Posh Polly Posted July 30, 2010 Share Posted July 30, 2010 (edited) My fSO cheated on me and I dumped her on the spot. We had been dating for 5 months. She acted remourseful and wanted to reconcile (I refused), but ended up dating the OW 3 days later. I've moved on and am in a good relationship but I still hate fSO and especially OW. How long before I stop wishing they would meet a horrible fiery death? I've blocked them on FB and moved 1200 miles away. We have no contact. They are still together and it's been 8 months since the betrayal. Edited July 30, 2010 by Posh Polly Link to post Share on other sites
Jemay Posted July 30, 2010 Share Posted July 30, 2010 Hmm.... time to let go of that anger, no? She was obviously wrong for cheating, and it hurt you, but you've met someone new now and the past is in the past. I'm a big believer in forgiving a person.... maybe even talking to the person, sharing your hurt and anger but also letting them know you forgive them. This can be hard but it is very healing.... maybe in time you'll be able to do so..... don't keep it bottled up for too long though, I'd say 8 months is plenty.... Link to post Share on other sites
stace79 Posted July 30, 2010 Share Posted July 30, 2010 I think the most important lesson I learned is that the best revenge is moving on with your life and being happy. Forgiveness is more for YOU than for them. It takes time. My bf broke up with me a long time ago to try things out with his ex again. I'm still not over it -- it's been like four years now. But it gets easier. Try to learn from the experience if you can, and keep reminding yourself that your suffering isn't affecting them at all. But being happy is helpful to you, and should they ever check up on you, will show them they have no power over you! Link to post Share on other sites
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