stace79 Posted July 30, 2010 Share Posted July 30, 2010 Ugh.... I just need some support. My LDR bf drove down to his family's house yesterday to visit his grandfather who has been ill, and was then coming here (an hour away) to visit me the remainder of the weekend (Sat-Mon). Sadly his grandfather passed away overnight. I am being as understanding as possible -- I called and left him a VM that I understand if he can't see me and needs to be with his family. It is looking like he really will be staying with his family and they are trying to put together a memorial service that he can attend before driving back home. I'm so sad and disappointed. I realize there is nothing really to do -- his grandfather's passing and spending time with his family is obviously important. I just don't know when the next time is that I might see him!! I saw him the last weekend of June, and now may not see him again until almost September -- maybe Labor Day. I was so looking forward to this weekend. We really didn't realize that his grandfather was so close to dying. P.S. His parents don't know yet that we have reconciled and are back together, so going there probably is not an option either, even though they're only an hour away. I think I will ask if I could meet him somewhere halfway between us for lunch at least, if he cannot come here at all. I just want to see him before he drives all the way back home. This sucks, all the way around. Link to post Share on other sites
carvidep Posted July 30, 2010 Share Posted July 30, 2010 awww that is a yucky situation! hopefully he'll be able to meet you half way for lunch like you said. But do your best not to let it get to you if he doesn't. Besides, the end of September isn't too far away. chin up girlie Link to post Share on other sites
Author stace79 Posted July 30, 2010 Author Share Posted July 30, 2010 awww that is a yucky situation! hopefully he'll be able to meet you half way for lunch like you said. But do your best not to let it get to you if he doesn't. Besides, the end of September isn't too far away. chin up girlie Thanks. I texted him the idea of meeting up for lunch or something and he wrote back "absolutely". So I'm happy about that. Just so hard -- he is only an hour away (when he lives seven hours away) but I might only get to see him for an hour. lol Arghh! Link to post Share on other sites
lala82 Posted July 30, 2010 Share Posted July 30, 2010 If I were in your position I would be very sad. Try to support him and be patient. I think that the lunch is a very good idea. It is a good opportunity to show him that you love him and you are with him in this difficult situation. However, if he says that he can't meet you, do not be dessapointed. It would made things worst between both of you. Link to post Share on other sites
D-Lish Posted July 31, 2010 Share Posted July 31, 2010 Why can't you go there? Does his family dislike you? Link to post Share on other sites
Author stace79 Posted July 31, 2010 Author Share Posted July 31, 2010 Why can't you go there? Does his family dislike you? They don't dislike me. We have been in honestly a pretty tumutluous relationship. Last year, we had a really rough year and we both thought we wouldn't ever get back together. After that, his parents really felt we shouldn't be together -- they liked me, according to him, but just felt our relationship wasn't healthy. (At the time, I agreed, but we have both grown up quite a bit through our experiences. We learned how to be happier alone for the first part of this year, and then since we still missed and loved each other, decided to try to work things out in April.) I am really happy, though -- his boss told him he could take an extra day off work b/c of his grandfather's death, so he is spending today with his family at the memorial service, and then he's driving here to spend Sunday and Monday with me! Yay! I'm so happy I get to see him. Link to post Share on other sites
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