Long and true how my wife broke my heart

[harryxiv]

Hi everyone,

 

This is going to be a long story of when my wife cheated on me with a co-worker last year and the affair they had that lasted over a year. I had become suspicious the day I logged on to our bank account, she had changed her password to her own credit card. I had bought spy software to record everything she typed and ended up getting her password to her credit card. That day when I seen the charge she made to a motel 6 I wanted to end my life that's how hurt I was. Never in my wildest dreams would I have thought she would do something like that. She scorned at people she heard would cheat on their partner even worse when she would here it was with someone they worked with. When I confronted her I was in tears I could hardly speak she thought I was in pain from surgery I had a few years back that would still come back and bring me lots of pain. To top it off she left our kids alone that day for an hour to be with him. I worked during the day and she worked grave yard so one of us could be with the kids and their would only be a 1hr gap in the morning.

 

She didn't even cry when I confronted her, that should of told me something. We had shared a phone plan together so I could see who she was calling and up into that day his number never showed up until a couple weeks after they were together. I was willing to forgive her because I loved her so much. Well it got worse and I knew it probably would when she got her own phone line, I knew what was coming I was just in denial. I had Dr. appointments as I was in and out of the hospital for my pains and at times she wouldn't answer the phone because she was on the other line with him while driving to work. I would have painful procedures while she made excuses to stay home then sneak off with him.

 

I had enough so I threatened to leave her and she begged me to stay, to give her time and me being the sucker I gave her time. I couldn't deal with it I couldn't deal with the fact she would see him almost everyday at work. I wanted to get at him in the worst way, I called their work and left messages with their coworkers to stay away from my wife, to leave my family alone.

 

Well it got worse and we ended up separating and she moved out. I thought getting out and dating would help me get over her, to get over the hurt but it didn't. She found out I was dating so she took me aside to tell me it was too soon and that we shouldn't bring anyone around our kids and I had agreed. No sooner that two weeks later he was dropping of his kids for her to watch. Well I found out and the thought of him just being around my kids made me snap. I didn't want that piece of **** around my children, they hated him even though they didn't know him because of what had happened. They blamed her but I didn't want them mad at her and would never say nasty things about her in front of them. I was so hurt when I found out and was crying to her telling her why would she torment me that way. That I was still in love with her and couldn't and didn't want to live without her. She didn't want me by myself so she offered me to go pick up my oldest so that we could hang out together.

 

Well I ended up going later in the day to pick him up and when I did he was pulling up to pick up his kid. She went outside and yelled for him to come in her apartment and locked the door but like I said the thought of him by my children just made me snap. I kicked her door down and she tried to stop me but I got at him and I ended up in jail for putting a beating on him. That was the last straw, I told myself I needed to get away from her to stay away from her.

 

After the custody battle I ended up winning my kids back after the judge heard how she abandoned them to be a whore. I was getting my life back, I was gaining back the 45lbs I had lost. I stopped seeing the woman I was dating because I wanted to focus my attention to my children and try and make up the time I had missed them. They are my world and I figured that yes I was hurting but I could not imagine how they were feeling seeing her with a stranger and not being able to see me. Her family was torn about what she was doing. Yes they loved her that was blood but they new how terrible it must have been for me. They would call me to comfort me, to help me out with anything I needed. Her mother dis-owned her and to this day wants nothing to do with her.

 

Where I think everything changed was the day I stopped talking to her. If it had nothing to do with the kids then I would walk away, when she would text I wouldn't respond unless it was about the kids. She brought him around me again one more time, I think to see how I would react to see if I would blow up again but I didn't. She came up to me and wanted to talk to me to see how I was while he was getting my kids in her car. I rolled up the window put on my shades and I bounced. I was very proud of myself, I was proud of how I took it. Deep inside I was still hurting because I was still in love but I had to tell myself to stop and this time I was able to control it.

 

One day I had to call her to pick up our kids swim clothes and she met me at our exchange site. She cried and told me she never wanted to hurt me. To this day I have no idea how she thought it wasn't going to hurt. That she never wanted a relationship with him that she was lost and didn't know what was going on with her life. We ended up hugging and I left it at that for a couple of weeks. I called her and invited her for lunch just to talk about the kids and see what they needed, clothes, school supplies etc.... Yhea I paid child support but that didn't mean I was not responsible for making sure they had everything they needed.

