Author Mombot Posted August 7, 2010 Author Share Posted August 7, 2010 I feel like he hihacked my heart and I need it back. Link to post Share on other sites
califnan Posted August 7, 2010 Share Posted August 7, 2010 I feel like he hihacked my heart and I need it back. ------------------- Amen to that .. The beginning of finding yourself, taking charge of your life again ... No matter what happens... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mombot Posted August 7, 2010 Author Share Posted August 7, 2010 I think I was thrown in the mistress bucket and didn't know it, and he intends to keep me there. I will have to see how well I can NC through the weekend. A really hot man from out of town likes me, but I don't think I can do the long distance crap anymore. It's these huge distances that create the false world where love and fantasy meet. I'll never see the W, and I'll probably never be the W either. So easy to be an on the road cheater, I guess, though several people I know consider separated okay. I think some of this has to do with my job. I work at a glamorous beach hotel, and almost everyone I meet is coming or going. Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted August 7, 2010 Share Posted August 7, 2010 nah, he's probably just busy with his wife and expects to take you out to play with him when it's convenient for him. question is - are you going to go along with it when he decides it's a convenient time to see you? maybe you should go out with the new guy... at least you'll stay busy - you might like him... just find out if he's married first. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mombot Posted August 7, 2010 Author Share Posted August 7, 2010 I think I will go out with him- lunch or something, the problem with being older is that these men have a long past- if they were never married, you wonder why, if they were, are they really divorced? Why are they divorced? I will not answer any of his calls, and I won't be at work so he can't find me there. I guess if it seems too good to be true, then it is. Damn, it was so fun until I found out he's terminally separated, and I've tried to get back to that place but the big ginormous lie got in the way. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mombot Posted August 7, 2010 Author Share Posted August 7, 2010 When I said I'd go to lunch- i meant new man. Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted August 7, 2010 Share Posted August 7, 2010 I think I will go out with him- lunch or something, the problem with being older is that these men have a long past- if they were never married, you wonder why, if they were, are they really divorced? Why are they divorced? I will not answer any of his calls, and I won't be at work so he can't find me there. I guess if it seems too good to be true, then it is. Damn, it was so fun until I found out he's terminally separated, and I've tried to get back to that place but the big ginormous lie got in the way. i know the feeling with the lies from men - they seem to think they have free reign on the lying front... like we're not supposed to notice. go with the new guy. have fun just for that day... no one says you need to assess every guy as marriage material - just go have fun! Link to post Share on other sites
BB07 Posted August 7, 2010 Share Posted August 7, 2010 Go out have some fun Mombot. As you know if there was one huge lie, there are probably hundreds of smaller ones. That's the way they work unforgettably. Link to post Share on other sites
califnan Posted August 7, 2010 Share Posted August 7, 2010 go with the new guy. have fun just for that day... no one says you need to assess every guy as marriage material - just go have fun! ------------------- I agree Ms Mombot, You are young, you have time to get it right - have fun .. Link to post Share on other sites
White Flower Posted August 7, 2010 Share Posted August 7, 2010 I think I will go out with him- lunch or something, the problem with being older is that these men have a long past- if they were never married, you wonder why, if they were, are they really divorced? Why are they divorced? I will not answer any of his calls, and I won't be at work so he can't find me there. I guess if it seems too good to be true, then it is. Damn, it was so fun until I found out he's terminally separated, and I've tried to get back to that place but the big ginormous lie got in the way. (((((Mombot))))) I'm sorry you found out the hard way. Life would be so much easier if they just presented their real selves to you so you didn't have to do the quesswork. Best of luck to you. Enjoy that beach town and enjoy lunch...or dinner...with someone new! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mombot Posted August 8, 2010 Author Share Posted August 8, 2010 Second day-NC Link to post Share on other sites
Fieldsofgold Posted August 8, 2010 Share Posted August 8, 2010 Second day-NC Good for you!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Silly_Girl Posted August 8, 2010 Share Posted August 8, 2010 You CAN do this Mombot. I know you can!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mombot Posted August 9, 2010 Author Share Posted August 9, 2010 Am waffling will have to be strong. Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted August 9, 2010 Share Posted August 9, 2010 Am waffling will have to be strong. no waffling - that only gives him all your power. stay strong = stay strong for YOUR benefit! you are worth it! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mombot Posted August 9, 2010 Author Share Posted August 9, 2010 Thank you. Link to post Share on other sites
BB07 Posted August 9, 2010 Share Posted August 9, 2010 Am waffling will have to be strong. Hang in there Mombot.........you can do it. STRONG! Link to post Share on other sites
White Flower Posted August 9, 2010 Share Posted August 9, 2010 Am waffling will have to be strong. Let him know how much it sucks to be him when he lies to you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mombot Posted August 9, 2010 Author Share Posted August 9, 2010 I got a voicemail but did not answer. Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted August 9, 2010 Share Posted August 9, 2010 I got a voicemail but did not answer. when you post like this - please be informative - state for us what the vm said from him. otherwise we are left with assumptions which leaves no way to be helpful to you. either way - good job not answering! stay strong for YOU! YOU deserve it! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mombot Posted August 9, 2010 Author Share Posted August 9, 2010 It said his son-in-law got arrested for drunk and disorderly on a lake and had gotten thrown in the slammer, and it's his 3rd strike. Link to post Share on other sites
Ellin Posted August 9, 2010 Share Posted August 9, 2010 Yep. I don't think any of us would assume that this is what he said.. Hold on, Mombot, and be strong. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mombot Posted August 9, 2010 Author Share Posted August 9, 2010 I think like all EA/PA, the communication is what is hardest to break. I will always enjoy talking to him, and I have to remind myself- why talk to someone who can freeze you out whenever his family comes around. Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted August 9, 2010 Share Posted August 9, 2010 It said his son-in-law got arrested for drunk and disorderly on a lake and had gotten thrown in the slammer, and it's his 3rd strike. his way of tempting you to feel sorry for him... he's expecting you to want to comfort him. he has his wife for that! don't fall for his ploys - expect him to keep upping the temptation. this is his way of manipulation... as long as you don't respond you aren't manipulated! besides - what the heck does he expect you to do about it? there is no one that can do anything... what a complete dork. let him take care of his problems and worries - it's incredibly selfish of him to try and dump his problems onto you. once again - just proof what a selfish, self centered jerk he is. be grateful you dodged this bullet. and no reason to answer - unless you just want to waste your energy listening to someone dump his bs all over you when you certainly don't need more than your own concerns you have right now. interesting though - he didn't bait you with a message that says he's bringing over signed divorce papers and an engagement ring... this man has no intention of being available for a long term relationship - unless a gal is willing to be low on his list of priorities. don't make THAT person be you... be good to yourself... you deserve more than what he's offering you. Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted August 9, 2010 Share Posted August 9, 2010 I think like all EA/PA, the communication is what is hardest to break. I will always enjoy talking to him, and I have to remind myself- why talk to someone who can freeze you out whenever his family comes around. he's done it that way in the past because that is what you allowed. now that you know better - don't go back. move forward... Link to post Share on other sites
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