Tenaciousdr20 Posted February 12, 2004 Share Posted February 12, 2004 Ok, here's the deal. I went to the gym and a cute girl that I had seen in one of my classes smiled at me. I started talking to her and we talked for quite a while. A few days later I called her up and asked if she wanted to study together for an upcoming test. She said she really wanted to BUT she had already made plans to study with some of her friends and I could join them. I said that was cool and they all ended up coming to my place to study. During the day she smiled at me quite a bit and we made eye contact quite a few times. Last week I asked if I could sit with her at a meeting our school was having. She said that sounded great. I showed up late and discovered her sitting with some other guys. After the meeting I said I was sorry I showed up late and she said it wasn't a big deal cause she showed up late too and when she couldn't find me, she sat with her friends. I said that was cool and invited her to hang out the next day. She said she already had plans with another friend of hers but that I could come along if I wanted to. I kinda felt like she was throwin' that in out of pity so I just smiled and dropped it. Later that night I talked to her on the phone and she asked me if she was going to see me the next morning. I told her maybe and proceeded not to go! So, this week I see her at the gym again and I say "Hey good lookin', whattcha up to?" she smiled real big and we just started talking. I asked her when a good time to call her that night would be and she said that it wasn't a good night cause she got off work late and had lots of homework. I felt like saying "you know, if ya don't wanna talk you don't need to come up with lame excuses." but I didn't, I just smiled and left as soon as I could. NOW I AM CONFUSED!!!!!!! I get the feeling that she's kinda interested in me but then there are moments when I don't know what the hell is going on! I mean, if she really liked me wouldn't she have made time to talk to me on the phone? I wanna know how she feels about me but I don't know how to go about finding out. I mean, she's never turned me down, always seemed excited about anything I suggest but then something happens like the sitting together thing that didn't work out cause we were both late. I am sooooo confused. Some of my friends say I should just ask her out and see what happens...........................I'm kinda scared cause that kinda seems like a quick death or something............What do you guys think? I am in need of help. Link to post Share on other sites
Darkangelism Posted February 12, 2004 Share Posted February 12, 2004 She prolly likes you, just stay cool, confident, and keep talking to her, then when it feels right ask her out. Link to post Share on other sites
carla Posted February 12, 2004 Share Posted February 12, 2004 I'll tell you I think coming from a womans persective. she asked me if she was going to see me the next morning. I told her maybe and proceeded not to go! "Hey good lookin', whattcha up to?" NOW I AM CONFUSED!!!!!!! What's that all about talk about mixed signals, don't you think that maybe she's confused to. If you want this to work STOP playing games. Ask her out. If she is the first girl that you have ever asked out and she says no, then she will probably be your 1st rejection and 1 more step you've climb in life's little experiences. if she says yes then wow wee what a boost to the ego. You don't know what will happen if you don't take the chance. Life is to short to wonder What if...... Link to post Share on other sites
bicylejunk Posted February 12, 2004 Share Posted February 12, 2004 I SO agree with that statement. Life is too short to wonder WHAT IF? It really is. Link to post Share on other sites
Marty_McFly Posted February 13, 2004 Share Posted February 13, 2004 Next time you see her or talk to her, instead of a "hey, let's hang out some time" or "hey, can I call you," how about a "hey, let's go do something together Saturday night?" Get more specific with the questions and a little more specific about what you're going to do than you have been. Also, it gives her at least a few days lead time. If she's not available but interested, she'll probably suggest another time/date that's more convenient for her. If she's not, she'll probably just say she's busy and leave it at that. There's definitely no reason to think that she's giving you mixed signals or anything. I mean, you've hardly talked and haven't gone out at all. If you're in school, she is probably being honest when she says she's busy. But since you haven't really even asked her on a real date, she can't really be playing games because it's not like she's really turned you down. Link to post Share on other sites
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