Lauriebell82 Posted July 29, 2010 Share Posted July 29, 2010 Alright, Art Critic was right..I'm turning into a bridezilla. We are about 7 weeks before the wedding now and things are starting to go wrong. The lady who ordered and printed our invitations is a friend of the family and gave us a pretty steap discount. But for some reason she felt the need to stuff them herself AND mail them out without even telling us when she did it or that she was going to!!! I was a short with her because I was suprised/angry/shocked all at the same time. She said she didn't mail them all out either, and only to the "out of town guests." That isn't true because 3 of my friends (one of them is my bridesmaid) received their invitation in the mail and they live in our city!! So she is lying to me now. I'm so upset. I don't know what I'm looking for from you guys. Support, a place to vent? Who knows. I'm a bridezilla aren't I? Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted July 29, 2010 Share Posted July 29, 2010 LB.. deep breaths.. hold it... breath out........ Do that a lot.. Have her mail the rest of them and just live with it.. You can't uncork a bottle that has been opened. Go with the flow if you will... Link to post Share on other sites
D-Lish Posted July 29, 2010 Share Posted July 29, 2010 Pick and choose your battles LB. I've known plenty of people that stopped being friends over how a bride handled her wedding. Did your printer do irrepairable damage? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lauriebell82 Posted July 29, 2010 Author Share Posted July 29, 2010 LB.. deep breaths.. hold it... breath out........ Do that a lot.. Have her mail the rest of them and just live with it.. You can't uncork a bottle that has been opened. Go with the flow if you will... You sound like my fiance. But seriously, do you really think I am one to go with the flow? I don't want her to mail the rest, I want to do it. Hopefully she recorded exactly who she sent out! Link to post Share on other sites
make me believe Posted July 29, 2010 Share Posted July 29, 2010 Well first thing, you need to figure out who she mailed invitations to and who she didn't! Im pretty surprised that she took it upon herself to do that. I'm sure she thought she was doing you a favor though, so just find out who she didn't send invitations to, send them yourself to those people, and don't freak out! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lauriebell82 Posted July 29, 2010 Author Share Posted July 29, 2010 Pick and choose your battles LB. I've known plenty of people that stopped being friends over how a bride handled her wedding. Did your printer do irrepairable damage? It's a fixable situation, I'm just frustrated that it happened in the first place and that she lied. I want everything to be perfect and organzied for this wedding..and when it's not I get upset and stressed. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lauriebell82 Posted July 29, 2010 Author Share Posted July 29, 2010 Well first thing, you need to figure out who she mailed invitations to and who she didn't! Im pretty surprised that she took it upon herself to do that. I'm sure she thought she was doing you a favor though, so just find out who she didn't send invitations to, send them yourself to those people, and don't freak out! Yeah, I think she was trying to do me a favor BUT I had told her that I planned on numbering the reply cards and mailing them out. She should have consulted me first and not lied. She didn't number the reply cards like I wanted and she knew that was important to me. But she told me she did. I am just so angry! Link to post Share on other sites
Jilly Bean Posted July 29, 2010 Share Posted July 29, 2010 Are you eating and exercising properly these days, LB? As D-Lish said - pick your battles. Today, invitations - tomorrow - flowers. Link to post Share on other sites
allina Posted July 29, 2010 Share Posted July 29, 2010 LB, chill, nothing is "perfect." Your friend was wrong and her good intentions were misguided, but there is no reason to be a bitch to her. Friends and business often don't mix, but it's in the past now, move on. That being said, I HATE the term "bridezilla" and the extent to which it's over used Being stressed or expecting what your vendors promised you, and what you are paying for does not make a bride a bridezilla. Focus on what matters and what will truly impact your wedding LB. Make sure your vendors are on top of what they are supposed to do, be organized and take care of yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted July 29, 2010 Share Posted July 29, 2010 I want everything to be perfect and organzied for this wedding.. It will be.. just keep it all in perspective and go forward and don't hate on her..that will just cause more stress.. and by all means forget all about it after they are all mailed out and don't keep mentioning it.. it will just become a stressor.. and who needs that. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lauriebell82 Posted July 29, 2010 Author Share Posted July 29, 2010 LB, chill, nothing is "perfect." Your friend was wrong and her good intentions were misguided, but there is no reason to be a bitch to her. Friends and business often don't mix, but it's in the past now, move on. That being said, I HATE the term "bridezilla" and the extent to which it's over used Being stressed or expecting what your vendors promised you, and what you are paying for does not make a bride a bridezilla. Focus on what matters and what will truly impact your wedding LB. Make sure your vendors are on top of what they are supposed to do, be organized and take care of yourself. I'm trying. I know it's not going to be perfect I just want it to be! The other vendors are fine, and to her credit everyone has told me that the invitations are beautiful! I never got to see the finished product, only the sample in the book. She told me she would mail one to me and never did. I didn't freak out about that though, I just figured I'd see them when they came in. So I'm disappointed that I didn't even get that. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lauriebell82 Posted July 29, 2010 Author Share Posted July 29, 2010 Are you eating and exercising properly these days, LB? As D-Lish said - pick your battles. Today, invitations - tomorrow - flowers. Yes, I am eating and exercising properly. The hours I work suck so I am trying to watch how much I eat at night because I don't want to gain weight. But I'm not doing anything unhealthy right now. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted July 29, 2010 Share Posted July 29, 2010 She told me she would mail one to me and never did. That's because you aren't invited or is it because you are not out of town ? Water off a ducks back LB... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lauriebell82 Posted July 29, 2010 Author Share Posted July 29, 2010 That's because you aren't invited or is it because you are not out of town ? Water off a ducks back LB... Or I am obviously attending so I don't need an invite? I really just wanted to see what the invitation looked like that everyone was going to get in the mail. I also want to frame one also, I got a special picture frame for my bridal shower for the invitation. What does that saying mean, I have never heard it.. Link to post Share on other sites
