Author OrdealByFire Posted July 28, 2010 Author Share Posted July 28, 2010 LisaLee: My intentions? Well, I hope that when she changes - it's inevitable - she'll still want to be with me. I really do like her a lot. We could talk about... batteries and it would still be enjoyable. I care about her, and she says she cares about me. People automatically assume "19 year old with a 14 year old... clearly wants sex.", which is a load. If I wanted sex that badly, I'd go ahead and get it. --- A cop? We've webcammed. SLIGHTLY doubtful. --- aerogurl87: At this rate? No. I would think she doesn't see it working at this rate either. Her dad flipped out understandably when I told him I was talking to her. Then he realized I wasn't such a jerkass, and didn't mind so much. Of course, he said we can't meet yet. I already said. I realize I'm probably a completely clueless idiot to almost anybody that looks at the situation, but I have hope. Link to post Share on other sites
aerogurl87 Posted July 28, 2010 Share Posted July 28, 2010 LOL, your boyfriend sounds like a version of mine. Except mine never really had a girl he was interested in before me and devoted 100% of his time to school and physics. Oh and my bf is also shy, actually a bit on the socially awkward side. Mine had a few, he just never had the nerve to really talk to them and all his exes are bitches. His first girlfriend broke up with him 5 minutes after he told her he loved her for the first time. But he's not really socially awkward, just really really quiet till you get to know him and then he's semi crazy and hyper like me. Link to post Share on other sites
aerogurl87 Posted July 28, 2010 Share Posted July 28, 2010 LisaLee: My intentions? Well, I hope that when she changes - it's inevitable - she'll still want to be with me. I really do like her a lot. We could talk about... batteries and it would still be enjoyable. I care about her, and she says she cares about me. People automatically assume "19 year old with a 14 year old... clearly wants sex.", which is a load. If I wanted sex that badly, I'd go ahead and get it. --- A cop? We've webcammed. SLIGHTLY doubtful. --- aerogurl87: At this rate? No. I would think she doesn't see it working at this rate either. Her dad flipped out understandably when I told him I was talking to her. Then he realized I wasn't such a jerkass, and didn't mind so much. Of course, he said we can't meet yet. I already said. I realize I'm probably a completely clueless idiot to almost anybody that looks at the situation, but I have hope. Ok so you kinda have her dad's permission, although he's not happy. But hey if he knows you two are talking and such, and he hasn't outright said stop talking to my daughter, and her parents are ok with it, then I have nothing else to say about the age issue. So at this point it's up to you two. Age aside though, your relationship isn't healthy. Her dropping f bombs on you, you being controlling, and both of you having jealousy issues is a recipe for disaster. You need to fix the cracks in this before it becomes major fissures. Link to post Share on other sites
Author OrdealByFire Posted July 28, 2010 Author Share Posted July 28, 2010 Oh, I know that. We both know that. ...we've already said that we're pretty much screwed if we don't help ourselves soon. Link to post Share on other sites
jessica_l Posted July 28, 2010 Share Posted July 28, 2010 Seems like you both are so young to get in relationship. I think this is the time to think about your carrier. Don't take any wrong steps. nutritional supplements Link to post Share on other sites
xpaperxcutx Posted July 28, 2010 Share Posted July 28, 2010 Oh, I know that. We both know that. ...we've already said that we're pretty much screwed if we don't help ourselves soon. You say you're shy, but I think you could do with some socializing with your peers. Afterall, you're in college, so chances of networking and increasing your social circle are all the more present. Not trying to stigmatize you, but have you tried dating around campus? Link to post Share on other sites
stace79 Posted July 29, 2010 Share Posted July 29, 2010 Seriously, you need to move on. At 19, you should not be settled into a serious relationship anyway. And at 14, she should be more focused on learning about herself, making friends, enjoying school, etc. Not being tied to her computer screen with a fantasy "boyfriend" she never even sees. If you really care about her well-being, you would move on and let her live her life -- AWAY from a computer. And you should start living your life, AWAY from the computer. Link to post Share on other sites
Author OrdealByFire Posted July 30, 2010 Author Share Posted July 30, 2010 Not trying to stigmatize you, but have you tried dating around campus? No. I'm shy as balls but. Working on it. Link to post Share on other sites
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