 

Well that's when she dropped the bomb on me, that she had broken it off for good. That she didn't break up to get back with me, that she broke up because she wanted to be my friend and she knew as long as I was with him that would never happen. As time went on we talked more, we did more things with the kids. I had a trip to Disneyland booked for me and the kids and she was hurt because we always loved going on trips together. So I invited her and got a room next to ours so the doors could open between both rooms. Us boys stayed together and the girls stayed in the other. We never held hands, or kissed. We were there for the kids to have fun and boy did we ever! The week after we got back she asked me out for a date and I accepted. We went to a comedy show then we went to see a movie. We ended up back at her place and right before I left she asked if I wanted to stay the night and go home in the morning. As I was going to the couch she grabbed my hand and the rest is history.

 

We dated for 4 months before she moved back in and she tells me still to this day how much she missed me. That it was the biggest mistake of her life. She tells me she loves me everyday, she cuddles with me, she seems like a totally different woman. Although she has no idea I still know her phone passwords and she has never text him or called him. He tried last Thanksgiving to call her but she never returned the text. She calls me from the mall when she goes and I don't even ask her too. He ended up getting fired for all of this and that was great to hear.

 

Sorry for the long story, I have never told it and maybe it will help me with my healing because I still think about it. I still remember the explicit text messages I found of her and him talking about what they had did together, things she never did with me. It still hurts sometimes, I get thoughts in my mind. I want this man to one day get hurt worse than I did. To end up in pain for the rest of his life and suffer and have God forgive him because I never will! Does anyone have any suggestions to be able to cope during my tough times?

[U2RockZz]

if it's true.......then i would say you are stupid to get back with her......no man in right frame of mind would get back with the evil bitch she is.....why are you blaming him anyways....she is the one did it to you not once , but time and again.....yet you are still there like love sick puppy.......

[Gfkr2]

I was chocked up reading the first half of your post,. That is a very sad story, friend. Then, I read the second portion of hour post and wonder WTF you are doing. This woman is a master manipulator and unrepentant cheater. Let me repeat this again, This woman is a master manipulator and unrepentant cheater.

 

You made a huge mistake even thinking to take this POS back after what she did to you and your children. What on earth were you thinking? You have become HER doormat doomed to spend your days serving this immensely selfish and untruthful woman. SHE alone s responsible for your situation, not you. You are wrong to put most of the blame on the OM, too. He is a bit player in this game.

 

You must think about what is best for you. Get out. Get out now. There will be many other here who will post with the same message. You would be wise to listen. Good luck.

Edited August 9, 2010 by Gfkr2

[Bitterman24/7]

Hi everyone,

 

This is going to be a long story of when my wife cheated on me with a co-worker last year and the affair they had that lasted over a year. I had become suspicious the day I logged on to our bank account, she had changed her password to her own credit card. I had bought spy software to record everything she typed and ended up getting her password to her credit card. That day when I seen the charge she made to a motel 6 I wanted to end my life that's how hurt I was. Never in my wildest dreams would I have thought she would do something like that. She scorned at people she heard would cheat on their partner even worse when she would here it was with someone they worked with. When I confronted her I was in tears I could hardly speak she thought I was in pain from surgery I had a few years back that would still come back and bring me lots of pain. To top it off she left our kids alone that day for an hour to be with him. I worked during the day and she worked grave yard so one of us could be with the kids and their would only be a 1hr gap in the morning.

 

She didn't even cry when I confronted her, that should of told me something. We had shared a phone plan together so I could see who she was calling and up into that day his number never showed up until a couple weeks after they were together. I was willing to forgive her because I loved her so much. Well it got worse and I knew it probably would when she got her own phone line, I knew what was coming I was just in denial. I had Dr. appointments as I was in and out of the hospital for my pains and at times she wouldn't answer the phone because she was on the other line with him while driving to work. I would have painful procedures while she made excuses to stay home then sneak off with him.

 

I had enough so I threatened to leave her and she begged me to stay, to give her time and me being the sucker I gave her time. I couldn't deal with it I couldn't deal with the fact she would see him almost everyday at work. I wanted to get at him in the worst way, I called their work and left messages with their coworkers to stay away from my wife, to leave my family alone.

 

Well it got worse and we ended up separating and she moved out. I thought getting out and dating would help me get over her, to get over the hurt but it didn't. She found out I was dating so she took me aside to tell me it was too soon and that we shouldn't bring anyone around our kids and I had agreed. No sooner that two weeks later he was dropping of his kids for her to watch. Well I found out and the thought of him just being around my kids made me snap. I didn't want that piece of **** around my children, they hated him even though they didn't know him because of what had happened. They blamed her but I didn't want them mad at her and would never say nasty things about her in front of them. I was so hurt when I found out and was crying to her telling her why would she torment me that way. That I was still in love with her and couldn't and didn't want to live without her. She didn't want me by myself so she offered me to go pick up my oldest so that we could hang out together.

