Trying to understand my bf :S

[lala82]

Hello Everyone: I have been with my bf for 3 years and a half and we lived 1 year together in The UK. In January my boyfriend got a job in The Middle East. In March I left The UK and I back to South America. The separation has been very difficult for us. However, we split up for 3 months.

 

But, in May he called me to say that he miss me a lot and that he was thinking about some plans for us in the future. In June, he flow from the Middle East to South America. He met my family and we decided to continue together. During his holidays here, he told me that he was thinking to propose me. And that he realized that he loves me and that he has strong feelings for me. However, he told me that he need to make sure that things between us will work. So, he told me that he needs time to make the desicion. So, we agree to continue together and have a month to think about it.

 

Since he left, he has been very affectionary with me. He calls me and sends me nice emails. I love him I want to be with him. Recently, he told me that he is still thinking about it, but he has not mention anything.

 

I am worry, because I do not what to think about him? or what I need to do? I do not want to be in this situation, which I do not know where my relationship is going. I do not want to wait until he finish his contract in 2012. Any advice!!!!

Edited July 25, 2010 by lala82

[BloodBerry]

Hello Everyone: I have been with my bf for 3 years and a half and we lived 1 year together in The UK. In January my boyfriend got a job in The Middle East. In March I left The UK and I back to South America. The separation has been very difficult for us. However, we split up for 3 months.

 

But, in May he called me to say that he miss me a lot and that he was thinking about some plans for us in the future. In June, he flow from the Middle East to South America. He met my family and we decided to continue together. During his holidays here, he told me that he was thinking to propose me. And that he realized that he loves me and that he has strong feelings for me. However, he told me that he need to make sure that things between us will work. So, he told me that he needs time to make the desicion. So, we agree to continue together and have a month to think about it.

 

Since he left, he has been very affectionary with me. He calls me and sends me nice emails. I love him I want to be with him. Recently, he told me that he is still thinking about it, but he has not mention anything.

 

I am worry, because I do not what to think about him? or what I need to do? I do not want to be in this situation, which I do not know where my relationship is going. I do not want to wait until he finish his contract in 2012. Any advice!!!!

 

 

Well, LDR are really difficult. Just wait for him to make up his mind. You know men drag their feet when it comes to settling down. As a woman, you should wait. If you think you've waited enough try asking him, in the calmest manner possible so it wont pressure him.

 

Just stay with him for the meantime while he's still thinking, and just be patient. If you really love him, you'll try your best to be patient. Again, if you think you've waited enough and your love isn't enough to make you wait longer, then talk to him.

 

GL

[lala82]

Dear Bloodberry: Thanks for your advice.

 

But now, I am more confouse. My bf and I we've been argued for silly things since last week. I have tried to solve things between us, but he has being funny with me. One day he called me to apologized. Then, he sent me an email to apolized and said that he miss me. I replied the email to say that I miss him, but that we do not need to have silly arguments.

 

Today, I called him. He told me that he want to speak on msn. I connected on msn and he was very funny with me again. He called me on the msn, and then when I aswered the call. He told me that he was busy doing a transaction. So, I said to him that it was better to speak another day. He was angry again. Then, he sent me an e-mail. He apologized and promise to call me soon.

 

I love him. I want to share my life with him. But I hate this situation....