NoIDidn't Posted August 4, 2010 Share Posted August 4, 2010 I'm actually more curious about this weekend. Fri - our group is having an event. Sat - a friend is having a party for another because of his accident. His W will be away ALL weekend with the kids. I guess it's my time to see how strong I am and if I can reject him if he wants anything more than "just friends". So this is a game, no? His W is going to be away and you want to *see* if you *can* reject him? Friends don't do this to each other. Everyone's telling you to question his motives. What about your own? Link to post Share on other sites
Author SoSilly Posted August 4, 2010 Author Share Posted August 4, 2010 We've been talking all day again. Wash...rinse...repeat cycle again Yep. I can see it. Don't worry about me or about how this weekend will go. There's going to be plenty of people around that we won't get to talk personally. I'm actually ok with this. Why? I was a total wreck last week with NOT talking to him. This week, I'm talking to a few guys from a dating site and him. I will ALWAYS love him - that will never fade. IF his status were to ever change, I would be with him. But that won't happen... at least any time soon. Link to post Share on other sites
Author SoSilly Posted August 4, 2010 Author Share Posted August 4, 2010 So this is a game, no? His W is going to be away and you want to *see* if you *can* reject him? Friends don't do this to each other. Everyone's telling you to question his motives. What about your own? My motives? Simple. Reject him. He's already failed the "just friends" line 2 days in a row. I know most will say let it go, but I can't. Link to post Share on other sites
NoIDidn't Posted August 4, 2010 Share Posted August 4, 2010 My motives? Simple. Reject him. He's already failed the "just friends" line 2 days in a row. I know most will say let it go, but I can't. That's what I mean by "your motives". Why can't you? I think you can, you are just deciding not to. If his W doesn't know about the A, you are playing with the fire of her findiing out with this game - on your part and his. An aside- I think its really telling of his maturity when you've spent so much time on the phone with him leading up to his W's departure with their kids. Foreplay, maybe? What is the point of rejecting him but to shore up your own wounded ego? Is that the unspoken motive on your part??? Link to post Share on other sites
Snowflower Posted August 4, 2010 Share Posted August 4, 2010 My motives? Simple. Reject him. He's already failed the "just friends" line 2 days in a row. I know most will say let it go, but I can't. So what are your plans/motives then? You say you are rejecting him (good for you!) but then you can continue to talk to him all day. Does this make any sense to you? Link to post Share on other sites
joey66 Posted August 5, 2010 Share Posted August 5, 2010 From the secret MM handbook (which I am not allowed to show you at risk of penalty of death.) "I just want to be friends." - Useful for keeping a foot in the door. Obviously, there is no way you can actually be friends, whatever the hell that means, with a former OW, but you might someday want to rekindle the relationship. Or you might someday want to sleep with her again. Disclaimer: This post in no way represents the attitude or opinions of joey66. It is meant strictly as food for thought for the OP. Link to post Share on other sites
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