lovehurts Posted February 13, 2004 Share Posted February 13, 2004 Please offer me some advice on my situation! Me and him were together for a year. It was fabulous! We both were very much in love. I love this guy with all of my heart, so so so much! I would do anything for him. Anyway, he broke up with me 2 months ago, saying that it wasnt working. I dont think you need more information than that! I did the stupid thing, begged, pleaded ect. It just pushed him away, eventhough I know how upset he was that we ended. I know he cares for me a great deal. A month ago, we started seeing each other again, he was putting in a lot of effort to see and talk to me. He was being gorgeous and we were having a great time. We have even been on a weekend away together, that he suggested! I am also seeing him on Valentines Day, spending the night. Now, I have become a little confused because in the past few days he has semed distant. My friends remind me how busy he is, which is very true but Im not sure if I have done something wrong. Since we started seeing each other he has contacted me everyday, but now its kind of tapered off. Only in the past two days. I know I may be being paranoid, because I knnow exactly how busy he is, its just a bit of a shock. Especially comparing it to the last couple of weeks. Now I want to know what I mean to him. Do you think this is a bit fast?? We have been doing this for a month now, and I just want to know where I stand. Is this right?? Does it sound like he is willing for me to be his girl again? How should I approach this? Thanks for your input. Link to post Share on other sites
befuddled11 Posted February 13, 2004 Share Posted February 13, 2004 So in the past month that the two of you have been "back together" of sorts, have you slept together? I ask because you mentioned that on Valentine's, you'll be spending the night. Just wondering the significance of you mentioning that (like, will this be the first time you spend the night together since you 2 were in a relationship back then). I would DEFINITELY not bring up the topic of "what do I mean to you?" at this stage of the game. It could scare him right off. Maybe he feels that things are moving too quickly and he's backing off because he's scared? Is there any info you can share re: why he broke up with you initially, because knowing that could have some impact on maybe why he's acting the way he is now. ?? Link to post Share on other sites
caretoomuch Posted February 13, 2004 Share Posted February 13, 2004 Talk to him about why it has tapered off in the last few days. the biggest problems in relationships is lack of communication. You are sitting there thinking there is a problem when there may not be one - ask him is there a problem - then you will know and can base your decisions on fact not misunderstandings or unknowns. It is the decisions we make on these unknowns that causes problems in relationships - talk to him. Link to post Share on other sites
Author lovehurts Posted February 18, 2004 Author Share Posted February 18, 2004 Yes, we have been sleeping together, for 4-5 weeks now. When we started seeing each other for the first times again, I knew that he wanted me around, I knew because everything was cute again, i think you know what I mean. We went away for the weekend together and after that it seemed to change a little. Now its hard for me, because I dont know whether to reach for his hand when we are walking down the street or cuddle him whenever I want to. It seems he has put up a guard towards me, like he isnt letting himself in too deep. Thats exactly what it feels like. We will have special moments and I know I make him happy, but its like hes not letting himself fall. Maybe he has gotten bored of it?? Doesnt feel that way for me!?! I dont know Or I let him have me back too easily - I did play hard to get and didnt put all of my trust in him but I have spent most weekends with him, for one night. We had a situation the other day when we were driving back to his house, his ex, who caused us a lot of problems during our relationship was waiting for him at his front door. I was instantly upset and didnt quite know what to do, so I dropped him off and left. He assured me that he didnt know that she was dropping by and apologised cos he knows how hurt and uneasy I was. Im confused about what he wants from me. He knows I love him, so there is no point in telling him. Im not sure what to do. This coming weekend I am supposed to be going with him to a festival in his home town, Im not sure if I should or not. I would really like to go with him, but I DONT KNOW!! if I should wait it out and put space between us again. PLEASE HELP!!!! There is only so much pain a person can take Please guys, what do you think is best in my situation??? Link to post Share on other sites
Pretteangel Posted February 20, 2004 Share Posted February 20, 2004 I have a questions for you......why are you not asking HIM these questions? You can't expect people on this board here to guess around. Why would you be so stressed out like this? Sit down and talk to him and ask him straight questions! He will answer you and you will know, it is that simple. I donot understand how anyone can have a healthy relationship without healthy comminication. It is beyond me. Good Luck! Link to post Share on other sites
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