So it's been 2 months broken up

[lullaby]

I don't really believe in that stuff and she used and yeah apparently Gemini and Scorpio are the worst possible match - hahahaha - we always used to say to each other that we would beat the odds - I guess not...

 

Yeah I know what you mean about their quest for excitement - the thing with my ex though was when we were together she was always the boring one never wanted to really do anything out of her comfort zone yet now I hear she is doing all the things I always suggested we do...

 

They are so indecisive and don't even know what they really want - and they all seem to have ADHD... One minute they want something the next they don't....

 

Arghh... Used to drive me mad sometimes...

 

Hey! I'm a Gemini! be aware of the twins!!! muahahahah

 

Really, not all Gemini are the same!!! I'm a Gemini and a CANCER man dumped ME and I still can't comprehend his actions. We as Gemini may change our minds constantly, but Cancer dive so deep into their emotions that leave no room for the rest to help or even understand.

And don't get me started on Scorpio! My dad is Scorpio and it's really hard for him to talk about his feelings, is it the same for you Smk?

 

Just wanted to let you know that a Gemini is watching you...

[Username37]

Hey! I'm a Gemini! be aware of the twins!!! muahahahah

 

Really, not all Gemini are the same!!! I'm a Gemini and a CANCER man dumped ME and I still can't comprehend his actions. We as Gemini may change our minds constantly, but Cancer dive so deep into their emotions that leave no room for the rest to help or even understand.

And don't get me started on Scorpio! My dad is Scorpio and it's really hard for him to talk about his feelings, is it the same for you Smk?

 

Just wanted to let you know that a Gemini is watching you...

 

Tell me more about you Gemini. I've been reading about you twins a lot haha

 

And being a Cancer is such a drag. We dwell in the past so much

[bonpaw2008]

Tomorrow is officially 3 months broken up. Time flies when you're in total pain. So much **** happens in 3 months.

 

I'll be seeing my ex a lot in a few days. Hopefully I can get my **** together.

 

Hey U - this is something that has been bothering me as well. Someone for the past year and a half knew everything about me, what I ate for dinner every night, all the good and bad. Now it's like no one gives a ****, I just hate it.

 

You will get your **** together, just be strong, don't show her all these feelings when you see her, I know you can do it....

[cookie2]

I don't believe in astrology. Maybe that's because I'm a Virgo.

[Username37]

From the beginning to now. Welcome to my break up timeline

 

She CALLS me on the phone to break up. Says she's tried and no longer looking for anything serious for a while.

 

Spoke to her the day after the break up. Some people were asking what happened and she told everyone it was mutual (WTF?!) It was a tear storm for the both of us. She said she loved me and wanted to be friends (like that REALLY helps). We then gave each other's gifts back.

 

Saw her a few times. It was civil but short.

 

She became more distant all of a sudden.

 

I confronted her asking if she would like to hang one on one after finals were over. She agreed (I had the intentions of getting her back right away)

 

A few days later, she said no to the hangout and that we should give each other space. She also said we can only hang IF we had mutual friends coming.

 

Called her one night telling her I felt like crap. She told me "why are you telling me this?"

 

Saw her at a event. We both sat by each other and it felt like we were a couple. It was nice.

 

She began checking up on me on FB. She also initiated contact a few times.

 

The hook up at her friend's party. I don't need to explain this more. (was not aware, but I had suspicion.)

 

She changed her image. Her FB display pic became.....kinda slutty haha

 

She began FB chatting me a lot. But the messages she gave me were so weird. Like I remember telling her "wow that not fun at all" and she replied with "that's why oral herpes is no fun." Ummm....what?

 

Went out with some friends. She sent me an invite to a pool party she was hosting. I told her I would be there. She also wanted my band to perform.

 

My ex and I got invited to a mutual friend's grad party. Saw each other. Waved. And that was it. No interaction. According to some friends, she was acting REALLY strange and I saw her looking at me a few times. I was having a REALLY good time. She was also afraid to go to the same room as me and even left early w/o saying bye to some people.

