LuckyCharm Posted August 3, 2010 Share Posted August 3, 2010 A little over a month ago my DH got a really good job offer and was told that many times he would have to work away from home and the company would pay for his hotel stay. We have an only Daughter who's 21 months old and very attached to both of us and doesn't really like being without us. she's a very good little girl and she understands alot of what we say to her and normally if we ask her to do something she will do it. My DH's company told him that he will soon be working closer to home (meaning he can come home every night) only there has been a delay and this is the third week he's working away from home and this past month our Daughter has only seen her Dad maybe 5 times and I can tell it's really effecting her. she won't listen when I ask her to come lay down for a diaper change and today she wouldn't stop kicking and screaming, she even grabbed her dirty diaper and threw it above her head, I got really mad at her and told her never to do that again which just made her even more upset and was gonna punish her but I felt bad cause I knew she's having a hard time understanding why Dad isn't here much, so I cleaned up, got her some milk and just rocked her on the rocking chair to help her calm down. Also last night she pretty much spent all night with me and wouldn't sleep in her own bed, now she is teething but I didn't feel this was the case cause she always sleeps in her own bed with no problem. I always try doing different activities with her and give her loads of attention, tell her how much I love her and tell her that her Dad misses her and will play with her once he gets home but I really don't know what else to do I think she's really freaking out not having her Dad here with us. Btw, DH and I keep in touch in email and every morning I will call his hotel room and make sure my Daughter gets to 'talk' to him too. I think it does some what help but I'm really not sure what else I can do for her... Any suggestions? Link to post Share on other sites
kuma Posted August 9, 2010 Share Posted August 9, 2010 (edited) Btw, DH and I keep in touch in email and every morning I will call his hotel room and make sure my Daughter gets to 'talk' to him too. I think it does some what help but I'm really not sure what else I can do for her... Any suggestions? Why don't you try a webcam? Edited August 9, 2010 by kuma Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted August 9, 2010 Share Posted August 9, 2010 (edited) she won't listen when I ask her to come lay down for a diaper change and today she wouldn't stop kicking and screaming, she even grabbed her dirty diaper and threw it above her head, Any suggestions? Welcome to the terrible two's.. they can start earlier that 24 months or even later.. I think this part has more to do with her stage in life.. exerting her independence and making sure she is in control of everything than her missing her Dad.. I have a 29 month old toddler in full blow terrible two stage right now.. Everybody says it gets better by age 3 I like the previous posters advice about a webcam though to keep her in touch with her Dad, that may very well alleviate any insecurities she gets from missing her Dad. Skype is a pretty good software app and is free.. By the way.. my heart goes out to you.. How my wife keeps it all together while dealing with a child in his terrible twos' I'll never know.. but I sure do love her and understand how hard it is for her... Edited August 9, 2010 by Art_Critic Link to post Share on other sites
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