I am the dumpee and I'm going to break the 8 month NC

[USMCHokie]

Don't be a dick! Post it!

 

Yea, you won't believe it...

[bananaboat11]

Yea, you won't believe it...

 

 

True story.

 

I called USMChokie to tell him b/c I knew he wouldn't believe it... LOL

 

It took my by surprise... but let's just say, Nicole NEVER got the message... supposedly LOL

[DenverBachelor]

WTF season is this? The season for the large pillars to fall down? I'm going to kick all your asses -- USMC, Banana ... who's next to fall?

 

Seriously, this is setting a bad example for all the young kids coming in here. What are they to expect? "Oh, he's got 1,000 posts and he's texting his ex after eight months, so I'll just drive over to my ex's house and splash 'I love you' with gasoline on the street and set it ablaze! What's good for the goose is good for the gander, right?"

 

This is not the way of a Jedi. Holy ****, you're texting her after eight months and for what? What good can come from it? You're either going to put yourself back in that phase where you're constantly wondering what is going on. Didn't my restraining order teach you anything?

 

You don't mess with ex's because no good can come from it. Even if she texted back, "Oh hey John, so happy to hear from you. Life's great...," you'll come back here in a nervous fit asking, "what's this mean? What's that mean? Why did she end her sentence with three periods? Does that mean she's been thinking of me?

 

Here I am dressing up as a ninja and using Harry Potter's invisibility cloak to avoid my ex and you're shooting a flare gun over the lake of "oh no you didn't."

 

Did you really think she'd text you back something like, "Oh John. I've been madly in love with you these past eight months. I'm running out of characters, but can you come over and bone me and rekindle that fire?"

 

The stupid flu is spreading on LS and it looks like a lot of respectable people are catching it and doing really stupid things.

 

Oh well, what's done is done. You've opened Pandora's box and slid your foot in the door leading to the ninth circle of hell. The hall is rented and the orchestra is engaged. Now I'll just get some popcorn and watch this train wreck.

Edited July 27, 2010 by DenverBachelor

[DustySaltus]

DB is right guys. I don't know what response your looking to get from your exs but understand that even if it was the response you wanted the most, would it really be sincere? You're giving them back the power to make a decision and that power will hang over whatever transpires from then on. No one is admitting mistakes, no one is coming back because they really wanted to. At best it is a convenient opportunity for them between dudes. At worst, well the possibilities are endless.

 

Ask yourself this: What are you missing from your life at this point where you feel the need to contact your ex? Were they really that great?

 

Every time I have the thought to contact my ex I always say the same three things: It was never going to work because you were trying to fill a black hole of needs, she tried to ruin your life and if I continued to stay with her I wouldn't even know who I was anymore. Now, usually after I repeated those things to myself I would be fine. You guys need to come up with a contingency plan as well.

[bananaboat11]

WTF season is this? The season for the large pillars to fall down? I'm going to kick all your asses -- USMC, Banana ... who's next to fall?

 

Seriously, this is setting a bad example for all the young kids coming in here. What are they to expect? "Oh, he's got 1,000 posts and he's texting his ex after eight months, so I'll just drive over to my ex's house and splash 'I love you' with gasoline on the street and set it ablaze! What's good for the goose is good for the gander, right?"

 

This is not the way of a Jedi. Holy ****, you're texting her after eight months and for what? What good can come from it? You're either going to put yourself back in that phase where you're constantly wondering what is going on. Didn't my restraining order teach you anything?

 

You don't mess with ex's because no good can come from it. Even if she texted back, "Oh hey John, so happy to hear from you. Life's great...," you'll come back here in a nervous fit asking, "what's this mean? What's that mean? Why did she end her sentence with three periods? Does that mean she's been thinking of me?

 

Here I am dressing up as a ninja and using Harry Potter's invisibility cloak to avoid my ex and you're shooting a flare gun over the lake of "oh no you didn't."

 

Did you really think she'd text you back something like, "Oh John. I've been madly in love with you these past eight months. I'm running out of characters, but can you come over and bone me and rekindle that fire?"

 

The stupid flu is spreading on LS and it looks like a lot of respectable people are catching it and doing really stupid things.

 

Oh well, what's done is done. You've opened Pandora's box and slid your foot in the door leading to the ninth circle of hell. The hall is rented and the orchestra is engaged. Now I'll just get some popcorn and watch this train wreck.

 

 

Well the NC is still in... Nicole never got the text message. Supposedly. LOL

 

The number doesn't belong to her apparently.

 

So I broke, but she never got it. A good wake up call for me.

[GrayClouds]

 

So I broke, but she never got it. A good wake up call for me.

 

To what?

 

That you are really only happy if your tearing yourself down, you like being unhappy with yourself?

 

That most of your energies is going toward projecting an out appearance of perfection while while beating your self up on the inside?

 

That right now using that all that energy to develop the inside is to scary?

