Dating Ideas!

[counterman]

I am relatively inexperienced at dating but there is nothing better than learning from experience.

 

When I was in my last relationship, everything just came easy in terms of what we did during the relationship. Early on, it was movies, eating, making-out and shopping, etc.

 

Now, I have met a few girls and I have only gone with them to social areas where there were comfortable seats to just talk or I would go for coffee. I didn't ask any of them out again because I didn't feel to enthusiastic.

 

I was wondering besides coffee, lunch, or dinner, what other things would you ask someone on a date to do? How did these go for you?

 

I'm talking about early stages first of all.

[counterman]

Well, I have never had lunch or dinner as a first date.

 

That's what I was trying to think of... something with action and something exciting. Maybe even something I have never tried before? Something that I can get out of it even if there is no second date. Overall, just a fun experience.

 

I like the ideas you presented, particularly the walk in the parkthrough forest trail. Or, maybe doing an activity that I like, like a game.

 

As for the wine bar, I guess I don't really drink.

 

By the way, I am still in college.

[carhill]

I didn't date a lot when I was in college and definitely didn't drink (at all) back then, but I did enjoy one thing, quite illegal, and that was street racing. The social aspects, meeting up on the cruise, hanging out at the drive-in, eating breakfast after a long night out, were wonderful places to meet and take young ladies to. They were social gatherings where nearly everyone knew everyone. If the lady 'had to be home' at a certain hour, I'd drop her off before heading out to the 'track'.

 

For yourself, in the beginning, include your date in something you truly enjoy; something which positively reflects your personality. There's plenty of time for sussing out her passions and facilitating those. If she's interested and attracted, she'll like spending time with you; if not, not. The activity will be minimally relevant. For myself, dates were as diverse as bike rides, picnics, trips to the beach, hiking in the mountains, walks in the park, along with the usual musical restaurants. Lately, since divorcing, I take ladies to restaurants which serve food they like *and* I enjoy and where I know the owners so I know *I* will have a good time. Usually, that's infectious. If not, then it's good information and the lady and I won't waste each other's time.

 

My next date, recipient unknown, will be graced by a ride in one of my old cars to a cruise-in restaurant weekend hangout for a greasy spoon meal of her choice. On me

[dispatch3d]

frisbee (everyone can play it, and you can "teach" them how to do it)

go get ice cream, take a walk on a bridge

parks

Invite her to grocery shop with you. Especially good if you can cook. You aren't required to cook her a meal.

Cooking classes (dangerous if they flake, make sure you are going anyways)

coffee is good

go for "drinks" (not supper or dinner), just go to a bar and have a couple beer

Rock Climbing

Do some sport you both enjoy

Bowling

 

generally stay clear of: Movie's at the start (it translates to lets have sex), theater movies (super lame)

[zengirl]

frisbee (everyone can play it, and you can "teach" them how to do it)

go get ice cream, take a walk on a bridge

parks

Invite her to grocery shop with you. Especially good if you can cook. You aren't required to cook her a meal.

Cooking classes (dangerous if they flake, make sure you are going anyways)

coffee is good

go for "drinks" (not supper or dinner), just go to a bar and have a couple beer

Rock Climbing

Do some sport you both enjoy

Bowling

 

generally stay clear of: Movie's at the start (it translates to lets have sex), theater movies (super lame)

 

I think the grocery shopping is weird. I've been on excellent dates that were dirt cheap or free, so it's not the cost. It's just. . . I'd never invite a fellow to do my errands with me, as I'd find it rude. It may be less weird since the OP is still in college. As I recall, this was slightly different in college and new dates (not 1st or 2nd but not boyfriends) often did accompany me on errand-like things, and me on theirs. . . like getting school books or something. So, that could be an age thing.

 

The rest seems solid. A few to add and comment on: I particularly like bowling for dates, personally. Mini golf too. Festivals and events in your area are good, and it shows you know what's going on around you. Seeing live music is good (small venues). Parks are excellent. Beaches are lovely if you have them. Hiking is good.

