Was my GF raped or did she cheat?

[Binster]

Going by the others it's near unanimous that people think she's lying about being raped.

My thought would be if she's lying about him raping her how long before you p**s her off and she accuses you of raping her.

[mickleb]

Going by the others it's near unanimous that people think she's lying about being raped.

My thought would be if she's lying about him raping her how long before you p**s her off and she accuses you of raping her.

 

That is a terrifying thought.

 

But, sadly, it's very insightful.

 

x

[linwood]

This forum drives me nuts sometimes.

I don`t know how people can be so gullible.

 

No, your girlfriend wasn`t raped.

 

She was pissed at you and she`s obviously seriously immature so she went and ****ed some scumbag to get back at you.

 

She not only went to his house, she left and returned to his house so she could **** him.

 

Then at 4AM when she woke you up to give you your just desserts for pissing her off and told you she cheated she didn`t get the reaction she imagined she`d get.

 

She imagined you`d be all broken up and crushed, maybe even crying a little.

This would have given her great satisfaction BUT NO, you had to go and blow her fantasy by speaking the truth and telling the dirty little whore to get the hell away because you were done.

 

She`s now spinning, doesn`t know WTF to do because she`s really ****ed it all up.

Didn`t go down the way she thought.

 

So, she remembers the first thing you asked in a sleep filled moment before your wits were about you.

 

You asked her "Were you raped?"

 

NOW she has the beginning of yet another mind**** that will get you back into her clutches.

 

She then proceeds to tell you this bull**** story about being raped because she imagines it`s the only thing that will keep you with her now that she`s shown you what a nasty slut she is.

 

Do what you meant to do in the first place dump this bitch and do it as nasty as you can.

 

Your girlfriend is poison, get her out of your life.

[linwood]

..... faster than a proton through the LHC.

 

 

LMAO that`s funny.

 

I`m going to steal that.

[DenverBachelor]

LMAO that`s funny.

 

I`m going to steal that.

 

At least someone got that!

[HeavenOrHell]

No-one can tell you what happened, none of us were there. If she's telling the truth she needs to tell the police. If you have no trust between you what is the point of you being together?!

[HeavenOrHell]

You said 'couldn't she have punched him in the face or something,'

but also this; 'She said she choked him and hit him but she couldn't get him off her.' So doesn't that answer your question?

The whole thing sounds F***** up to me.

 

 

 

I found this forum to see what other unbiased people thought about my situation. I have a GF of 2 years, we love eachother very much. Our sex life is great. Every once and awhile we get in arguements, usually over stupid stuff. She likes to be on facebook a lot and has a lot of guy friends. Most of them are pretty harmless and i tell her it bothers me sometimes that she talks to them. Anyways, the other night we got into a big arguement and i said maybe we shouldn't be together. Afterwards she got really pissed and decided to go to the bar. She asked me to come, but I was trying to reason with her and ask her to come inside my apartment to talk to me. She drove off. I went inside and talked to her sister. Her sister said how stupid she was being and that she was going to go to the bar to get her. Well her sister couldn't get through. On my GF's facebook it said "**** you, at the bar with my girl!" So I figured i would go to bed and talk to her in the morning.

 

So at 4am she wakes me up, shes sitting on my bed. I say Hi! I was really excited to see her. She tells me that she cheated on me. I lose it, I start going crazy. She starts crying. I ask her who? She tells me who. It's this dude shes been talking to. Hes a scumbag hes been in jail doesn't even drive. I ask her if she was raped. She says no. Then I really lose it. She tells me she didn't want it to happen, she was drunk, bla bla bla. I go nuts, I tell her to get the hell away from me. I call her a whore, slut, skank. Shes crying so much. I finally get her away from me, I tell her to sleep on the couch. The next morning I take her keys and throw her out. She calls me 50 times that day, and sends me countless text messages. I just blow her off. I tell her friends what she did. That was sunday.

 

Monday rolls around, I blow her off some more.

 

Tuesday rolls around and i talk to her online. She tells me the whole story. She said she went over to this dudes house with her friend, they all knew eachother. They were just chilling in her car cause it was raining. Then her friend wanted to go home. So she drove her home. Then she came back to this dudes house. They were just watching TV when he got on top of her and raped her. She said she choked him and hit him but she couldn't get him off her. She said she got away the first chance she got. After that she went home and then came over to my place to tell me. I asked her why didn't she tell me that in the first place instead of that she cheated on me? she says that she didn't think i would have believed her.

 

So the last 2 days I forgave her, I felt sorry she was raped. I believed her story and I wanted to be there for her. But some things just still don't line up. Why did she go back over there? it would to have been 2am when she went back. She really couldn't get him off her? We mess around a lot and shes pretty strong. She could have punched him in the face or something. When she came over to my place her hair was still perfect, its like she hadn't showered. I think she was stilll wearing the clothes she wore to his house. Now that I've forgiven her shes back to being her normal self and shes not so apolegetic anymore.

 

So, did she make up the raping story? She didn't have to drive over to my house at 4 am to tell me if she wanted to cheat on me. The raping story is what she has been telling her friends, and I do believe this dude could have raped her because he is a piece of ****. I asked her the story a couple of times and every time the story is the same. But at the same time I don't want to believe her, shes been physically close to me and its only been a few days since it happened. I would think she would be just a little traumatized if she really had been raped.

[jlr]

I suppose none of us were there, so we can't say for sure what happened. Based on what you said, I'd say she wasn't. I would think "I've just been raped" would have been the first thing she said when she came to your house. Not, "I cheated on you." That doesn't make any sense. You throw her out, and ignore her, and suddenly she starts going along with your rape idea? Sounds fishy for sure.

 

But there are some other things that trouble me. The one being why you asked her if she was raped when she said she cheated on you. That's a pretty extreme thing to reply back with. Cheating and rape are two very different things. She used the word "cheating." Has she cheated on you before? You seem to have been jealous of her male company. Was there a reason for that? Did you have a weird feeling about some of them and her?

 

I think the main issue is trust. You don't believe her. That's not a good sign off the bat. Even is she was raped, you doubted her. And that means things are bad with you two.