Walker Posted February 14, 2004 Share Posted February 14, 2004 Ive been it a roller coaster of a relationship for about 2 1/2 yrs and I just dont know what to make of it. I want so badly to make it work but I cant figure out how. Im to the point now I want to move on but Im so attached Im not sure if its because weve be together for so long if I really love her. How do u know if its worth working on or if ur wasting ur time. Thanks Walker Link to post Share on other sites
spencer Posted February 15, 2004 Share Posted February 15, 2004 Well Walker, this is what I think in general, not knowing much about your particular situation. 1. Has the relationship become more difficult to maintain. 2. Only one of you is working towards common goals. 3. Your times together are more painfull than pleasurable. 4. do you find yourself avoiding her to get some peace. 5. is the relationship stressing you out. These are good indicators to get out. Ask your siblings or parents or close friends for honest advice, they can give you perspective with how you are in this relationship. They will notice if you have been a happier person since you have been seeing this woman or if you have been "not quite yourself" lately. Listen to their insight, it's usually very valuable. People who love you can tell whether or not this is going to work. I know they can in my family. you said "I want so badly to make it work but I cant figure out how" It might be because you can't. However a therapist can help you figure this out. good luck I wish you the best. Link to post Share on other sites
Pretteangel Posted February 16, 2004 Share Posted February 16, 2004 You already know! Follow your heart. The question should be "WHY ARE YOU IN THIS REALTIONSHIP IF IT IS NOT GOOD? It starts with YOU! Link to post Share on other sites
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