fatty Posted February 9, 2004 Share Posted February 9, 2004 Hello, I am very ashamed and rgretful for my actions. Yes i have cheated. I dont know why but i did. Me and my g/f are going out fopr about 9 months now. I did not have sex just made out with the other girl. I dont know what came over me. I told my g/f 2 days later becasue it was eating me inside. I feel like i need to be hanged or to be tortured. I cant deal with this inner feeling i have. I am an a**h*** in every sense because of me doing this. My girlfreind didnt do anything to deserve this. I told her, she says she still loves me and is very hurt. It will take time for her to trust me again. I told her to leave me cause i am an a**h***. I have been having suicidal thoughts because of the pain i have caused her. I dont know how to cope with any of this. I hurt the person i have love the most. I dont know what to do. My g/f doesnt deserve this, i told her to leave me cause she deserves better. I dont what i am going to do. I cant deal with any of these guilty feelings and betrayal. I have hurt myself and scared her. I can never forgive myself for my actions and dont ask for any sympathy. I need help in coping with these feelings and showing my girl freind how much i truly love her. I know a dog like me doesnt deserve a 2nd chance but there is a god upstairs. If any one can help me cope with my feelings or any suggestion on how to make the situation better please let me know. I am dying inside and need help. P.S. I know i said i have suicidal thought but that doesnt mean i am going to turn to them. I just need to escape from the pain i have caused. I am need of help so anyone out there that has been in my situation plzzzzzzzz reply . much appreciated. Link to post Share on other sites
Nameless Posted February 10, 2004 Share Posted February 10, 2004 well... u can always do romantic surprises to help get her back... but she would probably just ignore it. There isnt much u can do to fix this relationship problem. As for ur guilt and other emotions, its natural and all u gotta do is wait. There isnt much that a person can do to fix their emotions. Sure they can just do things that might let them run and hide from these feelings, but u know wut happens. O yea, u can also do things that may remind her about how u first met or just remind her of the happier times in ur relationship. Do things that made her happy b4. GL bro... sorry to say it, ull need it Link to post Share on other sites
Author fatty Posted February 10, 2004 Author Share Posted February 10, 2004 Man i hate this feeling. I wish i could rip my heart out and cut all feelings. My heart sinks and hits 1000 bricks when she says "How will i ever trust you again?" Oh man. I wanna give her so much. I am sooo lost, i am hurt and shattered. Worst of all i got my midterms here. Oh man i dont know what to do. Time will heal all but i think this a scar that wont be healed Link to post Share on other sites
Nameless Posted February 10, 2004 Share Posted February 10, 2004 well.. u know how scars are. Link to post Share on other sites
guilty as charged Posted June 9, 2005 Share Posted June 9, 2005 I have the same problem as you but i slept with a girl, something made me do it I was drunk something just kept telling me I needed to do it. I cant even face my freinds today let alone my girlfreind to tell her about it. I can say this though, we all make mistakes and it's not up to someone else to tell you if you are right or wrong you know yourself the extent of the damage you have done. My freind I spoke to today helped me feel better, he said men are naturally sexual at a certain age, your age being 21 is prime time for sexual urges. I should be able to control mine by now but slipped up this time. Don't beat yourself up over what you have done, just accept it and try your best to be a better person, try to understand the urges which made you feel like you had to do this in the first place. Control yourself and learn from this. Hope this helps, G Link to post Share on other sites
blue16 Posted June 9, 2005 Share Posted June 9, 2005 Hey dude if it's any consolation, cheating on someone physically in the heat of the moment isn't as bad as cheating on someone emotionally. If you were going out on dates with this girl, then that would make you untrustworthy. But making out with some girl because you were both wasted and the urges took over for a brief second isn't nearly as bad. Link to post Share on other sites
jen_jen_heartbroken Posted June 9, 2005 Share Posted June 9, 2005 Both things hurt the other person pretty bad. But Blue16 is right...emotional infidelity is a lot worse, and in some ways more disrespectful. Having been cheated on, I am one person who knows this all too well. Link to post Share on other sites
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