 

Well I ended up going later in the day to pick him up and when I did he was pulling up to pick up his kid. She went outside and yelled for him to come in her apartment and locked the door but like I said the thought of him by my children just made me snap. I kicked her door down and she tried to stop me but I got at him and I ended up in jail for putting a beating on him. That was the last straw, I told myself I needed to get away from her to stay away from her.

 

After the custody battle I ended up winning my kids back after the judge heard how she abandoned them to be a whore. I was getting my life back, I was gaining back the 45lbs I had lost. I stopped seeing the woman I was dating because I wanted to focus my attention to my children and try and make up the time I had missed them. They are my world and I figured that yes I was hurting but I could not imagine how they were feeling seeing her with a stranger and not being able to see me. Her family was torn about what she was doing. Yes they loved her that was blood but they new how terrible it must have been for me. They would call me to comfort me, to help me out with anything I needed. Her mother dis-owned her and to this day wants nothing to do with her.

 

Where I think everything changed was the day I stopped talking to her. If it had nothing to do with the kids then I would walk away, when she would text I wouldn't respond unless it was about the kids. She brought him around me again one more time, I think to see how I would react to see if I would blow up again but I didn't. She came up to me and wanted to talk to me to see how I was while he was getting my kids in her car. I rolled up the window put on my shades and I bounced. I was very proud of myself, I was proud of how I took it. Deep inside I was still hurting because I was still in love but I had to tell myself to stop and this time I was able to control it.

 

One day I had to call her to pick up our kids swim clothes and she met me at our exchange site. She cried and told me she never wanted to hurt me. To this day I have no idea how she thought it wasn't going to hurt. That she never wanted a relationship with him that she was lost and didn't know what was going on with her life. We ended up hugging and I left it at that for a couple of weeks. I called her and invited her for lunch just to talk about the kids and see what they needed, clothes, school supplies etc.... Yhea I paid child support but that didn't mean I was not responsible for making sure they had everything they needed.

 

Well that's when she dropped the bomb on me, that she had broken it off for good. That she didn't break up to get back with me, that she broke up because she wanted to be my friend and she knew as long as I was with him that would never happen. As time went on we talked more, we did more things with the kids. I had a trip to Disneyland booked for me and the kids and she was hurt because we always loved going on trips together. So I invited her and got a room next to ours so the doors could open between both rooms. Us boys stayed together and the girls stayed in the other. We never held hands, or kissed. We were there for the kids to have fun and boy did we ever! The week after we got back she asked me out for a date and I accepted. We went to a comedy show then we went to see a movie. We ended up back at her place and right before I left she asked if I wanted to stay the night and go home in the morning. As I was going to the couch she grabbed my hand and the rest is history.

 

We dated for 4 months before she moved back in and she tells me still to this day how much she missed me. That it was the biggest mistake of her life. She tells me she loves me everyday, she cuddles with me, she seems like a totally different woman. Although she has no idea I still know her phone passwords and she has never text him or called him. He tried last Thanksgiving to call her but she never returned the text. She calls me from the mall when she goes and I don't even ask her too. He ended up getting fired for all of this and that was great to hear.

 

Sorry for the long story, I have never told it and maybe it will help me with my healing because I still think about it. I still remember the explicit text messages I found of her and him talking about what they had did together, things she never did with me. It still hurts sometimes, I get thoughts in my mind. I want this man to one day get hurt worse than I did. To end up in pain for the rest of his life and suffer and have God forgive him because I never will! Does anyone have any suggestions to be able to cope during my tough times?

 

Wow. That was one sad story, and that is one unremorseful person you have. She didn't even cry? Well, thats a normal response for all WS. In my opinion, if you're willing to try to heal then you need to minimize contact with your ex-w (I assume, but correct me if i'm wrong) to the point where you guys only talk concerning the kids. This is what happens when WS realize the damage of what they done, and by then its too late for them to even try to be sorry for what they did. You need to heal and you have been through a lot, so in order to that you need to do a lot of things for yourself that you never got the chance to do.

[Gfkr2]

Ignore the cuddles, hugs and tears.

