melodymatters Posted August 2, 2010 Share Posted August 2, 2010 I have been meaning to pass this tip on for ages, and Nela's thread about meeting people prompted me to finally do it. I'm back in my old world ( the theater) and I'm reminded of the incredible woman to man ratio. When we specify straight men, it becomes a potential harem situation. Many more woman are involved, and the guys ( who aren't gay) used to be the drama club guys, ie NOT the cool, athletic, jock types so many claim " get the girl". In the past ten years EVERY single one of my male theatre friends have married and started familes. EVERY damn one : the 450lb guy, the 5'2 guys, the effeminate ones, the Dungeon and dragon playing, star wars guys, ALL of them ! If you have no talent, offer your services as tech, where they'll have you work on sets, lights, props, whatever. Though again, there is SUCH a shortage of men, if you can walk straight and not drool, they will probably ask you to play a few bit parts. If you are not in a BIG city like NYC, or LA, I pretty much guarentee you a choice of pretty young dancer/singer/actress's to date ! In medium size or smaller cities, these girls are usually nurses, teachers, students etc who do this for fun, so were not talking about rock whores or sleep their way to the top types. I dare someone to take my challange and NOT end up married in a few years if they want to be ! Go forth ! Link to post Share on other sites
Crusoe Posted August 2, 2010 Share Posted August 2, 2010 It's good advice. I have a friend who is very much into her amateur dramatics who says exactly the same thing. I'm am always telling women who find it hard to meet a decent man to take up golf for pretty much the same reasons Link to post Share on other sites
TouchedByViolet Posted August 2, 2010 Share Posted August 2, 2010 I dated a theater/dancer girl a few months ago and we just never connected... After reading your post though I think I need to give theater more opportunities. I'm trying to take a pottery class in the fall. The concept of working with your hands and making something tangible is very satisfying to me. Plus I hear there is a good ratio of women:men. Link to post Share on other sites
Author melodymatters Posted August 2, 2010 Author Share Posted August 2, 2010 Well there we go crusoe ! Between both suggestions, we have single handedly solved one of the most pressing LS issues ! I'm not looking currently, but hmmm, golf.... If you have no clubs and no experience, how exactly would that work ? Link to post Share on other sites
Author melodymatters Posted August 2, 2010 Author Share Posted August 2, 2010 I dated a theater/dancer girl a few months ago and we just never connected... After reading your post though I think I need to give theater more opportunities. I'm trying to take a pottery class in the fall. The concept of working with your hands and making something tangible is very satisfying to me. Plus I hear there is a good ratio of women:men. Yup, the ratio thing seems to be the key here. Pottery seems good too, though nothing brings on the emotions like hugging before and after a good show, lol I swear, my 450 lb friend wheezes and appears like he's going to die any minute and damned if he isn't married to a hot, slender, sweetheart of a blonde actress/costume designer and father to an adorable 2 yr old son. If HE can do it, anyone on here can ! Link to post Share on other sites
Crusoe Posted August 2, 2010 Share Posted August 2, 2010 (edited) Well, if a woman interested in purely meeting a man she need not take the game up, she could just use her local club as a place go for a drink or meal. If she was interested in taking the game up she could go to the local club speak to the Pro or Ladies Captain and get introduced the game that way. Most places are crying out for lady members and have a introductory deal that includes a few lessons with borrowed equipment. If she didn't fancy playing the game but still wanted to be involved she could become a social member of a club, no need to swing a club at all. There is usually some sort of social function going on every week at most clubs... quiz nights, dinners, dances, charity do's etc. All I know is there are millions of single male golfers who would love to meet a lady through the game and those fellas are to be found in the clubhouse on weekend afternoons and evenings. Edited August 2, 2010 by Crusoe Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted August 2, 2010 Share Posted August 2, 2010 i'm not joining a theatre group to get dates MM Link to post Share on other sites
crosswordfiend Posted August 3, 2010 Share Posted August 3, 2010 This is actually really good advice. I can't tell you how many actresses/singers/dancers I've met or dated over the years. Cast parties can get really crazy. The only problem is that the talent tends to be extremely self-centred. And in the larger theatre markets, there's always another show with new people to meet so it can have the feel of online dating sometimes. Link to post Share on other sites
