Getting Cold Feet

[mpsgcndy]

I got engaged Christmas and this is to be my second marriage. I have a wonderful guy who treats me like gold and I love and adore him back. We get along great and have lots of fun together. He loves my children and treats them like his own. I found out very recently that he's into looking at internet pornography. When I first learned about it, I was in a state of shock. It hit me like a ton of bricks and it almost felt like I was cheated on. I know this sounds silly and I don't understand it myself, why I am reacting in such a bad way to this. I just never expected this from him. We have a great life, and have sex on a regular frequent basis. He has always seemed satisfied. Just the thought of him on that computer, lusting over these women on the porn sites, it really bothers me. I feel like he's not who I thought he is. I'm very open minded and easy going, and realize it's a normal thing for the most part, and that most guys probably do this. But there is just something about this that is really killing me. I wonder if he is thinking of these women he sees on the porn sites, when we are sexual? And does he expect me to put on an academy award performance like what these girls do in the porno videos? I just feel so different about him, after seeing the stuff he was looking at, and I'm questioning so much now. Does this type of thing lead to cheating? Could it?

[tattoomytoe]

well if you found a stack of playboys, would you feel the same? cause basically it is the same thing. Course with the internet, porn is a lot easier to access, a lot more discreet, and a hellof a lot better than a magazine, these are mini movies and stuff.

 

my father has the playboys, and my parents have been married 32 years. if anything, i am sure he gets good ideas!

 

so i really wouldn't worry too much about it. you may tell him he needs to hide it a little better since you have kids, and you could always put parental locks on the computer.