allina Posted July 30, 2010 Share Posted July 30, 2010 Are you feeling better LB? I'm 5 weeks away, I know it can get stressful, hang in there. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lauriebell82 Posted July 30, 2010 Author Share Posted July 30, 2010 Are you feeling better LB? I'm 5 weeks away, I know it can get stressful, hang in there. Yeah, a little bit, thanks. It turns out that it was the calligrapher who forget to number the reply cards..or our relative is just blaming her. Oh well. They are all mailed out now (not numbered but oh well) and people are commenting at how beautiful they are! We are already getting responses and they just went out 4 days ago! We are 7 weeks away, I'm trying to make appointments for last minute things, it's just hard because my mom is pushy..it seems I get a little nuts when I'm around her. I'm kind of just anxious for the whole thing to get here and be over with! Link to post Share on other sites
2sure Posted July 30, 2010 Share Posted July 30, 2010 Oh yeah, thats a bit over the edge...lol..to call her a liar. But nothingh compared to whats to come. Or what I did myself. At one point, I actually implied that my H's aunt - whose shop did our flowers - was learning disabled. Yep. Mortified, yes. Make this your mantra: "Be elegant. Be elegant. Be elegant." Grit your teeth if you must, but say it . Link to post Share on other sites
allina Posted August 2, 2010 Share Posted August 2, 2010 LB, I may have had a slightly bridezillish moment today. I may have also said "fu*k" a little too loudly at Bloomingdales resulting in a death glare from my fiance Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted August 2, 2010 Share Posted August 2, 2010 LB, I may have had a slightly bridezillish moment today. I may have also said "fu*k" a little too loudly at Bloomingdales resulting in a death glare from my fiance .... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lauriebell82 Posted August 2, 2010 Author Share Posted August 2, 2010 LB, I may have had a slightly bridezillish moment today. I may have also said "fu*k" a little too loudly at Bloomingdales resulting in a death glare from my fiance Haha, yeah I've gotten quite a few of those death glares lately. Mainly over where to seat people now that some of the responses are coming in. What happened with you? Link to post Share on other sites
laRubiaBonita Posted August 2, 2010 Share Posted August 2, 2010 LB & Allina- at least your guys are very aware now(if there weren't) of how you handle some stressors! Link to post Share on other sites
allina Posted August 2, 2010 Share Posted August 2, 2010 Haha, yeah I've gotten quite a few of those death glares lately. Mainly over where to seat people now that some of the responses are coming in. What happened with you? We went to pick up his tux and the pants were not hemmed evenly. A place like Bloomingdales shouldn't be making amateur mistakes like this. Now fiancé has to waste his time because they f'd up:mad: LB & Allina- at least your guys are very aware now(if there weren't) of how you handle some stressors! For me I don't even think it's stress, I expect crap I'm paying for to be done correctly Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lauriebell82 Posted August 2, 2010 Author Share Posted August 2, 2010 We went to pick up his tux and the pants were not hemmed evenly. A place like Bloomingdales shouldn't be making amateur mistakes like this. Now fiancé has to waste his time because they f'd up:mad: Yeah, i would be pissed. Hopefully they can fix it! For me I don't even think it's stress, I expect crap I'm paying for to be done correctly Yeah, me too! Some of the names on our invitations have been mispelled we have heard because she gave the wrong list to the calligrapher. The names that were spelled correctly were on the list she "claims" she never got. This is another reason why I wanted to check them over, in case something was mispelled it could be fixed. Also some people have not even gotten their's because she mailed them out in chunks. Ugh. People were good about it, but I'm still a little embarrassed. Oh, and now she wants us to pay her $600. Link to post Share on other sites
allina Posted August 3, 2010 Share Posted August 3, 2010 Yeah, i would be pissed. Hopefully they can fix it! Yeah, me too! Some of the names on our invitations have been mispelled we have heard because she gave the wrong list to the calligrapher. The names that were spelled correctly were on the list she "claims" she never got. This is another reason why I wanted to check them over, in case something was mispelled it could be fixed. Also some people have not even gotten their's because she mailed them out in chunks. Ugh. People were good about it, but I'm still a little embarrassed. Oh, and now she wants us to pay her $600. Oh, yeah of course it's easy to fix. They just have to let out the hemline a little bit. I'm just annoyed that they are inconveniencing us over something that is eacy to do correctly the first time around Sorry about the names on the invitations, that's too bad but people will forget about it and talk about how great the wedding was, not some error on the invite. Link to post Share on other sites
xpaperxcutx Posted August 3, 2010 Share Posted August 3, 2010 Haha, L_B, so that's why you've disappeared from this board over the summer. 7 weeks away and you're already calling out your friends for a being a liar. L_B, you need to take it slow or at least takes things one at a time. We don't want you stressed for your big day ( even though you already are). Link to post Share on other sites
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