[counterman]

I didn't date a lot when I was in college and definitely didn't drink (at all) back then, but I did enjoy one thing, quite illegal, and that was street racing. The social aspects, meeting up on the cruise, hanging out at the drive-in, eating breakfast after a long night out, were wonderful places to meet and take young ladies to. They were social gatherings where nearly everyone knew everyone. If the lady 'had to be home' at a certain hour, I'd drop her off before heading out to the 'track'.

 

For yourself, in the beginning, include your date in something you truly enjoy; something which positively reflects your personality. There's plenty of time for sussing out her passions and facilitating those. If she's interested and attracted, she'll like spending time with you; if not, not. The activity will be minimally relevant. For myself, dates were as diverse as bike rides, picnics, trips to the beach, hiking in the mountains, walks in the park, along with the usual musical restaurants. Lately, since divorcing, I take ladies to restaurants which serve food they like *and* I enjoy and where I know the owners so I know *I* will have a good time. Usually, that's infectious. If not, then it's good information and the lady and I won't waste each other's time.

 

My next date, recipient unknown, will be graced by a ride in one of my old cars to a cruise-in restaurant weekend hangout for a greasy spoon meal of her choice. On me

 

Wow! That sounds like heaps of fun. I wish I could race, or could do something like that

 

See, I like those ideas of bike rides, picnics, beaches, hikes, etc. They're all things I would LOVE to do, but in saying that I do not usually do them. So, hence, they would be great first date ideas since I am experiencing something fun even if the date doesn't go well.

 

Nice one, carhill. I've always valued your perspective on all things dating wise.

 

I don't think it matters too much on what I do if she's really interested but I do want a bit of extra fun:p

 

My last two (****ed up) relationships... our first date for the first was mini-golf, ice cream, and a 2 hour walk in the park...

 

the most recent (****ed up, failed) relationship... our first date was her inviting me over for dinner and we cooked dinner together... we took a walk to get booze... went down some random dark path we found (carrying the beer + wine)... it was nice overall.

 

I've never been to mini-golf before, surprisingly. Though, I have had hit-outs at the driving range. Now, mini-golf would be great fun. I could just get ice cream and walk in the park and chat on for hours.

 

Maybe I should learn to cook as well.

 

frisbee (everyone can play it, and you can "teach" them how to do it)

go get ice cream, take a walk on a bridge

parks

Invite her to grocery shop with you. Especially good if you can cook. You aren't required to cook her a meal.

Cooking classes (dangerous if they flake, make sure you are going anyways)

coffee is good

go for "drinks" (not supper or dinner), just go to a bar and have a couple beer

Rock Climbing

Do some sport you both enjoy

Bowling

 

generally stay clear of: Movie's at the start (it translates to lets have sex), theater movies (super lame)

 

I like these suggestions. They don't seem too out of comfort zones. Now, I really need to learn how to cook. Something I've been meaning to get to.

 

I usually like coffee. I don't usually have it outside of the house, so it's always nice to, especially in someone's company.

 

FRISBEE! Brilliant. I see people playing frisbee at college sometimes and it's always so fun. I never thought of that one! That's a good one.

 

Bowling too. I love bowling.

 

I think the grocery shopping is weird. I've been on excellent dates that were dirt cheap or free, so it's not the cost. It's just. . . I'd never invite a fellow to do my errands with me, as I'd find it rude. It may be less weird since the OP is still in college. As I recall, this was slightly different in college and new dates (not 1st or 2nd but not boyfriends) often did accompany me on errand-like things, and me on theirs. . . like getting school books or something. So, that could be an age thing.

 

The rest seems solid. A few to add and comment on: I particularly like bowling for dates, personally. Mini golf too. Festivals and events in your area are good, and it shows you know what's going on around you. Seeing live music is good (small venues). Parks are excellent. Beaches are lovely if you have them. Hiking is good.

 

I wouldn't take her grocery shopping. I mean, I don't go grocery shopping anyways. I do like shopping for books to read or stationery, so I wouldn't mind doing that but I prefer something else.

 

We do have lovely beaches, but probably not a good idea for winter. I would love hiking too.

 

I was thinking maybe a game of pool? Perhaps I can show her how to play. From what I have observed, it's always so interactive and both parties usually have fun.

 

I like to keep things short and sweet, maybe something within the vicinity of the college if I do not have that much time.