boyfriend still misses his ex

[fazz]

Hi all...

would like to get some responses on....how do you deal when your boyfriend is still misses his ex?

 

they have decent contacts now, business only and the ex send him cards as well....idk if he sends cards to her or not because we have been in relationship for only 4 months. he broke up w her 3 yrs ago, of 10 years relationship.

 

i havent confront him about this because if the answer is yes then this thread is born, if the answer was no then i think he is lying because:

 

1. he often mentions himself with the nickname his past gf used

2. he often talks abt his ex whenever we talk abt something related to her ( for ex the towel is his bday gift from her, the city where she was born , etc)

3. whenever he mentions abt her he would uses " my... (ex name")

 

 

so im quite annoyed , but it is the way it is and how can i deal with this?

responses are welcome!

[jsa100100]

Normally I would tell you to just get rid of him until his issues are cleared, but obviously he's been with her for 10 years, and when you're with someone for that long, his identity is obscured with that person...because of the history.

 

That being said, this has to stop sooner or later, and you need to have a talk about it. These are things that are not normal and thus you should not have to deal with it. If he has feelings for you he'll realize that this sort of talk has to stop, and thus you two should work together to a resolution.

 

Hope that helps.

[dcdatingdiva]

While I agree with jsa that we should cut this guy some slack because he was with this girl for 10 years, I did notice that he broke up with this girl 3 years ago- that is plenty of time to get over this girl and realize that he needs to move on. If he still hasn't moved on after all this time, then I think there might be something to be concerned about. Good luck girl! xx

[Curmudgeon]

Then clearly he shouldn't be with you or anyone else.