 

She is NOT a different person

 

The evil manipulator is within her and WILL rip your heart out of your chest given the opportunity.

[Bitterman24/7]

Please reconsider your decision for taking her back. Even if she is remorseful, its too late for her to recognize what she did. Please stop seeing her and find someone else.

[InceptorsRule]

I want this man to one day get hurt worse than I did.

 

Sounds like you are not nearly through processing this whole thing. Look inward.

[lbm74]

Wow. It sounds like you are putting the full blame on the OM. I don't blame you for hating the scum, but the old saying is right, it takes 2 to tango. I am sure you expected the attacks here with your story and the way it ended-very unexpected. I am sure it must "feel like old times" being back with the mother of your children and all, but if that is truly the decision you are thinking of making, then both of you better be in some serious counselling. Neither of you are over this, and while she seems true to you now, what is going to stop her from doing this again? What led her to do this in the first place?

[confusedinkansas]

You took her back. You believe her (for the most part) Why question it now?

Contrary to what many think here in LS ~ PEOPLE CHANGE. It happens every single day.

[bentnotbroken]

I pray you went into this with your eyes wide open . You are a better person than I am. I couldn't go back to her after all she did to you. For your children's sake, please make sure counseling is something you all do.

[Doing it Since '78]

I smell a troll- Why are you paying child support after the judge gave you full custody? C'MON SON!

[Gfkr2]

I smell a troll- Why are you paying child support after the judge gave you full custody? C'MON SON!

 

I saw that one.. a tall tale?

[JustJoe]

Nice catch, 78. This is undoubtedly trollish.

[harryxiv]

No not a troll, story is absolutley true. After I got arrested she put a restraining order on me and took the kids away. That was an easy one for the courts. She wanted to send them to child care but I had gotten laid off from work. I had no choice but to fight for my kids and plea to the judge that all I wanted was my kids back. God answered my prayer and the judge gave them to me everyday after school until 6:30pm. That way she could save money and I could save money but that was going to be my last chance to prove to family court I was going to stop my jealous rage.

 

Yes we did the counseling part even the kids had their own therapist. We had found out that our middle child was falling off the top bunk on purpose so he could get hurt, that way he could get us together and maybe we would get back together. That broke our hearts, especially me. How could I have been so selfish thinking about my feelings being hurt and I had forgoten how our kids must of felt through all of this. I needed to be there for them no matter how much it hurt me.

 

I still have thoughts of what happened and going through therapy has helped me so much. I hope it has for her but I tell you she's a different person. For better or worse right? Well it was worse and I remembered my vows no matter how people think or how people think she didn't. I'm the better person and I really believe she has changed. She is not the same person anymore. She has changed for the better, our kids are very happy and she is all about family now. She says she was lost, she still cries to me how much she loves me and how sorry she is but I just want to get passed this and be stronger together.

[Darth Vader]

No not a troll, story is absolutley true. After I got arrested she put a restraining order on me and took the kids away. That was an easy one for the courts. She wanted to send them to child care but I had gotten laid off from work. I had no choice but to fight for my kids and plea to the judge that all I wanted was my kids back. God answered my prayer and the judge gave them to me everyday after school until 6:30pm. That way she could save money and I could save money but that was going to be my last chance to prove to family court I was going to stop my jealous rage.

 

Yes we did the counseling part even the kids had their own therapist. We had found out that our middle child was falling off the top bunk on purpose so he could get hurt, that way he could get us together and maybe we would get back together. That broke our hearts, especially me. How could I have been so selfish thinking about my feelings being hurt and I had forgoten how our kids must of felt through all of this. I needed to be there for them no matter how much it hurt me.

 

I still have thoughts of what happened and going through therapy has helped me so much. I hope it has for her but I tell you she's a different person. For better or worse right? Well it was worse and I remembered my vows no matter how people think or how people think she didn't. I'm the better person and I really believe she has changed. She is not the same person anymore. She has changed for the better, our kids are very happy and she is all about family now. She says she was lost, she still cries to me how much she loves me and how sorry she is but I just want to get passed this and be stronger together.

 

You don't seem to realize that this woman hasn't paid any consequenses for straddling her OM and riding him like a bucking bronco! She also cheated on your kids as well! And caused all of your pain and her childrens pain too, my God, man! Why subject your children, let alone yourself to that cheating whore of a Bitch again! Once was too much, you almost suicided from it and you're letting her get away with it? Like HELL if it were me! There'd be NO WAY IN HELL I'd take that, but to cause your own children to have to accept her after all the HELL she put them through is even worse! Do you realize that your children ARE PAYING FOR WHAT YOUR WIFE DID WITH ANOTHER MAN AND WILL PAY FOR THE REST OF THEIR LIVES! IT WON'T EVER STOP!