 

I hope so, because once you do turn the effort inward then those like Treasa will see more then an avatar but quality multidimensional person. And more importanly you will find the contentment you deserve and playing game like this with yourself.

 

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[bananaboat11]

To what?

 

That you are really only happy if your tearing yourself down, you like being unhappy with yourself?

 

That most of your energies is going toward projecting an out appearance of perfection while while beating your self up on the inside?

 

That right now using that all that energy to develop the inside is to scary?

 

I hope so, because once you do turn the effort inward then those like Treasa will see more then an avatar but quality multidimensional person. And more importanly you will find the contentment you deserve and playing game like this with yourself.

 

.

 

 

Most women I meet end up seeing me as some hackneyed sex symbol anyhow... and fail to see i'm a caring, loving, intelligent human being that wants to give my heart... no strings attached.

 

I'm used to it already.

[Ilovecake]

I text no strings attached with no hopes or wants for reconciliation. I swear it.

 

I don't know. I felt I needed to do it after this long.

 

No regrets.

 

Biggest lie I have read on this site yet. If any of that was even remotely true sending a text wouldn’t have even crossed your mind.

[wrencn]

WTF season is this? The season for the large pillars to fall down? I'm going to kick all your asses -- USMC, Banana ... who's next to fall?

 

Seriously, this is setting a bad example for all the young kids coming in here. What are they to expect? "Oh, he's got 1,000 posts and he's texting his ex after eight months, so I'll just drive over to my ex's house and splash 'I love you' with gasoline on the street and set it ablaze! What's good for the goose is good for the gander, right?"

 

This is not the way of a Jedi. Holy ****, you're texting her after eight months and for what? What good can come from it? You're either going to put yourself back in that phase where you're constantly wondering what is going on. Didn't my restraining order teach you anything?

 

You don't mess with ex's because no good can come from it. Even if she texted back, "Oh hey John, so happy to hear from you. Life's great...," you'll come back here in a nervous fit asking, "what's this mean? What's that mean? Why did she end her sentence with three periods? Does that mean she's been thinking of me?

 

Here I am dressing up as a ninja and using Harry Potter's invisibility cloak to avoid my ex and you're shooting a flare gun over the lake of "oh no you didn't."

 

Did you really think she'd text you back something like, "Oh John. I've been madly in love with you these past eight months. I'm running out of characters, but can you come over and bone me and rekindle that fire?"

 

The stupid flu is spreading on LS and it looks like a lot of respectable people are catching it and doing really stupid things.

 

Oh well, what's done is done. You've opened Pandora's box and slid your foot in the door leading to the ninth circle of hell. The hall is rented and the orchestra is engaged. Now I'll just get some popcorn and watch this train wreck.

 

I've had a rough couple of days but this post made me laugh out loud. Thanks for that DB!!!

[Ilovecake]

Well the NC is still in... Nicole never got the text message. Supposedly. LOL

 

The number doesn't belong to her apparently.

 

So I broke, but she never got it. A good wake up call for me.

 

Besides solidifying the belief in your brain that you are weak and have absolutely no willpower or self respect what else did you gain from sending that text message?

[bananaboat11]

Besides solidifying the belief in your brain that you are weak and have absolutely no willpower or self respect what else did you gain from sending that text message?

 

 

That I am human and do have emotions... like one should. Until now I have not felt. I have been devoid of a sense of being. Without the ability to open my heart willingly to one who deserves it (not that the opportunity has arose, but if it had - I surely would have pushed it out unwillingly). Recognizing these subtle nuances has allowed me to persist in healing and consciously want to feel the infinite pain I have been longing to. It does not astound me that I do not feel any remorse or contempt for sending that message. It allows my heart's perception to surpass the insurmountable inability to move forward... and now that it is done and the dust has settled... knowing she didn't receive the text messages, but the possibility she could have at that point in time does not scare me. I rise to the occasion to take blame for my fault, but I do not regret it. I smile upon this day.

[Ilovecake]

Whatever helps you sleep at night, but obviously you were sounding like you were glad to dodge a bigass bullet by the message not going through.

Just know by using will power and overcoming you’re building strength and self respect but whenever you give in to your self-indulgent desires your self value diminishes just a little more. You want to be someone who is more than a piece of meat to other people well you have to show people that you have qualities and strengths they can admire, but if you don't even have enough self-esteems to not contact someone who doesn't want your consideration then good luck being seen as valuable by others.

[bananaboat11]

Whatever helps you sleep at night, but obviously you were sounding like you were glad to dodge a bigass bullet by the message not going through.

Just know by using will power and overcoming you’re building strength and self respect but whenever you give in to your self-indulgent desires your self value diminishes just a little more. You want to be someone who is more than a piece of meat to other people well you have to show people that you have qualities and strengths they can admire, but if you don't even have enough self-esteems to not contact someone who doesn't want your consideration then good luck being seen as valuable by others.