 

Her birthday rolls around and I wish her a happy birthday. She tells me that her day was ****ty and I told her I could comfort her. She was very distant and was giving me some weird signals. She thanked me for hanging out with her and texted me later that night saying I saved her. Gave me hope

 

Joined Loveshack and some other websites (LS has been the best for me. Thanks guys )

 

I started texting her. She took forever to reply and was always the one ending it.

 

The pool party. I found out everything that she did at her friend's party. I was PO'd and I was depressed the whole night. I wrote her a second chance letter inside the b day card I was gonna give her.

 

Calls me saying that the card was sweet but she said no to the reconciliation. Told me it was too late and that we should not contact each other for the whole summer. I said my good byes and she ended it with the whole first everything bull****.

 

Began my NC. Focused on some other ****. Had my fun, but I still missed my ex dearly.

 

My birthday rolls around. She broke NC to wish me happy birthday. Then she sent me a text wondering if I read the card. (The other stuff that was on the card is on a previous post of mine.) I didn't reply back thank you or anything.

 

Went to Hawaii. Got my mind off my ex. Got Lei'd XD. I wish I could share my experience with my ex though...

 

I caved and checked my ex's FB. Found out I was restricted profiled. WTF?! I haven't spoken to her in a month and she did that to me!

 

Friends began texting me saying that she could be dating one of my best friends (found out it was NOT true and my best friend now has a lovely girlfriend that's like him. I'm happy for him.)

 

Nothing special until July 23rd. I joined a contest with some friends and my brother. All of a sudden, I get a text asking "when are we gonna be friends again?" NO REPLY. NC FTW!

 

Get a call from a friend. Friend told me she posted a FB status saying "I wish the mind erasing procedure from eternal sunshine was real." it was a few days after that text. She took it down the status though a few days later.

 

She logged on skype for the first time in a year and she tried calling me. Didn't pick up. Hung up after 7 seconds.

 

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So that's my break up timeline. What do you think?

[csman1411]

sounds really close to me man, dated a girl who I moved to school to be with her for a year and a half, we broke up and she strung me along for a couple weeks until she found her rebound. She told me to never talk to me again and blocked all communication including phone, fb etc...She then had a very rocky relationship with this guy for four months but was constantly hitting me up telling me how much she missed me/loved me...and how she was just with him to try to get over me and she didnt even hang out with him that much cuz she could only think about me. Gave in and we dated the whole summer cuz we are from the same place so it was easy. Same problems arose and we broke up again. Three days lated i figure out that shes hanging out with the same guy. I feel so depressed and lonely right now but I can honestly say that "my girl" and probably yours are not right for us. They try to keep us on a string and whenever something is really bad they know they can run to us. But where were they when we felt like this. Out being sluts not giving a f*ck so why should we be there for them when they need it. It will honestly will make u feel better when she trys to contact u again and u just dont respond. When she runs to you when shes in trouble dont respond..if i woulda dont that 6 months ago I would be fine and probably with a wonderful girl right now...instead I feel the exact same because I allowed it to happen to myself

[lullaby]

Tell me more about you Gemini. I've been reading about you twins a lot haha

 

And being a Cancer is such a drag. We dwell in the past so much

 

I don't know what else to tell you about Gemini other that we're f***ing crazy. And it even bothers me being a Gemini, my moods change so quickly I can't stand it. But one thing is for sure, when we love, we love that person alone, it's not that we change what we feel.

The thing with Gemini is that we get bored and are easily distracted, so depending on the situation, we make take choices without thinking and then regret what we've done just for the sake of having some adrenaline in our lives. Yes, we're crazy.

 

And Cancer... My God. He should be dwelling on the past then. Why hasn't he figured out what he should do? he's losing me....

[lullaby]

From the beginning to now. Welcome to my break up timeline

 

She CALLS me on the phone to break up. Says she's tried and no longer looking for anything serious for a while.

