girl with a good imagination prob fueled by all the "hype" of the supernatural that goes around these days. I personalty love the paranormal and have had true experiences in the past even when I was a kid. But it scared me so much I never told my parent until I was much older. Sounds like shes looking for a little attention prob because of the new surroundings. I would def try to discourage the Ouija board ive never herd any positive things about them even if its paper the general idea is still the same...

Edited August 3, 2010 by SpanksTheMonkey

[Dazzel]

Who is to say your daughter is right or wrong?

 

It hasn't been proven that supernatural entities and hauntings do or don't exist. And some of these seem to have some dang good validity. I don't think she's be discussing it with you just to get attention.

[Jilly Bean]

Thank you JellyBean. Do you think a ouiji board made of paper can actually cause problems? She claims these ghosts are friendly and positive, she does not appear frightened in any way. We had a sitaution last week where one of our cats got out of the yard, she is a 9 year old house cat that doesn't stay outside so I was concerned. We looked, couldn't not find her. The night the cat left my daughter said she contacted the ghosts and they told her that the cat was gone and that she (the cat) was dead. The cat came back 2 days later so I think (without me saying a word) it pretty much put an end to all this stuff, I hope! She hasn't mentioned anything more.

 

It's Jilly. NP.

 

Yes, I do.

 

Ouiji magick is one of the lowest forms, and therefore you will only find lower vibrational entities through this portal.

 

The spirits at this level like to play games with those who call them. Their goal, actually, is to appear friendly and helpful, garner the trust of the practitioner, and then either cause some havoc or strife in their life, or, suck them into higher forms of black magick, as they let them think they actually possess some type of spiritual powers, when calling in energies through this method could be done quite effectively by an untrained child, as you now are well aware.

 

I still would not allow her to continue using the ouiji. It only opens a portal that leaves your entire family at risk.

[xomissraddox]

i agree with every word Jilly Bean said. i LOVE the supernatural and have done some research and a lot of "ghost hunting." i have even had a personal experience with a ghost in my ex's house.

 

if it is only your daughter who has these experiences, i highly doubt your house is haunted. like Jilly said, ghosts tend to attach themselves to a place or object. a whole family would not follow from one house to another like that.

HTH

[Dooda]

i agree with every word Jilly Bean said. i LOVE the supernatural and have done some research and a lot of "ghost hunting." i have even had a personal experience with a ghost in my ex's house.

 

if it is only your daughter who has these experiences, i highly doubt your house is haunted. like Jilly said, ghosts tend to attach themselves to a place or object. a whole family would not follow from one house to another like that.

HTH

 

What experience with a ghost did you have?

I'm interested because I've always heard ghost stories, but never heard a real life ghost story from someone not on TV.

[AVR1962]

Scary stuff to me. After the cat came back after daughter told me the ghost told her the cat was dead it is the last I have heard about the ghosts and I have not seen her paper board out.