A huge mess

[Fieldsofgold]

In addition to PP, there are adoption counseling agencies, and I am told that Catholic Services offers all sorts of assistance if you decide to keep the child. Everything from counseling and donating nursery furnishings to grandmas who will babysit! And you don't have to be Catholic. They offered to help my daughter, and the priest was even waiting outside delivery when my grandson was born.

 

I do encourage you to get counselling from different POV.

 

I do have a number of close friends who had abortions in the 1970's. (one was 20, pregnant with a MM just like you.) I have one friend who put her baby up for adoption (open), and of course lots of friends who found themselves single parents for lots of reasons - never married, divorced young, widowed.

 

My friends who had abortions do still live with regret 40 years later. None of us who gave birth and kept or adopted out our babies regret it. None of us wishes we had had an abortion instead. This is just my experience.

 

Whatever your choice, life will go on. And we will support you. Just get Lots of different POV, and don't let the MM or anyone else push you. ((((((((hugs)))))))

Edited July 28, 2010 by Fieldsofgold

[sweetjasmine]

And in my experience, I know someone who carried to term when she was a little younger than Noelle and planned to give the baby up for adoption through a Catholic adoption agency. By the time she gave birth, she really wanted to keep the baby, but her parents forced her to give it up, and to this day, the Catholic adoption agency refuses to tell her anything about her baby, even though the papers her parents had her sign stated that she could find out when he turned 18. He turned 18, and yet - nada. It haunts her to this day, but the abortion she had a few years later doesn't at all.

 

So I don't see what telling stories is going to do to help OP. All it seems to be doing is twisting her into knots and stinging her heart. So let's please cut it out with the "you'll regret not having an abortion" and "you'll regret having an abortion" sh-t and let her find a counselor who's actually equipped to deal with handing out advice on this sort of issue.

[fooled once]

HELLO did you NOT read Noelles request that the abortion debate not be conducted here....

 

This is Noelles thread.

 

Exactly! Stop the abortion debate and focus on the OP and her issue. If you can't, stop posting on the thread before it is closed down.

[Tony]

I think 200 posts minus the 150 off topic ones are plenty to handle the subject matter of the OP. Too many people are going off on tangents now. Thread closed.