 

Spoke to her the day after the break up. Some people were asking what happened and she told everyone it was mutual (WTF?!) It was a tear storm for the both of us. She said she loved me and wanted to be friends (like that REALLY helps). We then gave each other's gifts back.

 

Saw her a few times. It was civil but short.

 

She became more distant all of a sudden.

 

I confronted her asking if she would like to hang one on one after finals were over. She agreed (I had the intentions of getting her back right away)

 

A few days later, she said no to the hangout and that we should give each other space. She also said we can only hang IF we had mutual friends coming.

 

Called her one night telling her I felt like crap. She told me "why are you telling me this?"

 

Saw her at a event. We both sat by each other and it felt like we were a couple. It was nice.

 

She began checking up on me on FB. She also initiated contact a few times.

 

The hook up at her friend's party. I don't need to explain this more. (was not aware, but I had suspicion.)

 

She changed her image. Her FB display pic became.....kinda slutty haha

 

She began FB chatting me a lot. But the messages she gave me were so weird. Like I remember telling her "wow that not fun at all" and she replied with "that's why oral herpes is no fun." Ummm....what?

 

Went out with some friends. She sent me an invite to a pool party she was hosting. I told her I would be there. She also wanted my band to perform.

 

My ex and I got invited to a mutual friend's grad party. Saw each other. Waved. And that was it. No interaction. According to some friends, she was acting REALLY strange and I saw her looking at me a few times. I was having a REALLY good time. She was also afraid to go to the same room as me and even left early w/o saying bye to some people.

 

Her birthday rolls around and I wish her a happy birthday. She tells me that her day was ****ty and I told her I could comfort her. She was very distant and was giving me some weird signals. She thanked me for hanging out with her and texted me later that night saying I saved her. Gave me hope

 

Joined Loveshack and some other websites (LS has been the best for me. Thanks guys )

 

I started texting her. She took forever to reply and was always the one ending it.

 

The pool party. I found out everything that she did at her friend's party. I was PO'd and I was depressed the whole night. I wrote her a second chance letter inside the b day card I was gonna give her.

 

Calls me saying that the card was sweet but she said no to the reconciliation. Told me it was too late and that we should not contact each other for the whole summer. I said my good byes and she ended it with the whole first everything bull****.

 

Began my NC. Focused on some other ****. Had my fun, but I still missed my ex dearly.

 

My birthday rolls around. She broke NC to wish me happy birthday. Then she sent me a text wondering if I read the card. (The other stuff that was on the card is on a previous post of mine.) I didn't reply back thank you or anything.

 

Went to Hawaii. Got my mind off my ex. Got Lei'd XD. I wish I could share my experience with my ex though...

 

I caved and checked my ex's FB. Found out I was restricted profiled. WTF?! I haven't spoken to her in a month and she did that to me!

 

Friends began texting me saying that she could be dating one of my best friends (found out it was NOT true and my best friend now has a lovely girlfriend that's like him. I'm happy for him.)

 

Nothing special until July 23rd. I joined a contest with some friends and my brother. All of a sudden, I get a text asking "when are we gonna be friends again?" NO REPLY. NC FTW!

 

Get a call from a friend. Friend told me she posted a FB status saying "I wish the mind erasing procedure from eternal sunshine was real." it was a few days after that text. She took it down the status though a few days later.

 

She logged on skype for the first time in a year and she tried calling me. Didn't pick up. Hung up after 7 seconds.

 

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So that's my break up timeline. What do you think?

 

 

How do you feel after reading all that? don't you feel proud of how much you accomplished? after all the games and BS she put you through, you're still here working on you and you're now able to look back and make a break up line.

 

If you read this timeline you'll see that there's no more time left to waste on her and it must have been a tiring process so it's the right moment to enjoy how much you worked.

 

I have nothing but congrats to you.

