TMichaels Posted August 26, 2010 Share Posted August 26, 2010 ...and if someone would share their LDR story and how it worked out for them, would be great =D Bloodberry, Have you spent any time at all reading this forum? Since it's dedicated to LDRs you'll find dozens of stories here that will give you an idea of what it's like and how others' relationships worked out... Best, TMichaels Link to post Share on other sites
Author BloodBerry Posted August 26, 2010 Author Share Posted August 26, 2010 (edited) Bloodberry, Have you spent any time at all reading this forum? Since it's dedicated to LDRs you'll find dozens of stories here that will give you an idea of what it's like and how others' relationships worked out... Best, TMichaels yea i did but it would be good if just positive stories would be posted here... just a way for those who feel weak to get strength by reading successful LDRs... hehe thanks anyway Edited August 26, 2010 by BloodBerry added words Link to post Share on other sites
DinaRahmad Posted August 26, 2010 Share Posted August 26, 2010 The love we feel for each other is just extraordinary. Something I've never felt before. It makes the relationship we have stronger in every way, every aspect. When you finally get to see them, everything is just so wonderful, and much more special in every way. In a sense that a kiss wouldn't be just an ordinary kiss. A hug wouldn't be just an ordinary hug. A touch wouldn't just be an ordinary touch. It's just different. You'll appreciate one another a little bit more in a way. And for me now, when I say "I Miss You" to him, i know that it does actually meant something and i don't just say it, just because.. Link to post Share on other sites
Phoenix01 Posted August 27, 2010 Share Posted August 27, 2010 LDR makes both the partners and their love stronger, their feelings toward eachother. Because of all the trust you have in your love and your love has in you your confidence grows stronger aswell ^^ True, LDR is not always sunshine, but as my boyfriend always says, nothing worth having comes easily. Also, it can make a good test of faithfullness, because if the couple goes through so much pain just to be together then they are less likely to throw it away for someone else. Link to post Share on other sites
LisaLee Posted August 27, 2010 Share Posted August 27, 2010 Man, I must be a real pessimist, because I can think of very few positive points in an LDR. In fact, the only thing I can really think of is the communication factor; my SO is a very quiet person and I believe our communication has turned out much stronger because that is all we have the majority of the time. But often I think being in an LDR sucks. I sometimes get very blue without him, especially after our visits. This last time was especially difficult for me. I can't wait for when we get to be together full time. Link to post Share on other sites
4givrnt4gtr Posted September 1, 2010 Share Posted September 1, 2010 Positives, as far as I can see are... If you had ANY doubts about your relationship, the challenges of LDR will either make it clear whether you are in a good relationship or not Your feelings for each other seem to grow stronger and deeper. The whole absence makes the heart grow fonder seems to apply when the right people are involved You learn to be sensitive about each other needs. Over all, so far its been kinda good for my boyfriend and I. Granted out "long distance" is more like "medium" since we're just two hours away from each other, but it definitely has allowed us to see each other's personality in a different more challenging situation. Link to post Share on other sites
Phoenix01 Posted September 1, 2010 Share Posted September 1, 2010 You are not more pessimistic than we are, just sometimes it's hard to see the bright side. I just came back from my boyfriend after spending nearly 2 months with him and now I'm quite depressed, that's why I joined this community, so we can all give strength to eachother When will you meet him again? ^^ Link to post Share on other sites
The Collector Posted September 3, 2010 Share Posted September 3, 2010 Appreciate this thread. After always vowing i would not allow myself to be involved in a LDR, and pessimistic about their chances, I now find myself in one. I met someone who was here for two months, we fell in love, and though she is planning to come back here to live, it's four months apart til then. Based on a two month 'honeymoon' period. We both agree that if we can survive this sacrifice of four months apart we have proven something about our love, that it wasn't just based on convenience. I hope that's the case, but worry that distance and time apart could make the feelings fade, though they haven't seemed to yet - (It's been a month so far). I miss the physical intimacy and worry I may have pledged four months of abstinence from other women for a relationship that could very well fall apart with a month of reuniting. But that's the gamble I've taken and if it doesn't work it doesn't work. The first month hasn't been as bad as I'd thought (thanks to the internet and Skype), but I hope the next three fly by. Link to post Share on other sites
Rebeccahelen Posted October 22, 2010 Share Posted October 22, 2010 you cherish every single moment you have with them even if its a phone call,the relationship seems so much more special, i have never felt like this with somebody before he is perfect to me and i know in the end it will be worth it ahh i miss my babe xxxxxx Link to post Share on other sites
folieadeux Posted October 22, 2010 Share Posted October 22, 2010 Being in an LDR makes it impossible to take anything for granted. Even the little things. You get to travel a hell of alot more than the average person and see places and things you may not normally have had the chance to visit. Communication is really the foundation of the relationship, which is never a bad thing. Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted November 19, 2010 Share Posted November 19, 2010 You're not limited to only a small pool of people. You're much more likely to find someone you're compatible with if you don't insist that that person lives by you first before you can even consider them. Also, it's easier, in my opinion, to tell more quickly if you're really compatible with someone or not. You talk to them more and get to know them quicker. The physical aspect of the relationship isn't clouding your judgment as much because you relate to one another mostly through talking. And it's also easier to weed out who's really serious about being with you from who's not serious at all. LDRs take a lot of effort to keep. Someone who just wants some fling isn't going to try really hard to keep you. The relationship with dissolve. Only someone who is serious will put in a bunch of effort into it. You don't waste as much time on the wrong people this way. Lovely post. I agree completely, especially with point #2. The way people talk about hooking up in bars, etc often saddens me; they're attracted to someone because of his style, her looks, the way she touched him when they danced... All well and good, but then they date and the issues that concern them most are how often he/she initiates dates, how many text messages they get, what sort of place he brings her to, how often she offers to chip in... Again, those things should be noticed as well, but don't they realize they're missing the biggest point? They don't really know the person's heart and mind. They do not know the person's innermost thoughts and feelings, outlook and opinions of important issues, deepest secrets... they do not know the person's core. When all you can do with someone is talk, all these things are brought out quicker than how he dances, because they're the main way you connect. And thus you know the most real and abiding part of a person: his/her mind. Link to post Share on other sites
chelle21689 Posted November 19, 2010 Share Posted November 19, 2010 1. I don't have to shave as much lol 2. I save more money from going out all the time 3. When I visit I get to be in Socal...warm weather and beautiful beaches...none in Ohio! Link to post Share on other sites
aerogurl87 Posted November 19, 2010 Share Posted November 19, 2010 Well some more positives for my LDR is I have a good reason to go on vacation more than the average person. I get to actually see snow where he lives (none here where I live). And like chelle21689 said I don't have to shave as much, lol. Link to post Share on other sites
folieadeux Posted November 20, 2010 Share Posted November 20, 2010 1. I don't have to shave as much lol 2. I save more money from going out all the time 3. When I visit I get to be in Socal...warm weather and beautiful beaches...none in Ohio! Love the first one. Link to post Share on other sites
Citizen Erased Posted November 20, 2010 Share Posted November 20, 2010 My friends are all terribly jealous that I have been to the US twice this year, plus that I'm moving there. Never would have happened without this LDR. I think we've got a very strong foundation for our relationship. We know what we are capable of in order to be together, the communication and trust are incredibly strong, we can still be happy despite not having the other physically with us because we have something so great. Link to post Share on other sites
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