random.date Posted August 5, 2010 Posted August 5, 2010 It was a random date. We met on bus stop, I asked for direction, we had small chat and at the end she asked me for my number. I said ok, why not. I didnt expected anything. She seemed very keen to meet me so I didnt want to play hard to get and wait a day or two to call her back. I proposed immediately lets meet in the evening, have a couple of drinks and friendly chat to know each other. Everything went well. Both of us were relaxed, had a fun, and after 5 hours talking (which is rare, pretty much on the first date) I drove her back home. I even didnt expected kiss on the first date, because it was for me more friendly event than date. She ask me for goodnight kiss. I really enjoyed this evening and I felt attraction on both sides. Next day I send her flowers because I wanted to thank her for nice eve. Following that I have proposed to spend a day during next weekend in some interesting place together. She replies with text message she is so busy but she would definetely like to do it week after. Week after, I have tried to schedule some friendly chat again. She replied to late, after couple of hours "sorry, not interested". Fine. I appreciate she is honest. But I dont understand whats happend. Why she is so cold, why she change her mind ? All of these was initiated by her. I let it be and try to move on.
blueberries Posted August 5, 2010 Posted August 5, 2010 i thought what you did was very sweet. i love flowers!...however, i think you could've waited longer... sending flowers early on, just to say thank you and especially just after 1 date, is too much. and may be interpreted as desperation, coming on too strong, creepy etc. however, i think that if a girl was really really into a guy, she would appreciate it. either way, you didn't do anything wrong...you'll find someone who deserves those flowers
reservoirdog1 Posted August 5, 2010 Posted August 5, 2010 Flowers after one date was overkill, definitely. Whether or not she was into you enough to kiss you, the flowers signalled that you were WAY into her, and thus not a challenge. It sucks, but at least now you know. Take it as a dating lesson learned. On to the next one.
a_woman Posted August 5, 2010 Posted August 5, 2010 she had just broken up with someone and was looking for distraction
O'Malley Posted August 5, 2010 Posted August 5, 2010 Unfortunately, the first date just sealed for her that she wasn't interested in you romantically as she thought. Not a tremendous issue, but as other posters have suggested, save the flowers for further in the courtship process. It's great if someone already really likes you, but if they're uncertain/not so attracted, it won't make the impact you're hoping it will. The rest of your contact was fine...you win some, you lose some along the way.
lofi_tokyo Posted August 5, 2010 Posted August 5, 2010 I definitely think (like other posters are saying) that the flowers may have done you in. It sounds like things were quite casual, and flowers may be a bit too formal/romantic for how early it was in the relationship.
Author random.date Posted August 5, 2010 Author Posted August 5, 2010 Thanks all of you guys for advice/thoughts. All of you are right, it was too much and too soon. Flowers sounds little bit crazy, but I just did it because at that time I was really feeling something special, and inteded to do it little bit romantic, extraordinary, suprising. It was a mistake. The fact that it was totally random and unexpected seemed to me like sign in that time. Usually, it doesnt happen every day you meet somebody and you have this kind of special feeling. a good lesson...
bobdole Posted August 5, 2010 Posted August 5, 2010 Maybe your a bad kisser, atleast in her opinion, or you had garlic breath or something
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