 

Don't take this whatever back, drop her ass!

 

BTW, nothing on you, but COME ON MAN! You know you're better than that! I know you are! Move on without her!

Edited August 9, 2010 by Darth Vader

[harryxiv]

You know you guys are right, what the **** am I doing? Who am I kidding? I go to domestic violence classes even though I never touched her. DA was a woman and the first judge I got in criminal court was a woman, they wanted to take the kids away from me for what I had done. I pleaded not guilty and plea bargined for the 52 week class, 3yrs probation, and 20hrs of community service to the trial judge who didn't want to interfere with what family court had already established. Our sex life was great right after we got back together but lately its back to the same crap. You know if you have more pillows on your bed than you have sex in a month that sucks ass. I got to get out, I've been fighting this feeling of leaving and just cutting my losses. I'm not a bad looking dude well I don't think I am haha. I have many friends that wanted to hook me up right after but I think I need to go solo for a while, get my life back together. Show her what she missed out on and she will probably end up alone like her father is. He's a piece of **** who cheated on her mom all the time and even brought her herpes. Yes I've been checked twice for STD's. Once for the basic things and then 6 months later to check for hiv which thank God was all negative.

 

I need to talk with an attorney regarding leaving her and dealing with all the kids stuff. I went at it alone last time and that was not the way to go but when your living off of unemploymet I didn't have any choice.

[Darth Vader]

You know you guys are right, what the **** am I doing? Who am I kidding? I go to domestic violence classes even though I never touched her. DA was a woman and the first judge I got in criminal court was a woman, they wanted to take the kids away from me for what I had done. I pleaded not guilty and plea bargined for the 52 week class, 3yrs probation, and 20hrs of community service to the trial judge who didn't want to interfere with what family court had already established. Our sex life was great right after we got back together but lately its back to the same crap. You know if you have more pillows on your bed than you have sex in a month that sucks ass. I got to get out, I've been fighting this feeling of leaving and just cutting my losses. I'm not a bad looking dude well I don't think I am haha. I have many friends that wanted to hook me up right after but I think I need to go solo for a while, get my life back together. Show her what she missed out on and she will probably end up alone like her father is. He's a piece of **** who cheated on her mom all the time and even brought her herpes. Yes I've been checked twice for STD's. Once for the basic things and then 6 months later to check for hiv which thank God was all negative.

 

I need to talk with an attorney regarding leaving her and dealing with all the kids stuff. I went at it alone last time and that was not the way to go but when your living off of unemploymet I didn't have any choice.

 

 

Welcome to the anger stage:eek:! Anyway, you didn't remarry her, did you? Please say that you didn't! Hey, men have the right to change their mind too, they just don't do it as often!

 

In any case, yeah, get a Very Good Divorce Lawyer and go for it ALL! The house, cars, coustody of the children. Make sure that your Lawyer knows to make note to the Judge that the STBX-Hex, I mean EX, ABANDONED the children to go screw her OM!

 

I'm very proud of you, young Skywalker!:cool: The Force is strong with you!:cool: Just when I was starting to wonder, what the HELL is he thinking?......... Anyway, we're here for you, keep us posted! Oh! To be a fly on the wall tonight!

[spriggig]

I think I actually saw him turn on a dime.

[Chrome Barracuda]

If your divorced you dont have to put up with anything she does or doesnt do. She's not your wife anymore. You gotta realize that person that ruined your life, never went away, she made the choices to hurt you. That you have to accept but now that you did what do you plan on doing about it?

 

Are you gonna reconcisle knowing she did what she did, can you forgive her for putting your through hell, has she gone through hell gaining your trust back.

 

Or would you like to move on, the choice is yours.

[harryxiv]

She stopped the divorce in January so were still married. I'm done and today when she got back from work she got on the kids for stupid $hit. I have today off and she got on me for not folding the clothes and I had it. Let me see I tend to my yard, clean the house, do the laundry, take and pick up the kids from school and because the laundry was not folded she was upset. Hmmmm I'm sure I'll find a woman that will treat me like her king as I will my queen. Tomorrow I'm going to file for divorce and pack my **** and go. I had bought a king size bed when she moved out and I'm taking my baby with me. She can sleep on the floor like the dog she is. I'm tired of this feeling and this was the perfect forum to put me over the edge. My family wants me away from her but I was trying really trying to put this back together but it's not going to happen. She can go back with the f-en loser and be miserable. Funny how is last name is "Moran" (not a joke). It will be Mr. and Mrs. Moran lol!

