Gracie Posted February 12, 2004 Share Posted February 12, 2004 So I had a pretty stressful day this tuesday (now being thursday), and right after being chewed out by my boss, my boyfriend called me and told me we couldn't spend valentine's day together because he has to work all night, but we could spend the day together. With me in the stressful mood I was in, this didn't help. I was really mad and told him to try to get a hotel room so I could wait for him to get off work. He didn't sound like he was really going to try to do that, and quickly said he had to go eat some food. I tried too call him a half of an hour after that, and no one answered. He normally will check the caller id everytime he gets home and call me back within a couple of hours. He never called me back and hasn't called me since. It's been 2 days, and I even spoke with his mom last night. She insisted that she'd tell him to call me, but obviously he didn't listen to her. So what do you think this guy's thinking? I'm 18 yrs old, and he's 20. We've had a lot of little spats lately, but they have been resolved usually in about a half an hour of just talking it over. Do you think he's just sick of talking things over and is running from me? And most importantly, does anyone think I should just consider myself single and give up? It feels like at this point he has already broken up with me but just hasn't let me know, although there's no way to be sure of that until I talk to him. Link to post Share on other sites
carla Posted February 13, 2004 Share Posted February 13, 2004 I wouldn't consider you broken up b/c he has told you. But it's been 2 days, that's more then long enough to hold a gruge (unless your my ex) Did you apologise on his answering machine? Try that and send him a card for V day and see what happens. If he still hasn't called in 2 weeks Call him and leave a message on his machine saying that you want to end it b/c a good looking guy asked you out and you want piece of mind to know it's over with one relationship before you start another. That will get him thinking. Good Luck. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gracie Posted February 13, 2004 Author Share Posted February 13, 2004 Thanks for the advice Carla. So I went to his house yesterday and he was pleasently surprised to see me. He said it wasn't really that he was mad at me, he was just having a bad couple of days and needed some space. We are supposed to get together tonight to celebrate our valentine's day since he has to work tomorrow. We are supposed to get a room at the Hilton, but he hasn't made the reservation yet. We'll see if he actually calls. The thing that weirded me out is I called him right before I got to his house and he didn't answer, but when I got there he was there. I am glad to have a valentine, but I don't know how long we will last after that if he continues to block our communication. I feel like he's really disrespecting me by ignoring and not returning my calls. He told me yesterday that he would call me that night and he never did, so we'll have to see if he calls me over the weekend. He's acting strange to me, and I'm worried that he's cheating on me or his love for me has just diminished. We've been dating for 6 months and he started saying I Love You to me just recently (last week). One thing he told me is that he likes to take time off from reality and disappear sometimes, but I just wish he'd warn me ahead of time. Do you think he still cares about me and respects me? Link to post Share on other sites
Thor Posted February 13, 2004 Share Posted February 13, 2004 I'm not so certain of the respect part. It's the lack of respect that has him disappearing without telling you or warning you that he's going to be "out". Whether he still cares for you is entirely different and difficult to say with the information that you've provided. What kind of relationship do you both have? If it's committed then I believe that you deserve to know, at the very least, when he wants to take some time for himself. Link to post Share on other sites
Invader_Elemdee Posted February 14, 2004 Share Posted February 14, 2004 IF YOU WANT TO KNOW WHY ARE YOU ASKING US WHY DONT YOU GO ASK HIM I DONT KNOW HIM Link to post Share on other sites
Pretteangel Posted February 16, 2004 Share Posted February 16, 2004 BIG RED FLAG! YIELD! Just blocking you out dor 2 days was rude. I am sorry but there is simply no excuse for this type of bad behavior. You are way to available for him. Women make this mistake over and over again. Both of you are very young yet and that does have a lot to do with it as well. Remember, someone who truly loves you will not do such a thing. Love yourself enough to know this and have fun in life and don't get so attachted already at such a young age. Anytime a guy mis behaves this way you can bet something is up and this is just the beginning of it, that is why we call it red flags. It is a sign for you to watch. Listen to your inner it is already telling something is up! Go take care of you. Why do women give men so much power is beyound me. Good Luck! Link to post Share on other sites
GiveAndTake Posted February 16, 2004 Share Posted February 16, 2004 I think his recent revelation of love is a huge part of the problem you are having right now. It is very scary for most men to admit love and once they do, they worry that the woman will get possessive and controlling. So.... Your little 'spat' about him working and you demanding a hotel room to wait for him just confirmed all of his fears. I'm not saying it's your fault. I think he has the problem in this case. My point is, relax, give him some space and know that his reaction is typical. He'll come back to you if you back off a little. Link to post Share on other sites
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