[Username37]

sounds really close to me man, dated a girl who I moved to school to be with her for a year and a half, we broke up and she strung me along for a couple weeks until she found her rebound. She told me to never talk to me again and blocked all communication including phone, fb etc...She then had a very rocky relationship with this guy for four months but was constantly hitting me up telling me how much she missed me/loved me...and how she was just with him to try to get over me and she didnt even hang out with him that much cuz she could only think about me. Gave in and we dated the whole summer cuz we are from the same place so it was easy. Same problems arose and we broke up again. Three days lated i figure out that shes hanging out with the same guy. I feel so depressed and lonely right now but I can honestly say that "my girl" and probably yours are not right for us. They try to keep us on a string and whenever something is really bad they know they can run to us. But where were they when we felt like this. Out being sluts not giving a f*ck so why should we be there for them when they need it. It will honestly will make u feel better when she trys to contact u again and u just dont respond. When she runs to you when shes in trouble dont respond..if i woulda dont that 6 months ago I would be fine and probably with a wonderful girl right now...instead I feel the exact same because I allowed it to happen to myself

 

Wow man. Surprised how I can relate to others stories. I miss my ex, I still love her, and I want her back and everything. But from the looks of things, a chance of reconciliation is low. And I'm glad I haven't replied to any of her ****. I haven't hung out with her or got with her. But if I did, I'm pretty sure I would be in the ****ter.

 

 

 

I don't know what else to tell you about Gemini other that we're f***ing crazy. And it even bothers me being a Gemini, my moods change so quickly I can't stand it. But one thing is for sure, when we love, we love that person alone, it's not that we change what we feel.

The thing with Gemini is that we get bored and are easily distracted, so depending on the situation, we make take choices without thinking and then regret what we've done just for the sake of having some adrenaline in our lives. Yes, we're crazy.

 

And Cancer... My God. He should be dwelling on the past then. Why hasn't he figured out what he should do? he's losing me....

 

My ex was moody. When she dumped me, she had a LOT of stress going on. So a gemini COULD come back after a break up? And my ex is doing crazy stuff now, hope she regrets it. Do geminis also hide their feelings?

 

Here's the thing about Cancers. We ARE dwelling in the past. We're very sentimental and we get very nostalgic. But if you hurt the Cancer in anyway, they will hold a grudge. We do not forgive and forget right away. So basically, you have to truly prove yourself to the Cancer that you mean right.

[Username37]

How do you feel after reading all that? don't you feel proud of how much you accomplished? after all the games and BS she put you through, you're still here working on you and you're now able to look back and make a break up line.

 

If you read this timeline you'll see that there's no more time left to waste on her and it must have been a tiring process so it's the right moment to enjoy how much you worked.

 

I have nothing but congrats to you.

 

Looking back, I do feel proud. I made mistakes yeah, but I managed to get back up and work on me. It has been a tiring and tearful journey. But a very changing one indeed. Thanks lullaby

[Username37]

August 16th everybody. Welcome to 3 months broken up

[Username37]

the rebound hookup is bugging me again.

 

Did she appreciate being used/using someone?

Is she attached to this guy?

Did she REALLY move on after doing this?

Are they still involved?

Does she regret it?

 

Just some questions that been running in my mind. Does she really think she can erase and forget 1.5 years of her life with ONE guy especially someone she JUST met? That's ****ed up. I'm pretty sure this one guy cannot destroy the emotional bond and memories we shared. I blame her already damaged self esteem honestly

 

And honestly, why does she want to be my friend after doing this **** to me?

Edited August 16, 2010 by Username37

[Username37]

Question!

 

Okay, I'm going to be seeing my ex a lot starting next week.

 

If the topic of our relationship and friendship pop up, what should I do?

[bonpaw2008]

Question!

 

Okay, I'm going to be seeing my ex a lot starting next week.

 

If the topic of our relationship and friendship pop up, what should I do?

 

You are going to be seeing her, but that doesn't mean you have to talk to her. Hi and bye is the way I would leave it, until you can get over these feelings of wanting to ask her why she is doing what she is doing, etc.

