Making meaningful connections, friends or lovers is tough.

[Engadget]

At least for me. I'm fairly outgoing and pretty straightforward. If I get along with someone well enough, I'll just trade phone numbers or use Facebook, or whatever. If it's a potential date, I go about it in the usual ways.

 

However, whenever I come across a girl that I'm actually interested in, circumstances prevent me from acting on it. I posted before about the girlfriend of a guy I'm friends with (they broke up of course) and how she was the only girl I had met that I actually wanted to pursue. Usually I just forget about them and move on. Well "bro code" and all that, and not wanting to screw up friendships took precedence there.

 

Another friend in the same group had two girls drop by last night, and one I clicked with instantly. Unfortunately the other friend is into her, and I'm not going to pursue her now for that reason. She didn't seem like she was really into him from what I could tell by body language and her actions in general.

 

So I talked to her, she's a girl that reads actual books. This amazes me, finding a girl that does that is rare in my area. Cosmo would be the most difficult thing most of these girls read. She's also reading a massive novel too that I've also read, so we talked about that.

 

She's shy but we've talked online a couple times. Of course my friend thinks I'm trying to get with her, and she is attractive and without him being attached to her I absolutely would. She's gorgeous and we have a lot in common, so it wouldn't be a tough choice.

 

I guess we'll see. I am actually interested in her, but being friends to start will be fine. The other part that makes it difficult is women believing that sex is your only aim, and I'm sure that's what she's thinking since I contacted her.

 

I don't know. I'm going to stop rambling.

[purgatori]

Tell me about it. I've pretty much given up on entering into a romantic relationship with anyone (and I'm not sure it's even something I want, because the dynamics of hetero relationships don't really appeal to me), but I would like to have some girl-friends (friends who are girls ). It doesn't seem to matter how much I have in common with a girl though, or how well we seem to get-along; I just can't seem to form any kind of enduring friendship with her.