LoveKills03 Posted February 10, 2004 Share Posted February 10, 2004 Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 3 years in August 3rd 2001. Whenever we go out in public he always stares at other girls and it pisses the **** out of me. I yell at himall the time stop looking at girls i dont do that ****! an he says im not. And sometimes he cries an says I wish you had my eyes so you can see what Im looking at, or he says I wish i was blind so you would stop accusing me. he says I love you like 24/7 calls me EVERY single day just to hear my voice or sleeps with me over the phone when I have school or somethng. Im almost 19 hes almost 18.. so yehh. But he continous to look at them.. one time I was at his house on the computer and he was watching sports on tv an i heard the channels flip back an forth from some hooker channel back to a sports channel an he wus al quiet about it, it pissed the **** out of me too. I was like. oh he likes them better then me. A year ago I had to go to the country where I live and when I got back he unsubscribed to some porn magazine he looked at. He told me everyday he never stares at porn an he never looks at girls he only loves me an im the most beautifullest girl to him. And he thinks I dont trust him and all. He also wants to propose to me this summer cuz hes really in love but I dont know.. i want to marry him but i cant stand it how he has to look at other girls, what am i not pretty or something they are better? When A girl bends over he has to look twice at their butt.. or when we were in a restaurant he kept turning around sooo many times to look at this blonde bimbo. I was so upset.. I told him he was a cheater an he stopped automatically.. but he still does it time to time. I dont understand why.. I thought hes going out wth me .. not them. My friend told me not to worry about it- its not like hes going to cheat on me automatically. But I dont know, he wont do that hes not the type to flirt.. but.. he looks.. This is me in real life: What is wrong with me that he doesn't like about me that he has to look at a picture of some other girl.. or in real life?? And this is my boyfriend: Link to post Share on other sites
Arabess Posted February 10, 2004 Share Posted February 10, 2004 MOST men look at porn when available....and most guys look at other good looking women. Just because he's in love....doesn't mean he went blind. Surely, some people are just more 'flirty' in nature. If he's this kind of person, and it sounds like he may be, the decison here is.....can you live with someone like that? You ARE a beautiful girl....you have no reason to feel insecure about your looks. However, the jealousy you feel has the potential of robbing you of a great future with this guy. Talk to him about it, read some sites on jealousy and try to pin point what it is which makes you feel you aren't 'more than' the girls he is checking out. You are the one he has declared his love for, wants to marry and be with....you have no reason to feel you have to compete with other girls. As long as he's being faithful...love him for what and who he is.....or leave the relationship. Chances are....he isn't going to change. PS: You guys make a lovely couple! Link to post Share on other sites
Darkangelism Posted February 10, 2004 Share Posted February 10, 2004 Dump him and date me, jk, lol, you have nothing to worry about, you are very pretty, some guys look, as long as he doesnt touch its not a big deal. Link to post Share on other sites
Miss_Prolixity Posted February 10, 2004 Share Posted February 10, 2004 Lovekills, You've been with your b/f for three years. And in a committed relationship it takes communication, TRUST, loyalty, and honor. If you don't have all four, you're lacking the essentials in your relationship. First, all men/women look at the opposite sex. We are all attracted to beautiful things. Which include: people, cars, houses, etc. Just because your b/f may admire the beauty of another woman, it doesn't take away his love or devotion towards you. Secondly, you are an attractive woman. But confidence and security in ones self makes an attractive person so much more. Would you like to be accused of looking at another man? Especially if the person accusing you didn't know your thoughts or intentions? It is one thing to "look" and another thing to cross the line. If he was "flirting" I could see where there might be a problem. But until the day you die, you will never meet a man or woman for that matter who doesn't look at another attractive person. It seems that your man truly loves you, especially if he's insinuating the idea of getting married. But I personally believe before you get married, you need to work on trusting him and being secure in yourself. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
Captain Nemo Posted February 10, 2004 Share Posted February 10, 2004 Hey lass. Your boyfriend looks like Adam Sandler. That's all I wanted to say. Link to post Share on other sites
Author LoveKills03 Posted February 10, 2004 Author Share Posted February 10, 2004 Originally posted by Captain Nemo Hey lass. Your boyfriend looks like Adam Sandler. That's all I wanted to say. Everyone says that. I dont like the fact that he tells me he DOESNT like them an he NEVER stares. When I saw him stare. Link to post Share on other sites
jmargel Posted February 10, 2004 Share Posted February 10, 2004 He's only looking, jeesh. It would be another thing if he was going up talking to them, flirting, etc. Stop being so controlling, unless you want to push him away. My fiancee is a bombshell, and guys are always staring at her, etc.. Yet I still look at other women. Its natural, and not disrespectful unless you oogle at them or make comments. Both of you are still young, so there's alot in life you haven't experienced. Link to post Share on other sites
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