cookie2 Posted July 28, 2010 Share Posted July 28, 2010 2 days into NC! Wehey It's definitely feeling better than before NC. Although I can't go full NC yet because we have things to sort out... we need to get a divorce in 3 months. Last thing she said was that she wants to meet after work one day to "talk about us"... well that's not going to happen... the only way I'd ever take her back is if she's crawling across broken glass grovelling apologies 24/7. And even then I might just slam the door in her face. My mindset has altered more than she knows and I take pleasure in that. If she thinks I am going to be the same gibbering wreck I was when she left, she has another thing coming. Biggest problem at the moment is visualising what she did. Whenever I think of her with that guy it's so painful, I just can't handle it. But that is getting better too... I'm trying exposure/response... think about it as often as I can, so that I get desensitized. It's definitely working and I recommend it, although it's really hard at first, I think it's best in the long run. Link to post Share on other sites
bonpaw2008 Posted July 28, 2010 Share Posted July 28, 2010 Congrats! I would have bet that you have been on NC a lot longer - probably just how strong you are on the other posts I have read. I am sure that gibberish mess you describe was purely shock factor of what happened to you. Mine was a slow burn that I should have extinguished when it first started. I really just tried to give him the benefit of the doubt that he was a good person and that he meant what he said, but there was always a nagging feeling of mistrust that I really should have listened to. I am on 7 days NC today, and I can't say it is easier, just different. I went from being so sad that he hasn't contacted me, because that means that he doesn't care, never cared, and that I am not worth anything. Now, I just wish he would contact me so I can ignore him and show him that he is a POS and that I don't need him Anyway, it is her loss, you stay strong when you have to meet with her and remember that she doesn't deserve you!!! Link to post Share on other sites
silic0ntoad Posted July 28, 2010 Share Posted July 28, 2010 Keep it up. I remember the first week of NC was pure hell for me. So I pushed myself to the physical limit with exercise and loud music. It gets alot easier. Every time I envisioned my ex with the new man, I would simply work myself into a fit of anger and work it out with exercise. Worked well for me, and I'm on month 13 Link to post Share on other sites
Author cookie2 Posted July 28, 2010 Author Share Posted July 28, 2010 Yep it certainly feels like a heck of a lot longer than 2 days!! D-day will be one week tomorrow... feels like months ago... I guess I'm on the usual rollercoaster though. Today is an up day. There will be downs, but I know there will be more ups, and the ups will just keep getting higher Unfortunately I can't do the exercise thing because I have a sprained foot. That kind of rules out most things. But I am lining up a whole load of things I can do, hopefully starting next week. Link to post Share on other sites
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