 

It's going to hurt my kids for a while but I'm sure they are will be ok and dad will be there for them whenever they need me. I bought my oldest a cell phone today so I can talk with them when they are away.

[bentnotbroken]

The children are the most important here. This isn't a healthy relationship that they need to see and emulate somewhere down the road. You see it on here all the time, people who saw too much mess growing and then spreading the same crap to others.

[Darth Vader]

She stopped the divorce in January so were still married. I'm done and today when she got back from work she got on the kids for stupid $hit. I have today off and she got on me for not folding the clothes and I had it. Let me see I tend to my yard, clean the house, do the laundry, take and pick up the kids from school and because the laundry was not folded she was upset. Hmmmm I'm sure I'll find a woman that will treat me like her king as I will my queen. Tomorrow I'm going to file for divorce and pack my **** and go. I had bought a king size bed when she moved out and I'm taking my baby with me. She can sleep on the floor like the dog she is. I'm tired of this feeling and this was the perfect forum to put me over the edge. My family wants me away from her but I was trying really trying to put this back together but it's not going to happen. She can go back with the f-en loser and be miserable. Funny how is last name is "Moran" (not a joke). It will be Mr. and Mrs. Moran lol!

 

It's going to hurt my kids for a while but I'm sure they are will be ok and dad will be there for them whenever they need me. I bought my oldest a cell phone today so I can talk with them when they are away.

 

 

DON'T YOU DARE LEAVE THAT HOUSE! SHE CHEATED, SHE LEAVES! Do you realize that if you were to leave, she'll go for abandonment and end up with sole custody of the children!? You'll pay through your ass for her cheating for the rest of your life! You don't want to pay her lots of money like that! Dump her **** out on the lawn and tell her to get out! See where I'm coming from?! She wants you to leave, spin it on to her! Remember, SHE LEAVES! Not you! Now get it done Right!

[Bitterman24/7]

She stopped the divorce in January so were still married. I'm done and today when she got back from work she got on the kids for stupid $hit. I have today off and she got on me for not folding the clothes and I had it. Let me see I tend to my yard, clean the house, do the laundry, take and pick up the kids from school and because the laundry was not folded she was upset. Hmmmm I'm sure I'll find a woman that will treat me like her king as I will my queen. Tomorrow I'm going to file for divorce and pack my **** and go. I had bought a king size bed when she moved out and I'm taking my baby with me. She can sleep on the floor like the dog she is. I'm tired of this feeling and this was the perfect forum to put me over the edge. My family wants me away from her but I was trying really trying to put this back together but it's not going to happen. She can go back with the f-en loser and be miserable. Funny how is last name is "Moran" (not a joke). It will be Mr. and Mrs. Moran lol!

 

It's going to hurt my kids for a while but I'm sure they are will be ok and dad will be there for them whenever they need me. I bought my oldest a cell phone today so I can talk with them when they are away.

 

Darth Vader is right. You need to take her **** and send it to the front door and change the locks. Don't even listen to her ranting. Tell her to deal with the clothes if she has a ****ty attitude about it. Don't back down because she gets angry. Just stay calm, see your attorney, protect your assets/valuables and get the hell out of there.

[Gfkr2]

DON'T YOU DARE LEAVE THAT HOUSE! SHE CHEATED, SHE LEAVES! Do you realize that if you were to leave, she'll go for abandonment and end up with sole custody of the children!? You'll pay through your ass for her cheating for the rest of your life! You don't want to pay her lots of money like that! Dump her **** out on the lawn and tell her to get out! See where I'm coming from?! She wants you to leave, spin it on to her! Remember, SHE LEAVES! Not you! Now get it done Right!

 

A good idea, but obviously the cheating wife has no reason to leave. He can't force her out IF she refuses to leave, hence the dilemma often faced in this type situation.

[Bitterman24/7]

A good idea, but obviously the cheating wife has no reason to leave. He can't force her out IF she refuses to leave, hence the dilemma often faced in this type situation.

 

She doesn't need a reason because she IS the reason. He can still force her out whether she refuses or not, but yes, sometimes it depends on which state you live in. But if she refuses he still shouldn't leave the house. He should stand his ground regardless.