calithin83 Posted February 12, 2004 Share Posted February 12, 2004 This is weird my bf doesnt like smoking, i was starting to smoke i decided not to smoke because i wanted to respect him as well as i figured that smoking is stupid and i rather be with my bf then smoke. ok so i fulfilled his need. in the other hand he likes porn, i told him i didnt like porn- he still DOES IT!.....I give up though that porn talk is really annoying it, i guess its too hard to ditch porn, then i guess i should say its too hard to ditch a box of cigarettes. Link to post Share on other sites
dyermaker Posted February 12, 2004 Share Posted February 12, 2004 Cigarettes are harmful to your health, and you were also quitting for yourself, for your own health. Porn is something that YOU don't like, and if he quit, he'd be changing for you, in what I consider an unhealthy way. Change against your true desires for the sake of emotional sentiment is not something I'd participate in, no. That doesn't mean that I wouldn't communicate with my partener as to the issues behind the offense--like if I reconciled with myself that changing would be a good thing (like you did with cigarettes) then I see no point in not making such a healthy change. Link to post Share on other sites
Author calithin83 Posted February 12, 2004 Author Share Posted February 12, 2004 cigarettes have a negative affect in health but porn can also havea negative affect in feelings and thoughts...u dont think that waht u see influences u????after seeing something so often u get influenced by it, u dont evenr ealize it...women seem like objects and all of a sudden u have this desire to sleep with different women, or ones who are bustier, sorry but it does have an affect as well, maybe not in ure health but yes on ure mentality, and that is JUST as harmful Link to post Share on other sites
dyermaker Posted February 12, 2004 Share Posted February 12, 2004 Originally posted by calithin83 women seem like objects and all of a sudden u have this desire to sleep with different women, or ones who are bustier, sorry but it does have an affect as well, maybe not in ure health but yes on ure mentality, and that is JUST as harmful Is that what happened to you after viewing porn? You had sudden urges to sleep with women? Because males have had those urges for their entire life, since they were about eight years old. And honey, that's not porn's fault, we're wired that way. Please don't attempt to psychoanalyze me, if I want that, I'll pay for it. Porn hasn't affected my desires at all--I know what I want as a companion in life, and I know what I want when I'm looking to touch myself. It's YOU who has a problem separating fantasy from reality, not I, or the gender I represent. Also, even if I did magically want bustier women from watching porn (wtf?)--I'd MUCH rather desire large-chested women than have lung cancer. To even put cigarette smoking and porn in the same realm is disgusting. Your question was "would u stop doing something if ure gf asked u to?"--The answer, Hell No--That wouldn't be fair to her. I would make a change for me, perhaps upon introspection that she might have nudged me towards. I'm find with communication, but you're talking about downright control. Link to post Share on other sites
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