dmr8843 Posted July 27, 2010 Share Posted July 27, 2010 [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3]I have posted many comments about this same classmate, but now it is different. I took into great consideration everyone’s response to my comment and have realized that enough is enough. I have not spoken to my classmate via phone, email, etc. and when I see him at school at do not engage in conversation and he always initiates it, which I have decided I can not be friends with this man. I make it brief and quick because I like him and don’t want to be rude/mean, but at this point, again enough is enough and I am trying to deal with my feelings in an appropriate and adult like manner. Last night in class he came up to me and rubbed my shoulders longer than usual and said hello and asked how I was doing and as we left class he rubbed my side, again, but more affectionately- I think. I want to tell him to stop this because I like him and I am taking his gestures the wrong way, but is that necessary? Is it just a friendly touch? If so, it still bothers me because I LIKE IT!!! Any input would be great..thanks everyone!![/sIZE][/FONT] Link to post Share on other sites
Owl Posted July 27, 2010 Share Posted July 27, 2010 This is called SETTING BOUNDARIES. The next time he touches you in ANY fashion...point blank (politely but firmly) tell him to stop. Again, polite...but firm. When he asks why, tell him point blank that he's married, it's inappopriate for him to be giving ANY woman other than his wife a massage or anything else. Tell him that this is a line that you're no longer willing to cross. Again, polite...but FIRM. Make it clear that his attention is no longer welcome. You don't have to rip his head off unless he continues after you've told him to stop. At that point...it's firm and LOUD if need be. Remember...it's your body. YOU own it, and you're fully within your rights to tell him to stop. Simple enough when you look at it. Link to post Share on other sites
In_Repair Posted July 27, 2010 Share Posted July 27, 2010 Unless you want to end up in bed with this guy, don't tell him that you like it. That will just open the door to a conversation that you shouldn't have with a married man. Tell him that it is inappropriate and you want him to stop. End of discussion. You don't need to explain yourself beyond reminding him of his wife. You don't want it to stop though, do you? Link to post Share on other sites
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