Feelin Frisky Posted August 3, 2010 Share Posted August 3, 2010 Well there we go crusoe ! Between both suggestions, we have single handedly solved one of the most pressing LS issues ! I'm not looking currently, but hmmm, golf.... If you have no clubs and no experience, how exactly would that work ? You can offer to yell "FOUR" for people. Link to post Share on other sites
Author melodymatters Posted August 3, 2010 Author Share Posted August 3, 2010 i'm not joining a theatre group to get dates MM You could be the George Clooney of the production....but have it your way big guy ! Link to post Share on other sites
Author melodymatters Posted August 3, 2010 Author Share Posted August 3, 2010 You can offer to yell "FOUR" for people. I'm sure you misspelled that on purpose, so wouldn't it be funnier if I walked around yelling " Three !" or "Five !":laugh: I often play the dumb blonde, i'll have to use this ! Link to post Share on other sites
spookie Posted August 3, 2010 Share Posted August 3, 2010 MM, I always thought it would be fun to try acting. Like any girl, I've always harbored the fantasy that I was filled to the brim with secret acting talent. (My tendency to lie compulsively (and very effectively) has got to be good for something.) Having never tried it before, should I be intimidated about joining a local theater group in a BIG city? How does one go about that, anyway? I'm kind of shy... at first. I mean, approaching a big group of people who all know each other terrifies me. Give me a couple minutes to warm up tho and I morph into an attention whore. Link to post Share on other sites
Author melodymatters Posted August 3, 2010 Author Share Posted August 3, 2010 MM, I always thought it would be fun to try acting. Like any girl, I've always harbored the fantasy that I was filled to the brim with secret acting talent. (My tendency to lie compulsively (and very effectively) has got to be good for something.) Having never tried it before, should I be intimidated about joining a local theater group in a BIG city? How does one go about that, anyway? I'm kind of shy... at first. I mean, approaching a big group of people who all know each other terrifies me. Give me a couple minutes to warm up tho and I morph into an attention whore. Hey spook ! Even a big city probably has smaller, less "trying to make it big time" groups that could be a lot of fun to work with. Look for non profits, read audition notices in your paper, maybe look on craigs list ( but beware of porno casting stuff which happened to me back in NYC in the day and through variety magazine no less !) I bet you would be a GREAT actress ! Auditions, there is no large groups so f*ck it. Maybe take some classes if you have the time and feel free to lie on your resume, no one checks in the theatre world : acting IS lying ! Murder mysteries are super fun, and usually looking for new talent, I'm doing two right now. Find their web site and ask about auditions, they like people who can be free and wild and think on their feet. Go for it !!! Link to post Share on other sites
spookie Posted August 3, 2010 Share Posted August 3, 2010 Hey spook ! Even a big city probably has smaller, less "trying to make it big time" groups that could be a lot of fun to work with. Look for non profits, read audition notices in your paper, maybe look on craigs list ( but beware of porno casting stuff which happened to me back in NYC in the day and through variety magazine no less !) I bet you would be a GREAT actress ! Auditions, there is no large groups so f*ck it. Maybe take some classes if you have the time and feel free to lie on your resume, no one checks in the theatre world : acting IS lying ! Murder mysteries are super fun, and usually looking for new talent, I'm doing two right now. Find their web site and ask about auditions, they like people who can be free and wild and think on their feet. Go for it !!! MM, I feel like I'm ALWAYS acting. Usually, I'm attempting to "act myself" - in a manner consistent with how I'd like to be perceived. Half the time, I fail at that. I'd like a free pass to get to pretend to be somebody else. Link to post Share on other sites
Disillusioned Posted August 3, 2010 Share Posted August 3, 2010 MM, I've been posting something similar for women who want to meet men, that they should consider becoming radio hams so they can join club meetings and start having their pick of the guys. I mean sure, they're only going to meet a bunch of 60+ year old guys at first, but eventually the guys in their 20s and 30s start showing up. I guess none of the women on LS care to date some nice young engineers... Link to post Share on other sites
Engadget Posted August 5, 2010 Share Posted August 5, 2010 I worked backstage on plays in high school, and the ladies there were much more sexually available and open than the rest. So this could work quite well. Link to post Share on other sites
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