 

 

At the current time - I am emotionally weak.

 

That is all.

 

Thank you for noticing.

[GrayClouds]

Most women I meet end up seeing me as some hackneyed sex symbol anyhow... and fail to see i'm a caring, loving, intelligent human being that wants to give my heart... no strings attached.

 

I'm used to it already.

 

You attract what you project, if you appear to be a vacuous surface dweller, you attract vacuous surface dwellers.

 

 

What do you do when you meant those who see you as hackneyed sex symbol?

 

What can you do to project that caring, loving, intelligent human being that wants to give their heart?

 

What environments can you place yourself in where those deeper traits are more valued?

 

 

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[McGrupp]

are we still pyscho-analyzing this guy?

 

im gonna take a leap here and say he doesnt have many friends in the real world.

 

i believe that your good looking and are good with women and all that **** you say in all your posts, but the weird thing is you never talk about any friends.

 

i think u just need some dude friends to hang with and see that women dont rule the world.

 

like go out and blow some coke off a strippers ass. or get into a fight and get your ass kicked. or go skydiving. or get a speeding ticket. or steal some ****. or do some pull ups. or google pics of naked dudes you can use as avatars.

like just leave women alone for a bit and stop basing your happiness on them

 

but i just skimmed the thread.

 

on the plus side your bringing the ol gang back together!

Edited July 27, 2010 by McGrupp

[smk]

like go out and blow some coke off a strippers ass.

 

now you have just opened up a whole new can of worms for me... the thought is running wild through my head, on the plus side its caliming down some of those little chappies called my emotions too.... hmmm i think we may have just discovered one the 12 steps to getting over a broken heart..

 

sorry guys am in the most random moods at the moment today...

[McGrupp]

listen if u have any questions about blowing coke off a strippers ass, dont hesitate to PM me big guy

[mickleb]

I've got one. Why would you blow? Surely, that's wasteful?

 

x

[smk]

I've got one. Why would you blow? Surely, that's wasteful?

 

x

 

valid point - just goes to show that I am almost fully brain dead today.... LOL....

[bananaboat11]

McGrupp.

 

My circle of friends live a different lifestyle.

 

honestly? We eat differently. We don't drink. We sleep during normal hours. We train. We admire and adorn the bodybuilding community for men and women. My limitation is I'm in graduate school working on a PhD so it does prevent me from doing some of the things I love to do. Back in the day (undergrad)... I'd do what you suggest of me... I am a fraternity brother for crying out loud (and not one of those honor society fraternities)... greek life fraternity... bang bitches and smoke weed. Yeah. Been there, done that.

 

I'm trying to keep my life in order. I've made some huge mistakes in my past. I suck @ relationships with women. That's evident, no? But ****ing come to Massachusetts and tell me this **** to my face, *******.

[bananaboat11]

For ****'s sake... I've had a moment of weakness and I finally gave in after 8 months of NC.

 

Am I crying over this last bitch? No. She wanted a friendship after we separated. I said no. We didn't have one to begin with. I don't miss her. We dated for 2 months. I'm over it.

 

Nicole, however, I missed... she burned me. It didn't feel good. It hurt. I got over it. I had a fit of nostalgia the other night. I acted. I don't regret it.

 

Get off my case.

 

Whether she got the message or not... I did it. It felt good. I am not crying about it. I'm not whining about it.

[Circular]

heh...

 

 

I sent it.

 

""hi. it's Rob. Probably a bad idea to text you, especially this late, but I dunno... strange. Hope you're doing well. I don't expect any reply, but I thought about you the other day for the first time in awhile and I don't know why. Yeah.. be well."

 

FWIW, personally I don't take any issue with someone breaking NC as long as they know why they're doing it and what their expectations are. We all get nostalgic, we all wish things in certain circumstances could be different. It happens.

 

Thing is, I'd have recommended a different type of message. No offense, but the message in itself sounds self demeaning. "probably a bad idea I text you" "I dont expect any reply"... it sounds like there's still some pain there about being forgotten about; though I doubt you were.

 

I think after the time had passed something simpler like "Hey, I saw that movie Inception the other day, something in it reminded me of the time went to XXX, you should check it out if you haven't"

 

That's just off the top of my head. You are not asking for anything, its a statement, she can do with it what she wants.

[mickleb]

Calm down, bb11.

 

You can't choose to post to everyone about how little of a deal this is to you, then start threatening people when they respond by having a bit of a laugh at your dirty laundry.

 

At least be man enough to take what you get. It's how it works, here.

[bananaboat11]

Calm down, bb11.

 

You can't choose to post to everyone about how little of a deal this is to you, then start threatening people when they respond by having a bit of a laugh at your dirty laundry.

 

At least be man enough to take what you get. It's how it works, here.

 

 

don't be such a wanker

[mickleb]

Your problem with that statement is..?