Parents: What did you worry about?

[tigressA]

I'm only 23 years old and am not considering having kids anytime soon (heck, not considering even having a committed relationship anytime soon) but I have thought about it a lot. I realize I am worried about a lot of things. Well, basically, everything. I don't know if I ever want to have kids because of all the things I internally freak out over. The pregnancy. The birth. The upbringing. Everything.

 

So parents/parents-to-be, just out of curiosity: What did you worry about in terms of having kids when you were at a life stage similar to mine? Did things turn out differently than what you thought?

[Tayla]

Most parents concerns are"

1: Have I raised them with manners and regard for life

2: WIll I make the decisions right for them and not impose my personal desires to overshadow their rights as an individual.

3: Will I love them enough to let them grow

4: What health issues will they have and have I taken care of them during such?

5: What spirtual faith will I raise them with?...Seriously some parents really battle that one out...

6: Economically have I've given them what is necessary ...food clothing, shelter, medical aid, family time ( cant buy that back!)

7: Pregnancy wise....Gosh...what will the birth be like ? Breastfeed or bottle? What genetic history may this child inherit?

8: Have I disciplined them in a manner that was done with love and not with punishment?

9: Will they be safe in this age and time?

10: Have I taught them to be a contributing member of a charitable group? Learning to be "A PART" of something....( good for social and interactive group)

 

Mostly your concern in the end will be...How did they evolve in to the responsible productive happy Healthy adult you wished for them all along....

[sb129]

I worried about EVERYTHING! But probably not at 23, more like when I had met my husband and the possibility of having children was more of a reality.

 

I have one daughter who is nearly 10mths old and now I am freaking out about having another one because I can't imagine having enough spare time to fit another child in. But people do, so...

 

Pregnancy isn't so bad. Your body knows what to do and it does it- we have good medical care in most countries, so luckily I didn't have to worry on that count.

Labour and birth- same thing, my body just went into this kind of zone and did its thing, I had no control over it it just happened and there was no time to get worried or freaked out.

 

Then when you have a baby, a fair amount of instinct takes over.

 

Its not "easy" but people either forget or don't take into account all the good things about having children. There are so many rewards that make up for (and then some) the difficult parts.