xenonsrt10 Posted August 2, 2010 Share Posted August 2, 2010 I am being cheated on currently and have been for some time. I feel like its one of the situations where the girl just cannot leave the ex and this is what she says about him when I bring him up: -"I cant get rid of him." -"He makes me feel like I owe him something" -"Whenever you get further away from me..he gets closer to me." These types of statements are confusing. I do KNOW that he has physically abused her at some point this year and has threatened to kill himself if she leaves him. Now, currently, she works as a waitress where he works and I feel like he got her a job there. She is also now living with him when she tells me she lives still where she used to. I know this because I have friends that live in the same apt complex. Here are my questions: -is my ego at work when I get very bothered by the fact that he is a college dropout, a waiter and far less attractive that myself? -what should I do to bring up her living with him now? -what is the best way to leave the situation where it will impact her the most/make her realize what opportunity she lost in me? Thanks! Link to post Share on other sites
meerkat stew Posted August 2, 2010 Share Posted August 2, 2010 There is nothing you can do other than break up and go immediate NC forever, her lying about her living circumstances is all you need to know. Stop worrying about making her feel bad and focus on making yourself move forward and feel good. Trying to rub her nose in it and get a reaction will almost certainly backfire and impede your progress. Best wishes. Link to post Share on other sites
cookie2 Posted August 2, 2010 Share Posted August 2, 2010 She is cheating on you and has no intention of stopping. Just get rid of her. Don't ever speak/text/email her again, no matter what she does. Silence is the best thing you can do for yourself, and it will wind her up the most too. Link to post Share on other sites
Bryanp Posted August 2, 2010 Share Posted August 2, 2010 She is playing you for a total fool. It is clear that she has no respect for you whatsoever. If you do not respect yourself then who will? Time to move on respect yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
Author xenonsrt10 Posted August 3, 2010 Author Share Posted August 3, 2010 I mean yes.....it makes sense to cut all losses at this point..BUT i think it would be fair to ask her if she is doing what she is doing...which is lying about where she is staying and living with her ex boyfriend. Am i wrong here? Link to post Share on other sites
Raderick Posted August 3, 2010 Share Posted August 3, 2010 I mean yes.....it makes sense to cut all losses at this point..BUT i think it would be fair to ask her if she is doing what she is doing...which is lying about where she is staying and living with her ex boyfriend. Am i wrong here? You already know it's going on. Confront her, make sure she confesses, and if necessary give the bloody hell out of Dodge. Link to post Share on other sites
collegeguy_24 Posted August 3, 2010 Share Posted August 3, 2010 Most of us in this thread, including myself, have been cheated on. Confront her, tell her how you feel your beeing used and you want nothing to do with her, break up with her and go NC FOREVER! You can find someone much better, much, much, better. As a man, as a human being, you deserve more respect then what she is showing you. Dump her butt! Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted August 3, 2010 Share Posted August 3, 2010 just simply tell her what you know and state that you deserve better - so it's over. Link to post Share on other sites
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