should I stop wearing perfume?

[midori]

I wouldn't go so far as to say that I'm allergic to perfume (although if I'm in an enclosed space, like an elevator, with someone who's wearing a strong perfume I will start to sneeze), certainly not deathly allergic. But I often find the scents people wear to be very overpowering and irritating. I think it's a function of how they apply it and how much they apply.

 

Patty, I dont' know what form your perfume comes in, but if it's something you spray or spritz, a good rule of thumb is to not spray it directly onto your skin or clothes, but instead to spray into the air directly in front of you, and then quickly walk into the perfume cloud you've just created. Repeat 1 time if necessary, but no more than that. You get an even distribution of the perfume that way, and it's not going to be overpowering.

 

As someone else has pointed out already, if you can still smell the perfume several minutes after you've applied it, you've got too much on. You don't wear perfume for you to smell throughout the day. It's supposed to be very subtle, and something that other people can just barely detect.

 

Regardless of this coworker's intentions and her history of picking on you Patty, if she can smell your perfume from a few feet away, I'd say it's too strong. If she's complaining to you only after getting very close to you and sniffing, then I agree that you should ignore her. But if that's not the case I think you ought to lay off the perfume. Perfume can be tricky and if you can't tell how much is enough, and how much is too much, then you should just avoid it. Just because someone isn't wheezing and being rushed to the hospital doesn't mean that they're not genuinely irritated by your perfume. Which is the exact opposite of the purpose of perfume!

[Patty]

spritz, a good rule of thumb is to not spray it directly onto your skin or clothes, but instead to spray into the air directly in front of you, and then quickly walk into the perfume cloud you've just created. Repeat 1 time if necessary, but no more than that. You get an even distribution of the perfume that way, and it's not going to be overpowering.

 

Wow,I never even thought of that.Thanks Midori,I will try that.That sounds like a good idea.It sounds like just the right amount.

 

 

 

Patty...if I were you, from now on I would just ignore this person...you say she always finds something to pick on you about. Next time she has a comment for you, say... "Were you a bully in High School too, or is this a recent thing?" Good luck.

 

I'll try that.Thanks for the advise.

 

Patty

[Nik2]

First of all if she is allergic to it she should have came right out and said that, did she?

Patty, don’t let her get at ya, its like corythosaurus said: Some people don’t know how to spend their time thinking of positive things rather they choose to make other people miserable because they themselves are.

 

I hate people like this. I quite a job a few years ago because of some a$$ hole doing just what this xxx is doing to you. Tell this demand she needs to spend more time working and maybe she wont notice such little things. I mean I could see if you were poring it on but if you’re just dabbing a little on like you say I don’t see the problem. I mean I would even understand if it annoys her but it sounds like she has a rude tone by the way you describe her. I mean she has no business complaining about your hair.

I mean the perfume I could understand if it makes her sick but not the hair.

[Dora]

"One's perfume, another's monoxide". [\b]

 

One of my coworkers wears perfume everyday, I hate it, but have never said a word about it. Since Office is not my private space! Only hope she knew the same. One day I was thinking if I could spray nasty-smelled bug killers all over around her desk..just let her know how exactly I felt about her perfum...

 

but all I do is to keep away from her as far as I can...and hold my breathe everytime she comes to talk to me...

[mfrmboy]

You could try not wearing it or only a very small amount and see what she says.

If she continues then you could try to kill her with kindness.

That blouse looks so good on you.

Have you lost weight.

You do catch more flys with honey than with salt.

That might take her by suprise.

[dyermaker]

Originally posted by mfrmboy

You do catch more flys with honey than with salt.

 

Big incentive.

[mfrmboy]

Well she's having problems with this chick and some folks tell her to spray perfume in her face or make nasty comments.

All that will do is cause more problems.

I say catch her off guard and try to make lite of the situation.

Hell it may even help smooth things over and stop all the negativity.

[dyermaker]

I know, it's good advice, I was just teasing you, like, "Yay! More flies!"

[mfrmboy]

LOL

dyer

[rep]

You have pictured this lady mean nasty picky....and others are blindly following your thoughts. I wish we could hear her voice.

 

She is hired not fired, then, she must have something much more than being mean and picky.

 

The problem here is not about your perfumes, it's about how you think about her and how she looks at you.

 

If she picks on everyone at office, then you shouldnt take so personal and be mad at her at all since that's how she is. but if she only picks on you, then, you should sit down and do some self-checking and see if her comments would help you improve yourself in some degrees.

 

Other coworkers might have trouble with you being slow, too. but to be polite, they dont tell you.

 

I would say, apprecite any comments she gives, at least she pays attention to you. Listen to her or not? yout freedom of choice.

[moimeme]

She is hired not fired, then, she must have something much more than being mean and picky.

 

Oh lord! Have you ever had a job? There are plenty of mean and picky people who are allowed to remain in their jobs. Besides, a person who chooses to pick on someone usually makes sure that nobody else will see.

 

I would say, apprecite any comments she gives, at least she pays attention to you.

 

?! That is just ridiculous. People who insult you and berate you are not welcome to do so just because they are 'paying attention'!

[Rep]

Originally posted by moimeme

She is hired not fired, then, she must have something much more than being mean and picky.

 

Oh lord! Have you ever had a job? There are plenty of mean and picky people who are allowed to remain in their jobs. Besides, a person who chooses to pick on someone usually makes sure that nobody else will see.

 

If She is not capable of her position, she wont be allowed to remain in her job unless her boss is an idiot. So learn from her capabilities

 

It cant be a secret if she picks on everyone.

 

Originally posted by moimeme

I would say, apprecite any comments she gives, at least she pays attention to you.

 

?! That is just ridiculous. People who insult you and berate you are not welcome to do so just because they are 'paying attention'!

 

Do you personally know her and have you heared what exatcly she said in what kind of circumstances?

 

I dont take one side story when it comes 2 women dislike each other. it's always more than what you heard.

 

Not every portraitist gives the best portrait. very possible she is not what she was pictured here. Telling the girl what this lady did was an insult is like pouring oil on the burning house, it's not going to improve their "Business relationship" only make it worse.

[amerikajin]

It depends on how much you're wearing, Patty.

 

As long as you're not pouring it on, I don't see what the problem is. I'd keep wearing it, but let her know that out of sensitivity to her you'll try to wear less of it. Compromise: the bedrock of human relationships.

[Aonz]

Less is more. In my opinion some women wear way too much perfume; you can sometimes smell them from across the room. But that’s just my opinion feel free to dismiss it.

[Dozy]

I'm glad I ran across this thread. I'm sitting 6 feet away from a colleague and her perfume is making my nose sting and my head ache. I'm going to try some of your advice and let's hope it works!