 

What would you ask her and what could she possibly say that wouldn't send you into a spin? Stick to as much NC as you can muster, she quit you, she is with someone else, you don't want to be friends with someone that would treat you like that....RIGHT???

[Username37]

You are going to be seeing her, but that doesn't mean you have to talk to her. Hi and bye is the way I would leave it, until you can get over these feelings of wanting to ask her why she is doing what she is doing, etc.

 

What would you ask her and what could she possibly say that wouldn't send you into a spin? Stick to as much NC as you can muster, she quit you, she is with someone else, you don't want to be friends with someone that would treat you like that....RIGHT???

 

we have mutual friends and it's gonna be awkward if we play tug o war with them ya know?

 

My ex is the kind of person that brings up anything. Since I haven't spoken to her, she'll ask me that and also how I've been plus friendship. The relationship....maybe. If the topic of friendship does come up though, I'm thinking about unloading what I've been thinking about all summer. Good idea or bad?

[Username37]

I wish for reconciliation.

 

I have a feeling she's gonna ignore me once I see her. Her friend got her brainwashed.

 

She reads stupid magazines, believes in a lot of dumb crap, and listens to her dumb friend who has a history of bad relationships and hookups. Plus she drinks and does drugs. My ex is ****ed up now, but I always have this feeling that she's the old her deep down. Idk, I think that's why I still have these feelings for her. I just hope her seeing me will bring back the old her or something....

[Username37]

I've been seeing 111 and 1111 a lot. Anyone that's into numerology know what this means?

[cookie2]

My ex is ****ed up now, but I always have this feeling that she's the old her deep down.

Read the sig dude

Always works for me when I get similar feelings (which is quite often).

[Username37]

Read the sig dude

Always works for me when I get similar feelings (which is quite often).

 

It helps

 

I wanna tell her that!

[spriggig]

She reads stupid magazines, believes in a lot of dumb crap...

 

I've been seeing 111 and 1111 a lot. Anyone that's into numerology know what this means?

 

[Username37]

Few more days. I'm afraid to see her. Seeing her with her new friends and seeing her new personality. What the hell? Is this normal? When I use to see her and hear her, my heart just fills with happiness and I get excited but now, I feel like avoiding her because I'm just so afraid. What's wrong with me?

[smk]

Dude she is the one who should be all nervous a out seeing the NEW you, the one who NC'ed her all summer, the same guy who has been working out all summer...

 

Dude the more you think about it the more nervous it gonna make you... Focus on you, think about you...

[Username37]

Dude she is the one who should be all nervous a out seeing the NEW you, the one who NC'ed her all summer, the same guy who has been working out all summer...

 

Dude the more you think about it the more nervous it gonna make you... Focus on you, think about you...

 

I'm sure she's gonna ignore me or something bitchy like that.

 

I imagine her reaction seeing me. But the whole expectation/reality thing ya know?

[smk]

Bro trust me on this; the more you think about it, the more it will effect you...

 

Instead of giving her the chance to ignore her, why don't you just ignore her that way you are in control...

 

I have to see the ex in a couple of weeks and spend a whole day training her but you know what I am not even thinking about it... I am too busy to live my own life to worry about how she will react...

[Username37]

Bro trust me on this; the more you think about it, the more it will effect you...

 

Instead of giving her the chance to ignore her, why don't you just ignore her that way you are in control...

 

I have to see the ex in a couple of weeks and spend a whole day training her but you know what I am not even thinking about it... I am too busy to live my own life to worry about how she will react...

 

I'm trying to think about the positives. I'm focusing on keeping my cool and thinking about what to tell her when certain topics come up (like how was my summer, friendship, the relationship?)

 

I want to look like the stronger person.

 

New Thought: I honestly believe my ex is unhappy. She hides her emotions and all of that. I know she has a lot of friends, but deep down, I know she's unhappy. It's a gut feeling. I also still care about her still even though we're broken up. Like if she was drunk or something and she calls me for a ride, I honestly would pick her up. Damn my caring Cancer nature XD